If you have older kids, HS and above, did your child's trajectory match what was laid out by evaluators?

[Anonymous]

I think maybe I misunderstood what our son’s psychologist who has done each of his four evaluations was telling us. She told his his learning disabilities (dyslexia, math, and writing) were mild to moderate, and that with support he would succeed. His intelligence is well above average, so to us, desperate and hyper educated people that we are, that meant he would succeed at school like other kids do.

He hasn’t, despite supports and remediation, because school is just so hard that he hates academics, and has since he was small. He’s in 11th grade now. He will indeed graduate and he will go to college (maybe community college , maybe a four year that accepts pretty much anyone). That is success! But I think I didn’t quite get my head around the fact that we could do everything right, work very hard, and he still wouldn’t be heading off to UMD and then graduate school like his friends and family. His path will be different.

For what it is worth, he is well and happy and healthy, so this is entirely my problem, not his.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They were dead wrong. DS did much better than they predicted, but we also all worked really, really hard so he could achieve.

My child and I worked hard too, even if she isn't traditionally successful. Achievement is not only a result of hard work. Parents of kids with disabilities should understand that.

I don’t think anyone disagrees with you! Achievement is relative to each person.

We also have had very bleak advice and recommendations from our pediatrician, dev ped, the psychologists who did our DD’s neuropsych and other testing, etc.

As a PP said, it has been a whole family effort, but she had proven their predictions to be unnecessarily dire.

DP and I think some of this comes down to delivery and not acting like a professional. I have the 16 yo and I will remember sitting in the meeting going over testing and the psychologist blunting telling me he will likely not be capable of making friends or be successful in middle school. He was young and having all sorts of behavior issues in early elementary school. By 7th grade he had lots of friends and was taking some honors classes and doing well. There were still plenty of issues but no behavior issues with friends or in the classroom. I can relate when you said the bleakness of it all.

[Anonymous]

All our professionals have refused to make predictions or offer a meaningful prognosis.