Tacky and classless is what this is. Your friend has no couth and I personally would be turned off and looking for a new friend...unless you are birds of a feather?
People with class and money don't talk like this. |
Is she new money! No one likes people like this. I’d say what pp suggested above. Maybe she just needs it pointed out? |
Oof this is bad. I would say something. |
Well it appears your parents raised you with some class... something completely lacking in new money circles. Be happy you have some pedigree and find some friends with the same. There are lots of classy, wealthy people here in DC who don't need to discuss their money or define their self worth with it. |
I’m the wealthy friend in my circles. We have a seven figure HHI. I try to downplay our lifestyle. I don’t talk about car purchases but I may mention upcoming travel or that we bought a new beach house and would love to have friend over. I am always self conscious of bragging. I try not to brag. |
+1 I've had to scale a friendship back for this reason and that didn't go well either. J I think she took everything as a personal slight without the least bit of introspection. This might be common for insecure people. |
+1. With some people, everything is money, money, money, OP. It’s not just that, it us always something - they always seem to want what other people have, it’s never enough, and they tend to not know when to stop. The trying to count other people’s pennies gets old. Then you realize, they are doing it to you, too. To say it's unsettling is an understatement, because it soon splashes over to everything - where your kid was admitted to college, etc. Have you read some of the posts on this board? Back away slowly and stay far away from the toxicity. |
This is OP. Yes, my friend is new money and for what it's worth, they did work hard and work hard currently to stay where they are. But I should say I am also new money and I try to be thoughtful about how I present myself to others. I would not mind if this friend spoke to me about money all the time because I think they kinda see me as like being like them (new money, success because of personal work, etc.) but it really bothers me when they gloat/humble brag with mutual friends who are definitely far less well off. |
+1 |
This I liquidated about 90% of my friendships five years ago because they weren’t bringing positive value |
What does this even mena and why would someone bring it up? Do I have it not know it? |
Wait, what is private banking? |
Honestly, I'd distance myself. Your friend is a bore. |