Did I blow a shot to be invited to join Congressional?

[Anonymous]

My guess is if you are still friends with these people and you're interested you could reach out now to see if you could start the process.

[Anonymous]

Sigh. This is what happens when those who haven’t been tapped for a society or punched for a final club are let loose upon proper society.

[Anonymous]

My cousin is a member at Congressional. He has to spend a certain amount per month or per year on buying food and alcohol there or he just loses the money. That's probably what was going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My spouse and I were invited to a couple of events by a member at Congressional a few years ago. I can't remember specifically what they were but they were events definitely catered to younger folks, people our age (we were early 30s at the time). Had fun, met some nice people, secretly rolled our eyes a lot, had fun afterwards at the expense of some of the typical silly people you find at these things, etc. I didn't think anything of it at the time other than it was nice to be invited to spend a couple evenings in an exclusive club like this. Now, because anxiety, I have started to wonder if those invitations were not sort of trial runs to evaluate us as potential new members. We both dressed appropriately, thanked our hosts often, we both grew up in "polite society" to some degree so we know how to act in country clubs, for example. So don't know how we may have behaved differently had we known we were being evaluated but I'm sure something would have been different. Actually, I probably wouldn't have gone anywhere near the dancefloor, that's one thing that comes to mind LOL. Is this how young, new members are recruited to clubs? Financially, we aren't exactly Congressional material and doubt we could have afforded the initiation fees but I can't help but wonder if we would have figured out a way to make it work if we were actually invited to join.

Anyway, this post is clearly pointless but I am still curious if this process sounds familiar to anyone who is indeed a member.

Secretly rolled your eyes? Had fun at the expense of silly people?

You’re a jerk, and such a fake. Glad you re not at our country club.

[Anonymous]

There are people on earth eating dirt and grass for supper, & you’re sweating over maybe showing a little too much leg on the dance floor at a golf club years ago—when you don’t play golf & couldn’t afford it anyway?

Why don’t you just fret over blowing your chance to marry Tom Brady despite having lived in the same time zone as he has for the past 25 years?

[Anonymous]

Since OP mentioned she is in therapy, I think this is just an example of how therapy can lead one to look back at various experiences and explore them for meanings and implications that didn't register at the time. Nothing wrong with that.
And sometimes wondering about a past experience come up just by happenstance. Nothing wrong with that either.
No need for mean remarks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since OP mentioned she is in therapy, I think this is just an example of how therapy can lead one to look back at various experiences and explore them for meanings and implications that didn't register at the time. Nothing wrong with that.
And sometimes wondering about a past experience come up just by happenstance. Nothing wrong with that either.
No need for mean remarks.

But she’s so poor…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since OP mentioned she is in therapy, I think this is just an example of how therapy can lead one to look back at various experiences and explore them for meanings and implications that didn't register at the time. Nothing wrong with that.
And sometimes wondering about a past experience come up just by happenstance. Nothing wrong with that either.
No need for mean remarks.

Mean remarks? Like rolling your eyes at "silly" people? Acting like a country club is a zoo and you're better than everyone there? Guess what. She doesn't even come close. Which is why she's not a member.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are people on earth eating dirt and grass for supper, & you’re sweating over maybe showing a little too much leg on the dance floor at a golf club years ago—when you don’t play golf & couldn’t afford it anyway?

Why don’t you just fret over blowing your chance to marry Tom Brady despite having lived in the same time zone as he has for the past 25 years?

This is hilarious! Yes I look at marriage dates of famous people and think -- oh I was hot and single in 2000 when he got married! Where was I? Too bad we didn't cross paths! Maybe I should post on here like OP and we can all have shared chagrin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not how it works. We don't need to recruit members. We invite guests so they can enjoy themselves and sometimes to see if they would be interested in applying for membership. But the onus is on YOU to apply and get sponsors. You don't get 'invited'.

+1. And, last I checked, there was a ten year wait to join. Probably longer now. And not to worry - with your eye-rolling and judgmental attitude, I'msure they sensed you didnt want to be invited. Move along.
BTW you would also have to arrange sponsors and with this post you've alienated them all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin is a member at Congressional. He has to spend a certain amount per month or per year on buying food and alcohol there or he just loses the money. That's probably what was going on.

This. A friend at a "lesser" club would invite us to dinner towards the end of the month but on doing so would mention this! Oh we're invited just because you have dollars you need to spend? Made me feel like sh&t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since OP mentioned she is in therapy, I think this is just an example of how therapy can lead one to look back at various experiences and explore them for meanings and implications that didn't register at the time. Nothing wrong with that.
And sometimes wondering about a past experience come up just by happenstance. Nothing wrong with that either.
No need for mean remarks.

Mean remarks? Like rolling your eyes at "silly" people? Acting like a country club is a zoo and you're better than everyone there? Guess what. She doesn't even come close. Which is why she's not a member.

+1. Instead of therapy, she needs go to church and/or temple and learn some humility. The virtue signalling leaps out of her post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not how it works. We don't need to recruit members. We invite guests so they can enjoy themselves and sometimes to see if they would be interested in applying for membership. But the onus is on YOU to apply and get sponsors. You don't get 'invited'.

+1. At Burning Tree you don't even ask. They ask you. Same with our current club

[Anonymous]

You are ruminating over this event STILL? How sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since OP mentioned she is in therapy, I think this is just an example of how therapy can lead one to look back at various experiences and explore them for meanings and implications that didn't register at the time. Nothing wrong with that.
And sometimes wondering about a past experience come up just by happenstance. Nothing wrong with that either.
No need for mean remarks.

Mean remarks? Like rolling your eyes at "silly" people? Acting like a country club is a zoo and you're better than everyone there? Guess what. She doesn't even come close. Which is why she's not a member.

+1. Instead of therapy, she needs go to church and/or temple and learn some humility. The virtue signalling leaps out of her post.

I don’t think you understand what virtual signaling means.