Might want to read it again. No Man in the equation here. |
OK change the pronouns and the word “husband” to “wife.” Same argument. The moment OP and wife got engaged is the moment wife stopped being actively bisexual and started being a full-time homosexual. You really needed me to spell all that out to get to the same point? She is now actively, electively homosexual because her only possible partner is a woman. THERE YOU GO. |
I can understand how OP feels. A person doesn’t stop being bisexual just because they’re monogamous (I use this term because many married queer people are poly). Are you still attracted to both men and women? Yes. You’re bisexual. It’s absurd to suggest otherwise. Straight people don’t stop being attracted to others just because they’re married. |
Op, if you can think of it as Katherine, Kate, Katie and Kaitlyn. Your wife want to be called "Katherine", but you keep calling her Kaitlyn, she gets mad at you, would you also taking this personally?
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This. |
My friend is kind of like this. She doesn't see herself as straight,bi, or gay. Her partner is the only woman she's ever wanted to have an intimate relationship with. I think she's settled with a more of a demisexual orientation than anything else. She had a rough experience with the LG+ community when she was trying to sort out her orientation. A lot of negativity directed towards her regarding her orientation. She knows it was likely just a bad group, but it really tainted her view on the whole community. Thankfully her partner gets it and doesn't push for her to join events or define her sexuality |