Why don’t parents care if their skip or misbehave in school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know the answer but at our school if the phone is taken away only the parent can get it back. My son walks home so it’s a safety issue if he doesn’t have a phone by dismissal.
I am all for no phone rules but don’t make kids walk without any means of communication.
I told my kid if he takes it out and it’s taken away he needs to go to the office and explain he needs it back for walking home for safety reasons. I think he doesn’t want to talk to the office staff so it’s a deterrent for him!

If he needs it for “safety reasons” to walk home he better not be taking the phone out during school. Lousy parenting to try to get your kid to change the school’s policy because it doesn’t work for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know the answer but at our school if the phone is taken away only the parent can get it back. My son walks home so it’s a safety issue if he doesn’t have a phone by dismissal.
I am all for no phone rules but don’t make kids walk without any means of communication.
I told my kid if he takes it out and it’s taken away he needs to go to the office and explain he needs it back for walking home for safety reasons. I think he doesn’t want to talk to the office staff so it’s a deterrent for him!

Please that it’s a safety issue.

[Anonymous]

As a middle school teacher I regularly get cussed out by parents. Example: “Hello I’m a little concerned about Student. He’s missing a lot of instruction in my class. He asks for a pass to use the restroom every day in my class. He’s gone for at least 20 minutes each time. Is there a medical condition that I should be aware of? I’m happy to provide accommodations if needed. If not, I’d appreciate if you could talk to him and find out if there’s something bothering him about the class? Is there a way I can make it better? I just want to support Student’s learning.”

Parent: “Bi%ch who are you to tell my child he can’t go take a sh$t?! What are you saying he has some kind of medical problem?! WTF is wrong with you?! I’m going to come up there.”

She did and the principal talked to her. The kid continued to take long passes even longer now that I “can’t do $hit because you’re scared of my mom.” Which actually is true. She likes me now because I let him stay in there for lunch though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a middle school teacher I regularly get cussed out by parents. Example: “Hello I’m a little concerned about Student. He’s missing a lot of instruction in my class. He asks for a pass to use the restroom every day in my class. He’s gone for at least 20 minutes each time. Is there a medical condition that I should be aware of? I’m happy to provide accommodations if needed. If not, I’d appreciate if you could talk to him and find out if there’s something bothering him about the class? Is there a way I can make it better? I just want to support Student’s learning.”

Parent: “Bi%ch who are you to tell my child he can’t go take a sh$t?! What are you saying he has some kind of medical problem?! WTF is wrong with you?! I’m going to come up there.”

She did and the principal talked to her. The kid continued to take long passes even longer now that I “can’t do $hit because you’re scared of my mom.” Which actually is true. She likes me now because I let him stay in there for lunch though.

Your message makes you sound like a timid pushover, so of course the nutso parents are going to take advantage of that. I was trained to stick to the facts and follow through on threats. I would write something like this.

Ms. Nutso, I'm writing to inform you that Nutso Jr is at risk of failing Math-4-Boneheads because he has missed a significant amount of instructional time. Although he shows up at the beginning of class when I take attendance, he frequently leaves the classroom for long periods during class. Regardless of his reasons for leaving, he is missing material that will be on the tests and quizzes. I have informed Nutso Jr that he will need to read Chapters 5-8 and 11-12 to make up all the material he has missed.


Never speculate about medical issues with students and their parents. It sets them off big time.

[Anonymous]

Some parents are very lazy.

[Anonymous]

There have always been lazy parents. Now, there are more of them.


-a teacher

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know the answer but at our school if the phone is taken away only the parent can get it back. My son walks home so it’s a safety issue if he doesn’t have a phone by dismissal.
I am all for no phone rules but don’t make kids walk without any means of communication.
I told my kid if he takes it out and it’s taken away he needs to go to the office and explain he needs it back for walking home for safety reasons. I think he doesn’t want to talk to the office staff so it’s a deterrent for him!

How old is your son? Do you really think he is safer with a phone? Not going to help him not get hit by a car or kidnapped.

