Bar/Bat Mitzvah Sweatshirts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I suppose those kids who continue to enjoy lording the fact they got invited to a party over the kids who did not will also continue to wear them.

Would be nice if they outgrew such pettiness by 8 but oh well. Would be even nicer if kids who threw non-inclusive events didn't hand out swag as a constant reminder to the excluded, too.

So no kid should hand out party favors for their birthday parties? Ridiculous. Should we also eliminate wedding favors too?

When you hand out a goody bag.. no one is bringing it to school on Monday.

[Anonymous]

My kid wears one from her good friend’s bar mitzvah! It’s taupe-gray and “stylish”

[Anonymous]

OK I never get to brag about this but I will on this anon message board. Woo hoo! People wear my kid’s sweatshirt everywhere. I see it on people I don’t know sometimes. It was not exclusionary because we invited everyone in her class. It does not have event details on it.

[Anonymous]

I am 47 and STILLL wearing a bat mitzvah t-shirt or two to bed and the gym. Used to be down to my knees and is now much more fitted.

I went to a public school and it was not unusual to see a group of kids show up on a Monday in a bar/bat mitzvah t-shirt/sweatshirt. Nobody complained they weren't invited.

[Anonymous]

Omg teach your kids some resilience. Not everyone gets invited to everything. How is this different from the multitude of groups at school who wear matching clothing like cheerleaders, dance team, etc on pep rally day? Are they exclusionary too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I suppose those kids who continue to enjoy lording the fact they got invited to a party over the kids who did not will also continue to wear them.

Would be nice if they outgrew such pettiness by 8 but oh well. Would be even nicer if kids who threw non-inclusive events didn't hand out swag as a constant reminder to the excluded, too.

So no kid should hand out party favors for their birthday parties? Ridiculous. Should we also eliminate wedding favors too?

Yes - all favors are dumb and a waste. If you want a favor do a personalized choc bar.

[Anonymous]

I’ve seen a few. Small school, entire class invited. Larger school, I don’t know… it would seem a bit exclusionary, I suppose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK I never get to brag about this but I will on this anon message board. Woo hoo! People wear my kid’s sweatshirt everywhere. I see it on people I don’t know sometimes. It was not exclusionary because we invited everyone in her class. It does not have event details on it.

This seems the way to do it ("it" being a cultural tradition I know nothing about).
A non-branded, stylish article of clothing that is distinctive in some way to make it attractive, given out at an inclusive event, but also easily re-gifted and donated. Woo hoo!

[Anonymous]

No. They end up in the donation pile.

[Anonymous]

They need to give you something for attending their gift grab.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I suppose those kids who continue to enjoy lording the fact they got invited to a party over the kids who did not will also continue to wear them.

Would be nice if they outgrew such pettiness by 8 but oh well. Would be even nicer if kids who threw non-inclusive events didn't hand out swag as a constant reminder to the excluded, too.

So no kid should hand out party favors for their birthday parties? Ridiculous. Should we also eliminate wedding favors too?

We’re talking about personalized clothing.

Yes, and that is the favor the bat mitzvah girl has chosen. I think it’s a great idea and it will get use.

[Anonymous]

I think they do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK I never get to brag about this but I will on this anon message board. Woo hoo! People wear my kid’s sweatshirt everywhere. I see it on people I don’t know sometimes. It was not exclusionary because we invited everyone in her class. It does not have event details on it.

Does it have a date? We're doing initials in cool font with the date (in smaller font) and nothing else (so nothing like "Adam's Bat Mitzvah!"). I want it to be something people will actually wear (not everyone, but at least some!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They need to give you something for attending their gift grab.

Wow. Yuck. Bar/Bat Mitzvahs are incredibly important days for Jewish people. They are not gift grabs - gifts are definitely not expected!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg teach your kids some resilience. Not everyone gets invited to everything. How is this different from the multitude of groups at school who wear matching clothing like cheerleaders, dance team, etc on pep rally day? Are they exclusionary too?

Totally agree with this. Not everyone gets a trophy.