DD still cries every time at daycare. Almost 2 months.

[Anonymous]

Treat her more independently. 2 years old should know already to wait, don't run and give her attention when she cries. Say bye quickly, the more you stay is harder for the child and the staff.

And of course the other children has to listen to your kids crying and screams ugh

[Anonymous]

2 days per week? No wonder. Her schedule is irregular not consistent. Wants to stay home, eat candy and watch tv with mommy

[Anonymous]

What is the staff doing while she cries?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ours never adjusted. We found a new school and he loved it.

We had this too, and ended up with a nannny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ours never adjusted. We found a new school and he loved it.

I'm leaning to this also. I don't think her crying is a sign that she needs more time to adjust. It may be that's she's really uncomfortable there for whatever reason. And it seems a gamble - leave her at center longer until/if she adjusts, or take the crying as a real distress signal and act accordingly?

Personally, I think 2 months is long enough for her to know what the place is about and she's just not having it. I wouldn't force her to be there if other options exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor thing. Two days a week makes the adjustment really difficult. Also do you like the daycare? Sometimes a switch may be better if they aren’t that warm. Do they hug her and give her attention? It doesn’t seem they do based on what you are describing. You have three choices: (1) pull her out and wait until she is three then enroll her full time (2) pull her out and switch daycares and (3) switch her to full time

4th, nanny share?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2 days per week? No wonder. Her schedule is irregular not consistent. Wants to stay home, eat candy and watch tv with mommy

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor thing. Two days a week makes the adjustment really difficult. Also do you like the daycare? Sometimes a switch may be better if they aren’t that warm. Do they hug her and give her attention? It doesn’t seem they do based on what you are describing. You have three choices: (1) pull her out and wait until she is three then enroll her full time (2) pull her out and switch daycares and (3) switch her to full time

I did like the daycare. My 3 year old loved it and never wanted to leave. She was in a different classroom. In my 2 year olds classroom I didn’t see teachers console her or give her attention. I was able to see her on camera and she would be left to cry most of the time. I do agree that 2/days a week was a mistake. My original thought was to start with 2 days and then go full time to help her adjust but that didn’t work out. We have since moved and I am currently looking for a new center for my kids to both go full-time.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ours never adjusted. We found a new school and he loved it.

I'm leaning to this also. I don't think her crying is a sign that she needs more time to adjust. It may be that's she's really uncomfortable there for whatever reason. And it seems a gamble - leave her at center longer until/if she adjusts, or take the crying as a real distress signal and act accordingly?

Personally, I think 2 months is long enough for her to know what the place is about and she's just not having it. I wouldn't force her to be there if other options exist.

Try out some other daycares, pp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor thing. Two days a week makes the adjustment really difficult. Also do you like the daycare? Sometimes a switch may be better if they aren’t that warm. Do they hug her and give her attention? It doesn’t seem they do based on what you are describing. You have three choices: (1) pull her out and wait until she is three then enroll her full time (2) pull her out and switch daycares and (3) switch her to full time

I did like the daycare. My 3 year old loved it and never wanted to leave. She was in a different classroom. In my 2 year olds classroom I didn’t see teachers console her or give her attention. I was able to see her on camera and she would be left to cry most of the time. I do agree that 2/days a week was a mistake. My original thought was to start with 2 days and then go full time to help her adjust but that didn’t work out. We have since moved and I am currently looking for a new center for my kids to both go full-time.

Was wondering if things got better? In the same situation with my 2 year old right now but she attends full time. It’s heartbreaking to see her crying for most of the day and the teachers are too busy to attend to her.

[Anonymous]

Let us know what you ended up doing, OP. I would pull her. If they aren’t consoling her they should be trying to distract her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ours never adjusted. We found a new school and he loved it.

I'm leaning to this also. I don't think her crying is a sign that she needs more time to adjust. It may be that's she's really uncomfortable there for whatever reason. And it seems a gamble - leave her at center longer until/if she adjusts, or take the crying as a real distress signal and act accordingly?

Personally, I think 2 months is long enough for her to know what the place is about and she's just not having it. I wouldn't force her to be there if other options exist.

Late reply, but agree. My kid didn't adjust after 2-3 weeks and I pulled. Didn't even deal with crying the first day of drop-off at the new center.

[Anonymous]

2 months is too long… most take about a month.

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Anonymous wrote:They reach age 2 and you think that you've got it easy, then BAM the 24 month old starts acting like a baby.

Np. 2 year olds are babies! What is wrong with you?

I would find another place, op. This isn't the right one.

[Anonymous]

Hi I’m the OP. We ended up moving and so my kids didn’t start a new daycare until very recently. My 4 year old had no issues, she’s very outgoing, friendly, loves to make friends everywhere. My 2 year old cried the first couple of days at drop off. The difference between how she is at this new center and the last center are huge. The very first day when I went to pick her up I snuck up on her to find her sitting at a table playing and laughing with other kids. When she saw me she was very excited. Her eyes were not red/swollen. The pictures/videos that they send me throughout the day she’s interacting with other kids or the teachers. Even when I drop her off or pick up I see she is getting attention either from teachers or other kids. She seems a lot happier in this setting. At the other place she cried every single day. Every time I picked her up she would see me and run to me crying. The other place had 24/7 camera and I would watch as she just roamed around the room alone crying. No one paid attention to her and the teachers didn’t try to direct her attention to something. In the new center it is more structured and the classrooms are smaller. She is also going full time. Thank you all for the advice. The other place simply wasn’t a good fit for her and I’m glad we found another place that worked out better.