How do you go about improving your OLD profile?

[Anonymous]

There are a bunch of books, articles, and blogs about this. Half of it is good photos and half is writing a profile that includes specifics and is not generic. There are also subreddits that will do profile reviews.

[Anonymous]

If you are a man:
no bathroom or gym selfies, no super close-ups, no selfies taken from a lower vantage point (think sitting on the couch and holding your phone at your belly)
at least one photo of you smiling/looking happy
one full body picture

List something fun or a nice thing/experience you had recently (for ice breakers)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One simple trick:

Don’t be fat.

Prove this by posting photos that show your entire body.

Head shots only = she's fat.

This reminds me of a girl I met though match.com 15 years ago. She had a very cute face. But, I didn't really notice she didn't post any photos showing her body. On the first date I was floored. She was a good 40-50lb overweight. At the time I was a fitness guy. I ran 5-6 miles a day and lifted weights. I was in excellent shape. Went through the date as a good gentleman. But, she kept calling for a second date and I just came up with excuses.

I get this on some level. But it also shows you as pretty shallow.
So no overweight people should be dating?

NP

Don’t be dense. Anyone can date, but they should be honest about their looks.
Concealing extra weight is comparable to men posting 10 year old photos back from when they had hair and no beer gut.

Don't call me dense. The PP was very clear that the issue was she was overweight as he was in "excellent shape." He wouldn't date a fat girl.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One simple trick:

Don’t be fat.

Prove this by posting photos that show your entire body.

Head shots only = she's fat.

This reminds me of a girl I met though match.com 15 years ago. She had a very cute face. But, I didn't really notice she didn't post any photos showing her body. On the first date I was floored. She was a good 40-50lb overweight. At the time I was a fitness guy. I ran 5-6 miles a day and lifted weights. I was in excellent shape. Went through the date as a good gentleman. But, she kept calling for a second date and I just came up with excuses.

I get this on some level. But it also shows you as pretty shallow.
So no overweight people should be dating?

I never said that. She hid that she was overweight on purpose online. I was focused on fitness and health. She was not. Why would I date her? If she wanted to date someone who really liked her for who she was she should have posted her body also. But, she didn't on purpose. Not my issue.

So . . . you wouldn't date someone fat. Right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One simple trick:

Don’t be fat.

Prove this by posting photos that show your entire body.

Head shots only = she's fat.

This reminds me of a girl I met though match.com 15 years ago. She had a very cute face. But, I didn't really notice she didn't post any photos showing her body. On the first date I was floored. She was a good 40-50lb overweight. At the time I was a fitness guy. I ran 5-6 miles a day and lifted weights. I was in excellent shape. Went through the date as a good gentleman. But, she kept calling for a second date and I just came up with excuses.

I get this on some level. But it also shows you as pretty shallow.
So no overweight people should be dating?

I never said that. She hid that she was overweight on purpose online. I was focused on fitness and health. She was not. Why would I date her? If she wanted to date someone who really liked her for who she was she should have posted her body also. But, she didn't on purpose. Not my issue.

So . . . you wouldn't date someone fat. Right.

Not PP, I would not date someone fat. I’m sure I possess qualities that are dealbreakers for others. Despite my flaws, I’ve successfully dated from the apps because my photos provide an accurate depiction of what to expect.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One simple trick:

Don’t be fat.

Prove this by posting photos that show your entire body.

Head shots only = she's fat.

This reminds me of a girl I met though match.com 15 years ago. She had a very cute face. But, I didn't really notice she didn't post any photos showing her body. On the first date I was floored. She was a good 40-50lb overweight. At the time I was a fitness guy. I ran 5-6 miles a day and lifted weights. I was in excellent shape. Went through the date as a good gentleman. But, she kept calling for a second date and I just came up with excuses.

I get this on some level. But it also shows you as pretty shallow.
So no overweight people should be dating?

I never said that. She hid that she was overweight on purpose online. I was focused on fitness and health. She was not. Why would I date her? If she wanted to date someone who really liked her for who she was she should have posted her body also. But, she didn't on purpose. Not my issue.

So . . . you wouldn't date someone fat. Right.

