Second baby- take germy toddler out of day care?

[Anonymous]

ONLY if you have another dedicated caregiver to spend time with and take care of toddler. Otherwise you will all be miserable. Older kid is used to attention and this is a major change. Newborn will need to be held and BF is a lot if you do it. You will be recovering.

We did pull out our 2yo from daycare for a few months when our 2nd was born but it was during Covid and my mom stayed with us the whole time. We kept paying for the spot in full to keep it. It worked out but would have been terrible without all the help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t. I thought it was important for the first to have consistency in their schedule and caregivers and it gave me time to spend one on one with the baby as well and recoup from childbirth. We didn’t really have any issues with flu/rsv but maybe we just got lucky.

Same. I did it again for this baby too. You still have to pay tuition anyway.

[Anonymous]

Nooo you want the toddler to have the routine of school. Have them wash their hands and change clothes when they get home and before they touch the baby if you’re worried. But never sacrifice that daycare structure.

[Anonymous]

I had a fall baby and two older kids in PreK and preschool. We kept them in daycare for the structure and familiarity, and figured it was better they get time and attention from their teachers and friends rather than be stuck home with a screaming infant and stressed out mom and dad. The older kids didn’t bring home any serious illnesses, beyond the occasional cold, so we were fortunate on that front. DD (preschool) rarely gets sick anyway; DS (PreK) does seem to get sick more often than his sister, but all the illnesses were manageable. We managed to avoid RSV, as far as I know.

[Anonymous]

I have 3 kids, second was born in winter but we kept our then toddler in daycare. We just made sure to wash hands a lot and not let the toddler kiss on the baby. Also, we sort of divided where DH was on toddler duty and I was in baby duty so there wasn’t as much overlap. My second did get his first mild cold around 6 weeks old and was perfectly fine. Ped just said to watch out for fever.

My third was born during the pandemic and sure enough my oldest brought home COVID during the first week we brought our baby home. DH (who somehow never caught it) moved to the basement with our oldest while I lived on the main/upper level with the younger 2. No one else in the house caught it.

I really think with basic preventions you can be ok and for whatever reason (I’m sure something biological) I seem to have super immunity to germs the first few months after giving birth. If you are nursing you will provide immune support to the baby as well.

[Anonymous]

We kept both my older kids in preschool/K when my winter baby was born. There was no way I wanted to disrupt routines and also pay for the preschool spot. My preschooler got hand foot and mouth right after we got home from the hospital but we managed to contain it to just her. Didn’t let her around the baby while she was contagious and I washed hands/changed shirts if she had been snuggling with me. This was pre-Covid and we also took the baby all over the place without worrying about germs. I think he went to a birthday party at a play zone at 2 weeks old. I breastfed and got the TDAP while pregnant, but no special precautions and he never got sick.

If you have a preemie or there’s some particular reason, then sure, pull from daycare. But I would definitely not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

I’m pregnant with my second and my current 18 month old goes to day care. She started in January and still going thru the sickness phase (not sure that ends..)

I’m wondering if parents consider taking their toddlers out of daycare for at least the first weeks / month they have a newborn? It will be a Fall newborn, and I’m just thinking how likely the baby will get flu/covid/rsv if my other kid stays in day care…what do people do?

And if you pull them out, how do you cover care? Hire a temp nanny or try to pull it off urself? 😭😂

Follow your gut and pull your tot out of daycare for a while. Taking care of a little kid and a baby at the same time is something millions of parents do. In many ways it's easier, but if for some reason you are too overwhelmed, you can always put the tot back in. You'll be surprised how much a toddler can help you out around the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ONLY if you have another dedicated caregiver to spend time with and take care of toddler. Otherwise you will all be miserable. Older kid is used to attention and this is a major change. Newborn will need to be held and BF is a lot if you do it. You will be recovering.

We did pull out our 2yo from daycare for a few months when our 2nd was born but it was during Covid and my mom stayed with us the whole time. We kept paying for the spot in full to keep it. It worked out but would have been terrible without all the help.

It really depends on the child's temperament. Not all toddlers become worse after the birth of a sibling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

I’m pregnant with my second and my current 18 month old goes to day care. She started in January and still going thru the sickness phase (not sure that ends..)

I’m wondering if parents consider taking their toddlers out of daycare for at least the first weeks / month they have a newborn? It will be a Fall newborn, and I’m just thinking how likely the baby will get flu/covid/rsv if my other kid stays in day care…what do people do?

And if you pull them out, how do you cover care? Hire a temp nanny or try to pull it off urself? 😭😂

Follow your gut and pull your tot out of daycare for a while. Taking care of a little kid and a baby at the same time is something millions of parents do. In many ways it's easier, but if for some reason you are too overwhelmed, you can always put the tot back in. You'll be surprised how much a toddler can help you out around the house.

Easier? How? Because in my experience it is definitely not easier. It is so much harder.

Also, there is no guarantee that she can put the kid back in daycare unless she keeps paying for a spot she’s not using.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

I’m pregnant with my second and my current 18 month old goes to day care. She started in January and still going thru the sickness phase (not sure that ends..)

I’m wondering if parents consider taking their toddlers out of daycare for at least the first weeks / month they have a newborn? It will be a Fall newborn, and I’m just thinking how likely the baby will get flu/covid/rsv if my other kid stays in day care…what do people do?

