Ex wife still has feelings for my hubby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She wants to “live her true authentic life?”

WTH does that mean? I would call out him- and her- on that statement alone.

Mature, decent people do not put their own selfish needs to “be authentic,” (aka do whatever the hell they want to do with no consequences) ahead of the best interests of people in their life, namely their spouses and children. She is proving that she is neither mature nor decent. She is also most likely a bit crazy.

Your DH needs to take a firm stand on this. The innocent victim is their child. I hope you OP will do everything possible to be a positive influence in this child’s life.

With a mother like that, she’s going to need it.

That statement is a loaded statement because she used it to explain why she was telling my husband about her feelings and also to explain something else that happened in her current marriage that has caused a rift in that marriage. Something I would rather not post here but has nothing to do with my hubby.

My step daughter and I have a good respectful relationship. She is a Wonderful human. She has a good relationship with her mom too, I don't want to undermine that.

[Anonymous]

This woman is so toxic. Leaving your husband to get back with the first husband? Divorcing a third time? Telling your husband she has feelings for him. Nope. Not in your house. I’m not a confrontational person, actually I usually let people walk all over me. But this is crazy. Do not hide and feel uncomfortable in your own house! I also would stand there while they are talking. I mean she’s the one being rude to you and also trying to get alone time with your husband. Be there always. Hopefully, she will see the pattern and start leaving more quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Emotions, family and romantic history are hard. This is not. You have more access.

Give him release everyday like clockwork. Use your face. With that, if you keep your emotions in check, won’t have any problems you can’t fix. It works. -Female.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This woman is so toxic. Leaving your husband to get back with the first husband? Divorcing a third time? Telling your husband she has feelings for him. Nope. Not in your house. I’m not a confrontational person, actually I usually let people walk all over me. But this is crazy. Do not hide and feel uncomfortable in your own house! I also would stand there while they are talking. I mean she’s the one being rude to you and also trying to get alone time with your husband. Be there always. Hopefully, she will see the pattern and start leaving more quickly.

+1 This is not something you need to tolerate. It’s inappropriate and disrespectful. If she brings up having feelings for your DH, he should say that he’s not comfortable with that topic of conversation, out of respect for you. And you do not have to make yourself scarce. Its your home, not hers.

[Anonymous]

Anyone else remember this poster? This whole scenario is very familiar, like I've read it here before.

[Anonymous]

The ex wife is on her THIRD marriage that’s all we need to know. I’m sorry for you, but sadly this is not that unusual. Some exes are crazy and don’t know boundaries. And I feel like they are more crazy ex wives than crazy ex husbands. You will not find many ex husbands hoping to get back with their ex wives that are married.

Sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

How old is the step daughter?

[Anonymous]

Is this a Troll post of the Troll post on having feelings on ex husband.

Man DCUM sux more and more each month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She wants to “live her true authentic life?”

WTH does that mean? I would call out him- and her- on that statement alone.

Mature, decent people do not put their own selfish needs to “be authentic,” (aka do whatever the hell they want to do with no consequences) ahead of the best interests of people in their life, namely their spouses and children. She is proving that she is neither mature nor decent. She is also most likely a bit crazy.

Your DH needs to take a firm stand on this. The innocent victim is their child. I hope you OP will do everything possible to be a positive influence in this child’s life.

With a mother like that, she’s going to need it.

That statement is a loaded statement because she used it to explain why she was telling my husband about her feelings and also to explain something else that happened in her current marriage that has caused a rift in that marriage. Something I would rather not post here but has nothing to do with my hubby.

My step daughter and I have a good respectful relationship. She is a Wonderful human. She has a good relationship with her mom too, I don't want to undermine that.

NP. This too shall pass. Probably around the time the ex finds someone else to bankroll her. I think your best bet is to play it as cool as you can while also not ceding any ground. Don't hide upstairs when she's there. If anything, invite her in and make tea and sit down with the two of them. You and your husband should be the mature adults here. The ex is not.

[Anonymous]

If your DH understands and is on board (either agreeing, or seeing your point) perhaps you should be the one to answer the door half the time.