What do 13 year old boys wear to the Bar Mitzvah service?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You def don't have to buy something. Khakis or slacks and some kind of collared shirt are fine. My kids each have a pair of
dress shoes that we wear to church/holidays/or anything dressy, but if you don't already own something like that, I think clean sneakers would be fine. All the families I know would feel terrible if someone felt they had to purchase special clothing for a bat mitzvah.

My kid literally has only sweatpants and a few collared shirts. No pants. We don’t go to church or the club so no need for dressier clothes. So, whatever he wears, I will have to buy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will be a range. I have seen kids in jeans, sneakers and a polo. I have seen kids in suits and everything in between. Personally, I would not send it jeans but I would not buy a jacket just for that either.

Wearing jeans, sneakers and a polo is very disrespectful. Don't do that OP.

Wrong.
God is not a fashionista.

Disrespectful, and a sin before God, is to keep people out of the temple because you think their clothes aren't fancy enough, while you sit in your fancy dress and text on your phone and gossip during the service.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You def don't have to buy something. Khakis or slacks and some kind of collared shirt are fine. My kids each have a pair of
dress shoes that we wear to church/holidays/or anything dressy, but if you don't already own something like that, I think clean sneakers would be fine. All the families I know would feel terrible if someone felt they had to purchase special clothing for a bat mitzvah.

My kid literally has only sweatpants and a few collared shirts. No pants. We don’t go to church or the club so no need for dressier clothes. So, whatever he wears, I will have to buy.

Recitals, graduations, weddings, funerals, dates, are bound to start happening, so may as well get something. It'll get use.

[Anonymous]

Usually it’s a button down with a jacket. You don’t have to buy one but you might be able to borrow one. Almost all the boys will be in one. You could also do a button down under a sweater look. It’s just a little effort to be dressed.

[Anonymous]

Don’t worry about the shoes, sneakers are fine.

[Anonymous]

Suit and tie is best. If not nice pants, dress shirt and tie with dress shoes. No sneakers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You def don't have to buy something. Khakis or slacks and some kind of collared shirt are fine. My kids each have a pair of
dress shoes that we wear to church/holidays/or anything dressy, but if you don't already own something like that, I think clean sneakers would be fine. All the families I know would feel terrible if someone felt they had to purchase special clothing for a bat mitzvah.

My kid literally has only sweatpants and a few collared shirts. No pants. We don’t go to church or the club so no need for dressier clothes. So, whatever he wears, I will have to buy.

Teach your kid to dress better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will be a range. I have seen kids in jeans, sneakers and a polo. I have seen kids in suits and everything in between. Personally, I would not send it jeans but I would not buy a jacket just for that either.

Wearing jeans, sneakers and a polo is very disrespectful. Don't do that OP.

Wrong.
God is not a fashionista.

Disrespectful, and a sin before God, is to keep people out of the temple because you think their clothes aren't fancy enough, while you sit in your fancy dress and text on your phone and gossip during the service.

I love you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You def don't have to buy something. Khakis or slacks and some kind of collared shirt are fine. My kids each have a pair of
dress shoes that we wear to church/holidays/or anything dressy, but if you don't already own something like that, I think clean sneakers would be fine. All the families I know would feel terrible if someone felt they had to purchase special clothing for a bat mitzvah.

My kid literally has only sweatpants and a few collared shirts. No pants. We don’t go to church or the club so no need for dressier clothes. So, whatever he wears, I will have to buy.

Recitals, graduations, weddings, funerals, dates, are bound to start happening, so may as well get something. It'll get use.

Thanks, but my kid is growing a ton and I just buy as needed. Defintiely won’t have any recitals or graduations for a year and a half at least. I don’t want to buy things just in case that will most likely never get used.