Company is pursuing me, but they want me to relocate and have a ‘hybrid’ policy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:See if you can negotiate not relocating.

This.

[Anonymous]

You sound difficult

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a no.

[Anonymous]

You can tell the poster is not a man. No offense but men are selfish and could care less about aging parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even if you don’t relocate, travel is 40-50%?

+1

[Anonymous]

This doesn’t seem hard. Just say — thank you for your interest. This seems like the perfect fit for me except it’s in Kansas City. I’m really not able to relocate. If you’re interested in exploring something where I could remain in DC and be at HQ two days a month, let me know.

My office had never done this but just recently started doing it for someone in a hard to fill role — due to our industry it actually is a significant legal/admin burden to have someone in a different state, but we’re doing I anyway. I will say this person is really working hard at integrating themselves into the company — volunteers for stuff like committee, schedules his days in office when he is most likely to see people, etc. I do think it takes a little effort so they don’t feel like they’ve made a mistake — you want to make sure you’re a known entity to people other than the one person you report to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a negotiation. You can only take the job if it’s remote, they have to decide if that’s acceptable to them. If you’re still in the interview phase, I’d move forward but be honest about what you’re looking for.

They could whisper sweet nothings about remote now and renege later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound difficult

Not at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This doesn’t seem hard. Just say — thank you for your interest. This seems like the perfect fit for me except it’s in Kansas City. I’m really not able to relocate. If you’re interested in exploring something where I could remain in DC and be at HQ two days a month, let me know.

My office had never done this but just recently started doing it for someone in a hard to fill role — due to our industry it actually is a significant legal/admin burden to have someone in a different state, but we’re doing I anyway. I will say this person is really working hard at integrating themselves into the company — volunteers for stuff like committee, schedules his days in office when he is most likely to see people, etc. I do think it takes a little effort so they don’t feel like they’ve made a mistake — you want to make sure you’re a known entity to people other than the one person you report to.

Listen to this advice, OP. The only thing I’d add is if it’s truly a job you want, don’t commit to relocating before you have an offer in hand but say ‘I’d have to give that a strong consideration should this be the right fit for both of us’

That way, when an offer does come and they say it has to go to X city you take the ‘I need a week to talk this over with my family, I haven’t given it serious consideration until the offer made it a possibility’

Going back and saying no after a few days is a lot of leverage. Express excitement but focus on it ‘not being the right time to relocate’ and then say nothing. Either they’ll reply you with the ‘we understand, thank you for tour time’ or the ‘well what if we let you stay there and you came here 2 days every other week as needed’. Get it in writing.

[Anonymous]

If travel is already 50%, I'd be shocked if they wouldn't agree to remote with in office a few days a month. OP said they will have no direct reports, so it's not like they're worried about employees in the office being disconnected from a supervisor.

[Anonymous]

OP, they are going to ask you in the initial interview if you would have a problem with relocation. You can either lie and say no (and then have to back track if you get an offer) or be truthful and tell them yes. It's not like the question won't arise until the offer stage.

[Anonymous]

Btw I always double what they say the travel percentage is in job descriptions and see if I’d still take it. So really 10% travel means 20%. 30-40% really means 60%.+

Are you really ok with a majority travel job and aging parents and having a real life? That sounds like more of the deal breaker for me.

[Anonymous]

Nope, sounds like an awful job to do with aging parents. They will probably insist you relocate later even if they agree to remote now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:See if you can negotiate not relocating.

Sounds like you’d be at clients 40-50% or the time and hybrid so at the HQ office the other 40-50% of the time.


I think it’s a farce to call any travel heavy job Hybrid.

[Anonymous]

NOPE! Pass.