Online dating after 50 for women - worth it?

[Anonymous]

I’m early 50s and after a couple of false starts with men who were tall, attractive and had professional degrees and good to amazing careers, have met someone really great for me whom I adore. He's handsome, mid-height (5’9”), and middle class (makes under $200k) but is a wonderful fit for me emotionally and physically. I’ve dated many men who were taller and/or wealthier and/or more prestigious but he’s a finer person and better partner.

[Anonymous]

I've just started OLD, less than 2 months into it. I am 49, female, thin, and often told I look 10 years younger (I'm not saying I do, just that I'm told this). I have my filters set pretty tightly so I don't see a lot of likes and I don't swipe right on many people either. When I do get matches, most of the time no one starts the conversation (including me - it can be hard to know what to say if the guy doesn't have much in his profile). I've had some good matches and fun conversations but for various reasons, I haven't met anyone in person. I get a lot of interest from guys in their 30s, which feels weird. I would ideally like to date within 5-10 years of my age on either side, but get almost no interest from late 40s/early 50s men. The men who say they are in their 50s look well over 60. It's all a bit confusing!

I've been divorced forever, but out of the dating world for a long time due to raising kids as a single parent, so it's all pretty new to me. I'm trying to make in-person connections too, letting friends know I'm interested in dating, going to more events, etc.

[Anonymous]

DW and I met online dating and married less than two years later. Both empty nesters enjoying life immensely.

[Anonymous]

I am 47 man recently divorced. I am not planning to date for at least 1 year minimum. I would think women at any age have a better chance on OLD than men no? While most people meet online today, women I think still have a big advantage because they will have more men reaching out compares to men. Anyways good luck. And also seek younger men don't discount them. I am 47 but I will be honest I am no longer the stallion I once was. My erection is not bad my sex drive is still strong but I can only c••m once a day. Fitness though is a huge part of my weekly routine. I do heavy weight lifting 3 times a week and hike once a week. I am skinny though not sure if I should be happy or upset about this genetic as my hard work at the gym is not apparent unless my shirt is off lol. But I am in good health otherwise. Like most people my age I deal with a stressful job but I don't mind the income.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 47 man recently divorced. I am not planning to date for at least 1 year minimum. I would think women at any age have a better chance on OLD than men no? While most people meet online today, women I think still have a big advantage because they will have more men reaching out compares to men. Anyways good luck. And also seek younger men don't discount them. I am 47 but I will be honest I am no longer the stallion I once was. My erection is not bad my sex drive is still strong but I can only c••m once a day. Fitness though is a huge part of my weekly routine. I do heavy weight lifting 3 times a week and hike once a week. I am skinny though not sure if I should be happy or upset about this genetic as my hard work at the gym is not apparent unless my shirt is off lol. But I am in good health otherwise. Like most people my age I deal with a stressful job but I don't mind the income.

Yes, women have better luck than men. I am 46. I have been divorced since I was 42. I am not interested in a serious relationship, cohabitiation or remarriage so I typically date men age 27-35. It lasts about a year and then I move on.

ExH stopped because all the women he met wanted to get married. He and I are both in violent agreement that remarriage is not a consideration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bumble… guy here, being in shape is huge.

What are you waiting for?

For a guy that maybe is not superficial? I get looks are part of the equation but "huge"? After 50?

Wait, you think men mature out of caring about looks?

Bless your heart.

[Anonymous]

51 yo male here. 5 ft 7, excellent shape, 155k a year and I have my pick of the litter. Mostly I'm banging late 30s and early 40s women with a lot of baggage. Its all I need. The idea of doing this with a 55 yo woman grosses me out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:51 yo male here. 5 ft 7, excellent shape, 155k a year and I have my pick of the litter. Mostly I'm banging late 30s and early 40s women with a lot of baggage. Its all I need. The idea of doing this with a 55 yo woman grosses me out.

