Twins college stress

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any chance you they can hitch a ride with a friend?
Can you drive the night before and they go on the tour while you work remote?
It is hard to put the adult brain in the head of a 16 YO. And there is a lot of anxiety and FOMO.

I have no issue going!! My problem is they keep asking when, when, when. I don't know if it will be this weekend, during the week or next weekend, because dh has meetings that he may or may not need to attend. But the plan is to go soon, as in by next week. I just don't like that they seem to think 1. we suck for not going on some big tour 2. they need to know right now, when we don't have plan this spring on purpose so we can go.

[Anonymous]

Are u aware you need to schedule a tour? Unlikely you will get in for next week. Meanwhile, communicate your expectations with your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are u aware you need to schedule a tour? Unlikely you will get in for next week. Meanwhile, communicate your expectations with your children.

There are no tours for months. We'd just do the self-schedule and visit again if admitted.

[Anonymous]

What does this have to do with them being twins?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does this have to do with them being twins?

NP. She's got two kids instead of one harassing her about this. I'd be stressed too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does this have to do with them being twins?

NP. She's got two kids instead of one harassing her about this. I'd be stressed too.

They're right, she's wrong. But they don't have to live with her much longer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are u aware you need to schedule a tour? Unlikely you will get in for next week. Meanwhile, communicate your expectations with your children.

There are no tours for months. We'd just do the self-schedule and visit again if admitted.

No. Do not go to all the trouble of a visit if you can't have the guided tour, where you talk to someone from the Admissions Office and some students to get (sometimes unvarnished) truths about the college.

It's best to schedule a real tour (which also helps with demonstrated interest), even if it's in the summer and there fewer students around.

And it's also important to visit on Admitted Student Days, when they throw you a party! You get a behind the scenes look at dorms and food, which is important.

Don't go on any other day, OP. That would be a waste of time!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are u aware you need to schedule a tour? Unlikely you will get in for next week. Meanwhile, communicate your expectations with your children.

There are no tours for months. We'd just do the self-schedule and visit again if admitted.

OK, you do sound a BIT stubborn about this. It might make all of you feel better if you had a little more structure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to establish the parameters early.

They know it's either in state or out of state with merit, but we don't have new SAT scores yet to even know if that's a possibility and where. My feeling is we need these scores to establish a good list of possibilities and it makes no sense to get very into touring this or that place without the list. I really don't get why they are so fixated on these tours. I already said we are going.

Most colleges are still TO for next year. SATs should not be your driving force. Academics and rigor come first. You should be able to make a list just off of that. March 9 SAT scores were released today, if that is what you are waiting on. Maybe your kids are only Sophomores though -most responses are geared towards juniors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spring break junior year is prime time for college tours. Tours are best done when classes are in session at the college.

I think you are missing the boat if you don't squeeze in these tours. The alternative is waiting until fall when your kids are in the middle of the application season.

(My twins attend college about 2000 miles apart lol.)

Work stress is perfectly understandable. But, I would try to find a way to make the tours work. Parents don't need to attend - if they drive, consider sending them together on their own, or see if they can tour with their friends, etc.

Hi, I understand the work stress. But I agree, spring break of junior year is the best time to visit colleges that are in session. See if you can make these even if inconvenient. My kid got in ED, but there is one college (still hidden in my mind) that I wish I had taken the time off for him to visit and consider applying. Try to have no regrets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine, OP. Tours are very overrated and you have explained they will go later. It’s best to listen but avoid giving into the mania that some people have with respect to college admissions.

+ 1. It’s fine to go on tours after they’ve been accepted .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to establish the parameters early.

They know it's either in state or out of state with merit, but we don't have new SAT scores yet to even know if that's a possibility and where. My feeling is we need these scores to establish a good list of possibilities and it makes no sense to get very into touring this or that place without the list. I really don't get why they are so fixated on these tours. I already said we are going.

Most colleges are still TO for next year. SATs should not be your driving force. Academics and rigor come first. You should be able to make a list just off of that. March 9 SAT scores were released today, if that is what you are waiting on. Maybe your kids are only Sophomores though -most responses are geared towards juniors.

My kids took the March SAT at school, so do not have results yet. Juniors. My understanding is TO is no good if you want merit, at least at places they are thinking about like Alabama. We cannot do any extremely expensive, no merit schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spring break junior year is prime time for college tours. Tours are best done when classes are in session at the college.

I think you are missing the boat if you don't squeeze in these tours. The alternative is waiting until fall when your kids are in the middle of the application season.

(My twins attend college about 2000 miles apart lol.)

Work stress is perfectly understandable. But, I would try to find a way to make the tours work. Parents don't need to attend - if they drive, consider sending them together on their own, or see if they can tour with their friends, etc.

Hi, I understand the work stress. But I agree, spring break of junior year is the best time to visit colleges that are in session. See if you can make these even if inconvenient. My kid got in ED, but there is one college (still hidden in my mind) that I wish I had taken the time off for him to visit and consider applying. Try to have no regrets.

There are no guided tours available for the next couple months. We can go to the two not too far from us, but someone said it's useless? I thought self-guided would be. I told them I am fine with them applying to many colleges and then we can visit if they get in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to establish the parameters early.

They know it's either in state or out of state with merit, but we don't have new SAT scores yet to even know if that's a possibility and where. My feeling is we need these scores to establish a good list of possibilities and it makes no sense to get very into touring this or that place without the list. I really don't get why they are so fixated on these tours. I already said we are going.

Most colleges are still TO for next year. SATs should not be your driving force. Academics and rigor come first. You should be able to make a list just off of that. March 9 SAT scores were released today, if that is what you are waiting on. Maybe your kids are only Sophomores though -most responses are geared towards juniors.

My kids took the March SAT at school, so do not have results yet. Juniors. My understanding is TO is no good if you want merit, at least at places they are thinking about like Alabama. We cannot do any extremely expensive, no merit schools.

This is definitely not true. But could be very school specific ( Bama). Worth looking into. My kid only has one school that they will need to submit scores for this far including for merit. My kid has good rigor, good grades. Not great( average) SAT thus far