OP here. I don’t think a woman staying home is a meal ticket. My mom worked very hard to raise 6 kids. They both worked but in different spectrums. I also don’t plan to quit working forever. If I did stay home, it would only be max of 3-5 years until kids go to school. I don’t see a point in staying home after that. |
PP here and if you're pulling in like $300K combined and you only want to stay home for a few years you can easily build up enough savings to make that happen. It would be harder if you never went back or are in a field where it's hard to re-enter but I assume that's not the case. |
OP, don't listen to the people who want you to feel bad. What you are seeking is fine.
But you two are not compatible. |
If this is an issue now, it will be more of one later. |
Every month like clockwork you post some variation of this.
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Expecting to be taken care of like a dependent requires finding a man willing to take the entire burden of keeping a roof over your head, food in your bellies and money saved in the bank. You want that and a cushy lifestyle, you said as much in your OP. That is a meal ticket. Adjust your priorities or cut this man lose. |
Recognize your materialism and own it. |
If you want that kind of lifestyle and are very clear eyed about that he is not the guy for you. Next. But that kind of guy you are looking for is rare. So be clear eyed about whether you have the ability to attract that kind of guy. |
This. No time for emotion, you need to kick this guy to the curb and be 100% on landing a provider. |
The reality is more woman get college degrees than men nowadays. It does translate somewhat into higher salaries. Of course, there are still more men in executive positions, startup businesses, and male athletes earn more than female. But for the average person, you may have to adjust to the idea that you will meet guys who make less than you in the general dating pool. |
Any chance he has family money?
I married the nice guy with the $80k salary (and excellent benefits) and I had no clue his parents were equipped to pay for our wedding, honeymoon, generous down payment on our first home, etc. I think he opted for the low paying job knowing his parents would supplement (including gifts like a new car for a milestone birthday and college savings accounts for our kids). Nonetheless, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t annoyed that I’m the breadwinner with the stressful job that pays our bills. I wasn’t able to be a SAHM. I’m still slightly annoyed about that. There is definitely something to be said for men who relish in being the provider. Don’t settle if it feels like you are settling. |
This problem will work itself out. You're only six years away from a geriatric pregnancy. It doesn't seem likely that you'll find someone that checks all of your boxes before then. |
What happens if you can’t have kids? |
What do you do that you make 180 at 29? |
yep - op posts like she's 21-25 |