It is shocking you have the pick of the litter but good for you. I am the divorced 46 woman. I earn more and date 6ft and up ages 27-35 (I have no idea about money--I don't care because I don't need a man for money). I am glad I read this. Makes me feel better about dating younger. I don't think men of any age are different so if a woman can pull it off, younger men are better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I have some friends who have dated in their 50s with meh to very good results, so I think there is some hope but I wouldn’t stake my happiness on it.

This is such a great time of life to explore yourself, and all the things that interest you. If you meet someone via a shared experiential interest like hiking or kayaking or birding or ballroom dancing etc., that would be a very nice bonus but in the meantime you’re doing an activity that you love which leaves you feeling good either way.

Also if you haven’t got one already, get a dog.

It is obvious that you are married and have been for a very long time. OP should definitely pursue her interests, but the chances of meeting someone during them is nil. Ask me how I know.

I met the man I am getting married to on Hinge in my fifties so finding love can happen. But it is a numbers game. Being in shape (and yes I am talking 50's shape, not 23 year old shape) is a huge bonus. Being open to people that you would otherwise not go out with can open some good options.

And go into with an open mind, a little skepticism (there is far less trolling in this age bracket, but still) and a stiff upper lip. I met some amazing men during my years of OLD and still remain friends with many.

Best of luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:51 yo male here. 5 ft 7, excellent shape, 155k a year and I have my pick of the litter. Mostly I'm banging late 30s and early 40s women with a lot of baggage. Its all I need. The idea of doing this with a 55 yo woman grosses me out.

You’re short so you wouldn’t even pass my filter which is a good thing because you sound like a complete douche.

[Anonymous]

Very difficult, cause even the elderly men are going after ages 30 and under
https://www.stylecraze.com/articles/why-do-older-men-like-younger-women/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bumble… guy here, being in shape is huge.

What are you waiting for?

For a guy that maybe is not superficial? I get looks are part of the equation but "huge"? After 50?

Wait, you think men mature out of caring about looks?

Bless your heart.

The pp didn’t say that at all (thus the “looks are part of it.) I guess you can’t read. Bless your heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:51 yo male here. 5 ft 7, excellent shape, 155k a year and I have my pick of the litter. Mostly I'm banging late 30s and early 40s women with a lot of baggage. Its all I need. The idea of doing this with a 55 yo woman grosses me out.

I’m sure they love your sagging half-century old balls. But those are still better than your level of douchebaggery as a personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I have some friends who have dated in their 50s with meh to very good results, so I think there is some hope but I wouldn’t stake my happiness on it.

This is such a great time of life to explore yourself, and all the things that interest you. If you meet someone via a shared experiential interest like hiking or kayaking or birding or ballroom dancing etc., that would be a very nice bonus but in the meantime you’re doing an activity that you love which leaves you feeling good either way.

Also if you haven’t got one already, get a dog.

It is obvious that you are married and have been for a very long time. OP should definitely pursue her interests, but the chances of meeting someone during them is nil. Ask me how I know.

I met the man I am getting married to on Hinge in my fifties so finding love can happen. But it is a numbers game. Being in shape (and yes I am talking 50's shape, not 23 year old shape) is a huge bonus. Being open to people that you would otherwise not go out with can open some good options.

And go into with an open mind, a little skepticism (there is far less trolling in this age bracket, but still) and a stiff upper lip. I met some amazing men during my years of OLD and still remain friends with many.

Best of luck!

51f dp, but also married. I go to hikes through meet up and there are many 40's-60's single guys. I have been flirted with and was also asked out by a man my age. I don't wear a ring, so I guess he assumed I was single. I agree with the advice to persue your hobbies in person through groups. God forbid my dh dies, I'm certain I could find another partner without subjecting myself to online dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:51 yo male here. 5 ft 7, excellent shape, 155k a year and I have my pick of the litter. Mostly I'm banging late 30s and early 40s women with a lot of baggage. Its all I need. The idea of doing this with a 55 yo woman grosses me out.

5 ft 7 grosses me out, but go awwfffffffff!!