Do you mind if I ask which smaller school has been working for him previously? His profile sounds very similar to one of my kids in MS who has the same diagnosis and has really been struggling. |
My similar kid is in a mainstream public MS and it’s going great socially and in terms of building independence. I don’t think you can blame everything that happened in the past on the school. You should let him try mainstreaming at the public. |
I think you should keep your child in their current school and then they apply out for high school. Advanced academics can be supplemented outside of school. If they feel safe and are supported it is better for them to grow their confidence and social skills ( even if it is small peer circle) in a supportive environment. Supplement outside of school with additional peer based activities. Do not move your child. The grass is not always greener and 2 major transitions in a period of 3 years ( for 7th and then 9th) is a lot. |
Which public? What type of supports does their IEP have? Or are you that one poster who tells everyone on all threads to mainstream in public because that's the "real world"? |
My similar kid in a mainstream public MS is miserable and struggling. She also happens to be the kind of kid who turns her frustrations inward so the teachers don’t even realize. I would consider the larger private and see how it goes. Take it a step at a time. If it does well, consider public HS. |
I would stay. A smallish mainstream private could be brutal socially for a kid like this. And then where do you go? |
OP here. We are still debating what to do. I agree with a lot of the things posted here - don't want too many transitions (7th and 9th, although he could stay at the larger private for high school and that would reduce that issue), worried it might be rough to be in a mainstream private if he is judged, worried the temptation to get into things like drugs or just goofing off might be too much at a big public without close adult attention...
To the PP who asked about where he is now - We aren't in the DC area anymore, so the school wouldn't be nearby (we're in the Midwest), but good luck in your search. I think I'm leaning away from public but maybe toward trying the mainstream private to see how it goes. |