Ex arranged for a friend to come get her things…

[Anonymous]

Tell her friend that your ex should know you already used the s3x toys on another woman.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your ex is still harboring a ton of anger + resentment towards you which can be expected, especially since it appears that you initiated the break-up.

I would just accept that is the way she currently feels & honor that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were together many years but it just wasn’t working. She had her best friend come get her things, which admittedly hurt, even though I initiated the end of our relationship. She deleted all traces of us and removed me all of her socials. Her friend sent me the list of items to return per my ex - my ex didn’t even send me list herself; and on that list she requested her s3x toys back….

Having my ex communicate through her friend and getting her things, instead of my ex herself, is pretty telling, isn’t?

You broke up with her as she was going out the door on a business trip but were 'hurt' when she didn't come get her stuff herself? Why would that hurt? Did you have some sort of fantasy that she'd realize while she was on her business trip just how much she wanted things to work out? Were you expecting her to come in all weepy, missing you?

You broke up with her and but expected her to keep your pictures up as if you were still together? Why wouldn't she remove them? When she starts dating again, she doesn't want her romantic interests to think she's pining for you.

Why are you surprised she's communicating with you through a friend? It's not like you guys are friends, you were a sh't to break up with her as she was leaving for a business trip. She is DONE with you. Yet, you're surprised. Things didn't go the way you thought they would, did they? Good for her.

[Anonymous]

Give the friend the stuff on the list and anything else she might have missed. Anything other than that will only make you look like an even bigger a-hole. You broke up with her on her way out the door for a business trip. She doesn’t want to come back and she doesn’t want to see you. Good for her. Let her go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do I think it's a little strange that she wants you collecting her sex toys and boxing them up for her? Sure. If my ex told me to do that, I would tell them to do it themselves. I doubt her friend wants to pack her sex toys either. In fact, I would suggest that you are under no obligation to pack her things at all. If you want to help her then sure go for it. Otherwise she and her friends can come gather up her possessions and take them.

If my ex told me that I had to pack their things for them, I would just tell them that I'll be home if they want to come get their things this coming Saturday from 8-12 and that they can pack and take their things then. I'm too busy to pack for them during the week.

I think she did it this is way because I told it was over as she leaving to go to the airport for 1.5 week business trip. She said “okay” and told me her friend would be by later that week to collect her things.

Good for her! You sound horrid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her friend that your ex should know you already used the s3x toys on another woman.

Expect a bill if you do this.

[Anonymous]

You were a jerk for telling her as she was leaving. You got what you deserved. You seem upset she moved on so quickly but what did you expect?

If you wanted to wrap things up nicely, you should have waited to talk about it.

Move on. She is done with you.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the boyfriend is upset that he didn't get to do a victory lap in his ex's face.

[Anonymous]

I dont see what the issue is? Sending a friend or going with a friend is quite common. Are you prone to angry outbursts? Why do you want to keep her toys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were together many years but it just wasn’t working. She had her best friend come get her things, which admittedly hurt, even though I initiated the end of our relationship. She deleted all traces of us and removed me all of her socials. Her friend sent me the list of items to return per my ex - my ex didn’t even send me list herself; and on that list she requested her s3x toys back….

Having my ex communicate through her friend and getting her things, instead of my ex herself, is pretty telling, isn’t?

Women want relationships to end under their own terms. Men are used to being dumped so not the end of the word. When a woman gets dumped wow. That's not something women are used to or expect. Honestly I wish guys dump them more often because we put them on this magical throne and when kick them off that throne it's obviously not pleasant

[Anonymous]

Dude, I'm another guy.

You dumped her rather unceremoniously as she was leaving for a business trip. You did it in a way to cut off any discussion and make it difficult for her to respond because you knew she had to catch a plane. That's cold, dude.

So, she's done and doesn't want to see you, not even to retrieve her things. She's blocked you on her phone, social media, etc and she won't even be able to see anythign you send to her. So she has a friend ask you for her things.

Grow up. Be a man and be mature. Pack up the things she asked for and have them ready for the friend to pick up and move on. You already intimated that you didn't want to talk about it, so take your own medicine and just move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude, I'm another guy.

You dumped her rather unceremoniously as she was leaving for a business trip. You did it in a way to cut off any discussion and make it difficult for her to respond because you knew she had to catch a plane. That's cold, dude.

So, she's done and doesn't want to see you, not even to retrieve her things. She's blocked you on her phone, social media, etc and she won't even be able to see anythign you send to her. So she has a friend ask you for her things.

Grow up. Be a man and be mature. Pack up the things she asked for and have them ready for the friend to pick up and move on. You already intimated that you didn't want to talk about it, so take your own medicine and just move on.

And I'll ad she was not even a fiance. She was just a girlfriend that's it. Move on my man. She will be fine and you will as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were together many years but it just wasn’t working. She had her best friend come get her things, which admittedly hurt, even though I initiated the end of our relationship. She deleted all traces of us and removed me all of her socials. Her friend sent me the list of items to return per my ex - my ex didn’t even send me list herself; and on that list she requested her s3x toys back….

Having my ex communicate through her friend and getting her things, instead of my ex herself, is pretty telling, isn’t?

I heard about this last week

Then the friend got pregnant and you need your suitcase back.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do I think it's a little strange that she wants you collecting her sex toys and boxing them up for her? Sure. If my ex told me to do that, I would tell them to do it themselves. I doubt her friend wants to pack her sex toys either. In fact, I would suggest that you are under no obligation to pack her things at all. If you want to help her then sure go for it. Otherwise she and her friends can come gather up her possessions and take them.

If my ex told me that I had to pack their things for them, I would just tell them that I'll be home if they want to come get their things this coming Saturday from 8-12 and that they can pack and take their things then. I'm too busy to pack for them during the week.

I think she did it this is way because I told it was over as she leaving to go to the airport for 1.5 week business trip. She said “okay” and told me her friend would be by later that week to collect her things.

Are you trolling us? WTF?

[Anonymous]

What did you expect op?