[Anonymous]

My kids have their phones during class and occasionally text me. IDGAF. They’ve never gotten in trouble with the teachers for taking them out. They have good grades and are never a problem in class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t parents care if their skip or misbehave in school?
My daughter got her phone taken away at school today for using it, and I told next time she gets in trouble she won’t have a phone for days. She said her friend is allowed to us her phone cause her mom cursed out the school for taking her phone away… why do parents thinks is okay to curse out a teachers when the kids is doing wrong?
Is this new?

Either your daughter or her friend or both are lying. Or the friend has special needs and some accommodations.

Or, you’re a troll.

Clearly you have your head in the sand. I’m not OP, but I’m in the school office enough to know this is absolutely true and there are a LOT of terrible parents that just DGAF. Then there are also a lot that feel school rules need not apply to their child bc x,y,z.

On our schools parent social media page, anytime the school makes a rule and tries to enforce it, parents are loudly complaining; be it no headphones, no cell phones, no food in class, attendance, parents will complain.

[Anonymous]

Parents are not interested in doing the hard work of parenting anymore. They give in to their kids on everything (see the threads where parents are buying $150 pajamas for their 12 yo, can’t seem to say “no” when their kids want expensive things, allow their kids unlimited screen time and social media).

It makes things harder for teachers and everyone else, not to mention their own kids when they grow up without any boundaries or budgets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents are not interested in doing the hard work of parenting anymore. They give in to their kids on everything (see the threads where parents are buying $150 pajamas for their 12 yo, can’t seem to say “no” when their kids want expensive things, allow their kids unlimited screen time and social media).

It makes things harder for teachers and everyone else, not to mention their own kids when they grow up without any boundaries or budgets.

Not to mention the endless threads about how to take care of more than one kid, what to do with kids on a school holiday, how to travel with kids. Parenting has always been hard work but either people are trying to juggle too much or they’re so used to having help with every little thing they truly don’t know how to do the actual work of parenting. The stories friends and family members who are teachers share are downright frightening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know the answer but at our school if the phone is taken away only the parent can get it back. My son walks home so it’s a safety issue if he doesn’t have a phone by dismissal.
I am all for no phone rules but don’t make kids walk without any means of communication.
I told my kid if he takes it out and it’s taken away he needs to go to the office and explain he needs it back for walking home for safety reasons. I think he doesn’t want to talk to the office staff so it’s a deterrent for him!

Many of us walked home without phones for our whole school careers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There have always been lazy parents. Now, there are more of them.


-a teacher

And in this area you can add that there are a ton of very self-important parents. I think their kids can never do anything wrong. These two categories of parents make up about 50% Some are both lazy and self-important

[Anonymous]

Our school confiscates the phone/watch if it is out during the school day and a parent needs to retrieve it. They enforce the policy and our daughter knows there will be a consequence if my husband or I have to come in and get it. Our potential consequence: Call the school and make her go to aftercare until we can get there to retrieve it, sometime between 5pm and 6pm. She walks to and from school -- about a mile or so -- but cannot if she does not have a device to be tracked on. Never had an issue because she values her freedom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents are not interested in doing the hard work of parenting anymore. They give in to their kids on everything (see the threads where parents are buying $150 pajamas for their 12 yo, can’t seem to say “no” when their kids want expensive things, allow their kids unlimited screen time and social media).

It makes things harder for teachers and everyone else, not to mention their own kids when they grow up without any boundaries or budgets.

This times one million. Nearly every conference I have with parents boils down to a lack of effective parenting. Parents regularly tell me, “Larlo doesn’t want/like to ________.” Go to bed, brush his teeth, stop playing on his tablet/phone, eat breakfast, get dressed, etc. Sometimes they say they don’t like when their kid is mad at them so they let them do what they want. They come into school without hearing the word no and it’s like WW3 when they do hear it. It’s like having a 2 yr old in kindergarten because we are the first people to set limits.