People who congratulate their kids on social media, like Facebook, but their kids aren't on it

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You can ask my cousin Debra who does this, and let me know what her answer is. PS She hates confrontation. So, good luck!

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While I don't do this, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It's an easy way to let relatives and friends know about children's accomplishments. I like reading about what is going on with other people's children. I congratulate the parent and move on

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Anonymous wrote:You can say the same thing about wishing a happy mothers day but your mom isnt on FB. Wishing a happy anniversary to your spouse who isnt on FB.
Dumb AF.

+1. Narcissism at its finest.

That ... isn't narcissism. Narcissists generally don't wish others well like that.

They are doing it so that they look good (I'm not sure if that still fits a narc pov, just clarifying). They aren't actually wishing anyone well, they are showing "I'm such a good daughter! I wished my mom a happy mothers day, even though I know she will never see this, but everyone else will! Yay go me!" kind of thing. Or "Look at how in looooove we are! Everyone should be jealous of our relationship!" for relationship type posts.

You have a peculiar way of looking at the world. Are you normally this cynical?

Peculiar no, cynical yes. It's a known phenomenon though, so my cynicism isnt out of place here.

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Most of the people I know have young kids who def aren't on social media and they wish their kids Happy Birthday and say how blessed they are to have such an amazing son/daughter and how grateful they are to be their Mommy and love them to the moon and back.... blah blah. The kids are young, like 4. I don't get it. It's written to the child, but they obviously aren't reading it.

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Same reason you're complaining about a "friend" but won't ask them directly about it.

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It's cringe.

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Anonymous wrote:Um. Why?

Not everything is about you, OP. Read it or don't.

You can say the same about the family pics when you know the family is seriously messed up.

Or some people are just staying in touch with entended family who are long distance, which is what most of my friends are doing. They aren't out to get me LOL.

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Because it's going to pop up in their memories every year.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. I get sharing it but why say congratulations, we're so proud of you as if you are addressing the person when they will never see it.

Generous take -- they are sharing their pride with their friends, and also giving their friends a chance to congratulate their kids by letting them know what is going on.

Mean take -- they are couching straight up brags as "a message" to someone else, in an effort to disguise that they are just bragging about their kids.

FWIW, I find this behavior less annoying than married couples who post gushing "I love you" posts directed at their spouse for birthdays and anniversaries. You live together, you couldn't have just shared that directly? I think I also just find a proud parent less annoying than someone who really, really wants you to know how hot they still find their husband after all these years.

It's not an either/or situation. We can mock both!

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Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. I get sharing it but why say congratulations, we're so proud of you as if you are addressing the person when they will never see it.

I'm with you

I don't get it either. Part of the phenomenon where we now share every thought that passes through our head, I guess.

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About as strange as people who communicate with dead loved ones on FB, as in "Honey, it's been ten years since you passed, happy birthday in heaven, I love you and miss you everyday".

I get the idea, they want to state their emotions and let other people know how they're feeling and keep their loved one from being forgotten, but I still find it oddly sad that they think FB is a good place for this type of thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Um. Why?

Not everything is about you, OP. Read it or don't.

You can say the same about the family pics when you know the family is seriously messed up.

Or some people are just staying in touch with entended family who are long distance, which is what most of my friends are doing. They aren't out to get me LOL.

Read it or don't? How do you know what it will say until you read it? OP read it and had an opinion on it. Kind of like how you read the post and commented. You didn't have to, and this doesn't mean it's about you.

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Anonymous wrote:About as strange as people who communicate with dead loved ones on FB, as in "Honey, it's been ten years since you passed, happy birthday in heaven, I love you and miss you everyday".

I get the idea, they want to state their emotions and let other people know how they're feeling and keep their loved one from being forgotten, but I still find it oddly sad that they think FB is a good place for this type of thing.

Maybe this is it? This is the way for people to communicate their emotion surrounding the update rather than the update itself?

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Anonymous wrote:About as strange as people who communicate with dead loved ones on FB, as in "Honey, it's been ten years since you passed, happy birthday in heaven, I love you and miss you everyday".

I get the idea, they want to state their emotions and let other people know how they're feeling and keep their loved one from being forgotten, but I still find it oddly sad that they think FB is a good place for this type of thing.

Maybe this is it? This is the way for people to communicate their emotion surrounding the update rather than the update itself?

So attention seeking behavior

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Anonymous wrote:About as strange as people who communicate with dead loved ones on FB, as in "Honey, it's been ten years since you passed, happy birthday in heaven, I love you and miss you everyday".

I get the idea, they want to state their emotions and let other people know how they're feeling and keep their loved one from being forgotten, but I still find it oddly sad that they think FB is a good place for this type of thing.

Maybe this is it? This is the way for people to communicate their emotion surrounding the update rather than the update itself?

So attention seeking behavior

Yes, but one could argue that about any type of social media post