As a woman, how important/essential is it to “marry up”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My family was / is UMC so I had no desire to marry up, I was more than comfortable.

But dicc do you marry someone who was also UMC ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My family was / is UMC so I had no desire to marry up, I was more than comfortable.

But dicc do you marry someone who was also UMC ?

I did not, he came from a poor family and was the first to go to college.

[Anonymous]

Men should always marry up. Men should never meet down. When a man marries up, following a divorce he is less likely to pay alimony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men should always marry up. Men should never meet down. When a man marries up, following a divorce he is less likely to pay alimony.

Well, shouldn't he actually receive alimony in that case? Being married to a richer woman should not leave him destitute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men should always marry up. Men should never meet down. When a man marries up, following a divorce he is less likely to pay alimony.

Well, shouldn't he actually receive alimony in that case? Being married to a richer woman should not leave him destitute.

Believe or not a lot of men due to pride will forgo alimony in these cases

[Anonymous]

The best marriage is between two relatively equal people who both think that they married up

[Anonymous]

What's your definition of marry up?

You should never marry a person you don't think is a completely wonderful person you're lucky to have.

If you're talking about family money, ugh. I married someone who was the first person in his family to attend college. If you'd hold that against him, you're not the kind of person I'd want anything to do with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was pretty low down on my list, but I think part of that is because I was in a good position to find an equal. I didn't really have a desire to "marry up".

+1. I never even thought about that concept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best marriage is between two relatively equal people who both think that they married up

Unquestionably, this.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I were of mostly equal wealthy back grounds when we met. Hence how we met.

[Anonymous]

It's important to me. I came from nothing.

[Anonymous]

My husband “married up” and he’d be the first one to tell you that this is a stupid reason to get married.

No one knows more than me that if he didn’t like me, he’d be long gone by now.

This is common actually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Best to marry your equal.

Not exact equal but similar tier.

What would be a similar tier?

[Anonymous]

Marrying across the median is far far better for society overall. The ugly rich should marry the poor beautiful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's best to marry an equal who thinks he's marrying up.

This^