Not PP, I would not date someone fat. I’m sure I possess qualities that are dealbreakers for others. Despite my flaws, I’ve successfully dated from the apps because my photos provide an accurate depiction of what to expect.

Thank you for at least admitting it. And the point made several posts up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One simple trick:

Don’t be fat.

Prove this by posting photos that show your entire body.

Head shots only = she's fat.

This reminds me of a girl I met though match.com 15 years ago. She had a very cute face. But, I didn't really notice she didn't post any photos showing her body. On the first date I was floored. She was a good 40-50lb overweight. At the time I was a fitness guy. I ran 5-6 miles a day and lifted weights. I was in excellent shape. Went through the date as a good gentleman. But, she kept calling for a second date and I just came up with excuses.

I get this on some level. But it also shows you as pretty shallow.
So no overweight people should be dating?

I never said that. She hid that she was overweight on purpose online. I was focused on fitness and health. She was not. Why would I date her? If she wanted to date someone who really liked her for who she was she should have posted her body also. But, she didn't on purpose. Not my issue.

So . . . you wouldn't date someone fat. Right.

Not PP, I would not date someone fat. I’m sure I possess qualities that are dealbreakers for others. Despite my flaws, I’ve successfully dated from the apps because my photos provide an accurate depiction of what to expect.

Thank you for at least admitting it. And the point made several posts up.

Admitting it. I’d put it on a billboard if you asked me to. I’m comfortable with my dealbreakers. Everyone should be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One simple trick:

Don’t be fat.

Prove this by posting photos that show your entire body.

Head shots only = she's fat.

This reminds me of a girl I met though match.com 15 years ago. She had a very cute face. But, I didn't really notice she didn't post any photos showing her body. On the first date I was floored. She was a good 40-50lb overweight. At the time I was a fitness guy. I ran 5-6 miles a day and lifted weights. I was in excellent shape. Went through the date as a good gentleman. But, she kept calling for a second date and I just came up with excuses.

I get this on some level. But it also shows you as pretty shallow.
So no overweight people should be dating?

NP

Don’t be dense. Anyone can date, but they should be honest about their looks.
Concealing extra weight is comparable to men posting 10 year old photos back from when they had hair and no beer gut.

Don't call me dense. The PP was very clear that the issue was she was overweight as he was in "excellent shape." He wouldn't date a fat girl.

Why do slim people owe it to date fat people? And if they don’t, risk being stamped “shallow”’?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Show some individuality, character, and humor. There are so many profiles that say nothing. People say the like traveling. Or they say they have a good sense of humor. Or start off with, "My friends would describe me as..."

Yawn.

So, be specific. Don't just say you like traveling: where have you traveled? If you think you have a good sense of humor, your profile is a good place to show, not tell.

Generally, though, show some personality.

If you're good looking and have good pics, you don't have to show that much personality...

+1 if OP is a woman. You’re better off figuring out how to better sift through your matches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One simple trick:

Don’t be fat.

Prove this by posting photos that show your entire body.

Head shots only = she's fat.

This reminds me of a girl I met though match.com 15 years ago. She had a very cute face. But, I didn't really notice she didn't post any photos showing her body. On the first date I was floored. She was a good 40-50lb overweight. At the time I was a fitness guy. I ran 5-6 miles a day and lifted weights. I was in excellent shape. Went through the date as a good gentleman. But, she kept calling for a second date and I just came up with excuses.

I get this on some level. But it also shows you as pretty shallow.
So no overweight people should be dating?

NP

Don’t be dense. Anyone can date, but they should be honest about their looks.
Concealing extra weight is comparable to men posting 10 year old photos back from when they had hair and no beer gut.

Don't call me dense. The PP was very clear that the issue was she was overweight as he was in "excellent shape." He wouldn't date a fat girl.

What's wrong with that? It's normal. Do you cry over when women say they won't date a guy who's not 6' tall or has to make at least $100,000 a year? Please. Who wants to date a fat person? Let's be serious. Unless you are fat and you know you can only date other fat people the normal person wants to date someone who's in reasonable shape.

And if that guy is into health and fitness why the hell would be want to date someone who's overweight? That's like a vegetarian dating someone who loves steak and ribs. And if the girl was hiding her body in photos that's on her because she knows what she was doing. I wouldn't date anyone who's overweight. That's a reflection of their personality which I find repulsive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One simple trick:

Don’t be fat.