And if you pull them out, how do you cover care? Hire a temp nanny or try to pull it off urself? 😭😂

Follow your gut and pull your tot out of daycare for a while. Taking care of a little kid and a baby at the same time is something millions of parents do. In many ways it's easier, but if for some reason you are too overwhelmed, you can always put the tot back in. You'll be surprised how much a toddler can help you out around the house.

Easier? How? Because in my experience it is definitely not easier. It is so much harder.

Also, there is no guarantee that she can put the kid back in daycare unless she keeps paying for a spot she’s not using.

Daycare for toddlers isnt Harvard. If this were a selective preschool for 4+ year old, I'd say keep the child enrolled. But OP's kid will be 2. Daycare spots open up all the time. Some aspects of the daily routine are easier when you dont have to drive to and from daycare every day.

[Anonymous]

Our second was a preemie born during flu season and I pulled my 2 year old out of day care for the first 3 months after bringing the little one home from the nicu. We kept germs at bay and no one got sick. I did not have additional help and my husband was traveling for work much of the time. I treasured the extra time with my two year old and the opportunity for the kids to bond. We had a nice routine going to the park in the morning to play while I held the baby in the carrier. Baby was typically sleeping or nursing. Then home for lunch. Toddler would nap after lunch and baby would be awake. Toddler snd baby wound play after nap and before dinner. It was quite lovely and I wasn’t battling traffic for daycare pickup.

After my maternity leave was over they both went to daycare together. I disagree about the importance of routine. With the new baby my older son was craving my time, and I was able to give that to him because he wasn’t spending all day in daycare!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

I’m pregnant with my second and my current 18 month old goes to day care. She started in January and still going thru the sickness phase (not sure that ends..)

I’m wondering if parents consider taking their toddlers out of daycare for at least the first weeks / month they have a newborn? It will be a Fall newborn, and I’m just thinking how likely the baby will get flu/covid/rsv if my other kid stays in day care…what do people do?

And if you pull them out, how do you cover care? Hire a temp nanny or try to pull it off urself? 😭😂

Follow your gut and pull your tot out of daycare for a while. Taking care of a little kid and a baby at the same time is something millions of parents do. In many ways it's easier, but if for some reason you are too overwhelmed, you can always put the tot back in. You'll be surprised how much a toddler can help you out around the house.

Easier? How? Because in my experience it is definitely not easier. It is so much harder.

Also, there is no guarantee that she can put the kid back in daycare unless she keeps paying for a spot she’s not using.

Daycare for toddlers isnt Harvard. If this were a selective preschool for 4+ year old, I'd say keep the child enrolled. But OP's kid will be 2. Daycare spots open up all the time. Some aspects of the daily routine are easier when you dont have to drive to and from daycare every day.

You don’t sound like you’re actually a parent if you think “daycare spots open up all the time” and that taking care of a toddler + newborn is “easier.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

I’m pregnant with my second and my current 18 month old goes to day care. She started in January and still going thru the sickness phase (not sure that ends..)

I’m wondering if parents consider taking their toddlers out of daycare for at least the first weeks / month they have a newborn? It will be a Fall newborn, and I’m just thinking how likely the baby will get flu/covid/rsv if my other kid stays in day care…what do people do?

And if you pull them out, how do you cover care? Hire a temp nanny or try to pull it off urself? 😭😂

Follow your gut and pull your tot out of daycare for a while. Taking care of a little kid and a baby at the same time is something millions of parents do. In many ways it's easier, but if for some reason you are too overwhelmed, you can always put the tot back in. You'll be surprised how much a toddler can help you out around the house.

Easier? How? Because in my experience it is definitely not easier. It is so much harder.

Also, there is no guarantee that she can put the kid back in daycare unless she keeps paying for a spot she’s not using.

Daycare for toddlers isnt Harvard. If this were a selective preschool for 4+ year old, I'd say keep the child enrolled. But OP's kid will be 2. Daycare spots open up all the time. Some aspects of the daily routine are easier when you dont have to drive to and from daycare every day.

You don’t sound like you’re actually a parent if you think “daycare spots open up all the time” and that taking care of a toddler + newborn is “easier.”

No way this person has been a parent in modern times

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello,

I’m pregnant with my second and my current 18 month old goes to day care. She started in January and still going thru the sickness phase (not sure that ends..)

I’m wondering if parents consider taking their toddlers out of daycare for at least the first weeks / month they have a newborn? It will be a Fall newborn, and I’m just thinking how likely the baby will get flu/covid/rsv if my other kid stays in day care…what do people do?

And if you pull them out, how do you cover care? Hire a temp nanny or try to pull it off urself? 😭😂

No. I had my third when my older kids were in elementary and preschool and did not pull them. You will mess with their routine and that’s not fair to them when they are adjusting to a new sibling. Get your kids their shots on time, especially RSV. My youngest got the RSV shot at 4 months and got RSV two weeks (when the shot started working and was most effective) and was fine. We all had the flu a few months ago and my then 7 month old was fine. I brought her in for a flu test and the nurse told me she didn’t have the flu after looking at her (her test was positive - mama’s intuition) but she did well, perhaps in part because I breastfeed (still not sure if that helps?).