Independent Living with Some Help ?
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Anonymous
| np here. Disagree. Social life is important |
Anonymous
He is 90 and starting to have trouble with ADLs. If he can afford it and is willing, he'd be much better off getting set up in a situation that will be sustainable in the long term, which is to say IL at a CCRC, plus some regular health aides whose visits can be increased as needed. That is, assuming he wants a soft landing and is willing to make some concessions to get it. A neighbor was determined to stay in her house as long as possible, and she did, but she spent her final months very unhappily at a for-profit nursing home where she knew no one and was pretty confused all the time. But for her, the tradeoff was worth it. Someone else might have preferred to get used to life in a CCRC and turning over life's paperwork to someone else so they could work their way into a new groove before their physical abilities and short-term memory meant needing some changes for more care. Watching my parents and their friends and my friends' parents, I'm now planning to make the big changes sooner. |
Anonymous
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I agree on the moving him now, if he is interested in that. It is much better to move to a retirement community when you are still healthy enough to enjoy the activities and make friends. Don't wait until something changes with his health and he is forced to move.
My mother is at Five Star on Conn Ave in Chevy Chase, and it seems really great. I definitely recommend. |
Anonymous
| Read any long term care policy he has carefully. OL not covered, IME. |
Anonymous
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Also please consider your own peace of mind and what will enhance it. If you have siblings, you might need to hear their views, too.
If your dad could tryout a place for a few days, that might help. Both my mom and my MIL did this. |
Anonymous
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Maplewood Park Place on Old Georgetown Road.
My mom is there and is thrilled with the amenities. Check it out. |
Anonymous
| Kensington Park is nice as well. I looked there for my parents. |