Prove this by posting photos that show your entire body.

Head shots only = she's fat.

This reminds me of a girl I met though match.com 15 years ago. She had a very cute face. But, I didn't really notice she didn't post any photos showing her body. On the first date I was floored. She was a good 40-50lb overweight. At the time I was a fitness guy. I ran 5-6 miles a day and lifted weights. I was in excellent shape. Went through the date as a good gentleman. But, she kept calling for a second date and I just came up with excuses.

I get this on some level. But it also shows you as pretty shallow.
So no overweight people should be dating?

I never said that. She hid that she was overweight on purpose online. I was focused on fitness and health. She was not. Why would I date her? If she wanted to date someone who really liked her for who she was she should have posted her body also. But, she didn't on purpose. Not my issue.

So . . . you wouldn't date someone fat. Right.

Not PP, I would not date someone fat. I’m sure I possess qualities that are dealbreakers for others. Despite my flaws, I’ve successfully dated from the apps because my photos provide an accurate depiction of what to expect.

Thank you for at least admitting it. And the point made several posts up.

Who isn't admitting it? LOL, I think you are trying to cause drama when there isn't any drama. Not our fault you are fat or overweight and hate it when people who aren't see you in that light. Sorry, that's life. Anyone can date anyone they want. Same as women can date men off a list of standards.

[Anonymous]

How can you not tell someone is overweight from their face?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One simple trick:

Don’t be fat.

Prove this by posting photos that show your entire body.

Head shots only = she's fat.

This reminds me of a girl I met though match.com 15 years ago. She had a very cute face. But, I didn't really notice she didn't post any photos showing her body. On the first date I was floored. She was a good 40-50lb overweight. At the time I was a fitness guy. I ran 5-6 miles a day and lifted weights. I was in excellent shape. Went through the date as a good gentleman. But, she kept calling for a second date and I just came up with excuses.

Fatfishing is an IQ test and you failed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One simple trick:

Don’t be fat.

Prove this by posting photos that show your entire body.

Head shots only = she's fat.

This reminds me of a girl I met though match.com 15 years ago. She had a very cute face. But, I didn't really notice she didn't post any photos showing her body. On the first date I was floored. She was a good 40-50lb overweight. At the time I was a fitness guy. I ran 5-6 miles a day and lifted weights. I was in excellent shape. Went through the date as a good gentleman. But, she kept calling for a second date and I just came up with excuses.

Fatfishing is an IQ test and you failed.

Not pp What the hell is fat fishing?

Also guys do this too with females all the time (I am a woman). I am very health conscious and even have that in my profile. Health is extremely important to me because I grew up overweight and it took me a long time to reframe my relationship with food and work on myself. And I’ll never go back. And yet even though I’m in great shape and put an emphasis on wanting people who also take health seriously etc…on my profile-I routinely have men very overweight who don’t give a crap about health responding. I’m assuming pp also had stuff about health being an emphasis on his profile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One simple trick:

Don’t be fat.

Prove this by posting photos that show your entire body.

Head shots only = she's fat.

This reminds me of a girl I met though match.com 15 years ago. She had a very cute face. But, I didn't really notice she didn't post any photos showing her body. On the first date I was floored. She was a good 40-50lb overweight. At the time I was a fitness guy. I ran 5-6 miles a day and lifted weights. I was in excellent shape. Went through the date as a good gentleman. But, she kept calling for a second date and I just came up with excuses.

Fatfishing is an IQ test and you failed.

Not pp What the hell is fat fishing?

Also guys do this too with females all the time (I am a woman). I am very health conscious and even have that in my profile. Health is extremely important to me because I grew up overweight and it took me a long time to reframe my relationship with food and work on myself. And I’ll never go back. And yet even though I’m in great shape and put an emphasis on wanting people who also take health seriously etc…on my profile-I routinely have men very overweight who don’t give a crap about health responding. I’m assuming pp also had stuff about health being an emphasis on his profile.

Exactly. A person who is into fitness, working out, and being healthy doesn't want to be with someone who's the opposite. That's life. If a person is overweight don't hide it online. That's just trying to scam a person into meeting you on a first date. It's a waste of time.