Begging on Nextdoor app

[Anonymous]

It's no longer shameful to beg and teenagers view it as like the first step you take to reach a financial goal such as saving money for a car. You should call out the grown adults who have money but beg, they usually go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Restrict the geography of the posts you see. Nextdoor is dying and they are including posts from a wider area in order to make it appear more active

No wonder. It's 90% posts about dogs then the rest are a mix of "suspicious" persons, begging, or stupid topics that used to go up on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

The post that really got to me was the one for a newly-arrived Ukrainian family. They were directly asking for everything needed to equip a home. I was perfectly fine with that and was thinking about what I could contribute that I already had--until they asked for an electric espresso coffee maker (which are usually more expensive than a drip coffee maker). Given how frugally I lived during my 20s when all I could afford was rent and food, I was taken aback by that request.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Restrict the geography of the posts you see. Nextdoor is dying and they are including posts from a wider area in order to make it appear more active

No wonder. It's 90% posts about dogs then the rest are a mix of "suspicious" persons, begging, or stupid topics that used to go up on Facebook.

For my Nextdoor feed, I'd say 50% lost pets/pets for adoption, 25% crime posts, 20% requests for $, and then 5% other stuff.

[Anonymous]

if nextdoor just included my neighborhood it would be fine. But, it is about a 25 mile wide circle and it's too much.

[Anonymous]

Mine was filled with posts from a guy who said he was too proud to ask for money but if anyone was willing to order food from him (he's a chef) he'd pay them back with an order when he got back on his feet. Tons of orders, which you can still find on that post. Nothing for nine months. I just saw he posted again saying, I'm back and if you still want your food to text him and he'd try to get to you. I don't actually care at this point but now it all seems scammy.

[Anonymous]

I never signed up for that because reading some posts I got the impression it was gossipy to the extreme. Not my cup of tea. Is it even moderated ?
Mostly it's people looking for freebies. Some think it's a personal journaling site. If someone is hungry I'll give you a gift card to buy groceries but I won't do the buying, cooking, delivery. Gotta draw that line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last time I used Nextdoor was 5 years ago so I almost never use. I decided to sign in to look for service/trades person but I see quite a few people on there basically begging. They make a post explaining all their troubles and leave their cash app or Venmo handle asking for donations. When did digital begging become a thing?

Those are scams and panhandlers. It's all over sm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The post that really got to me was the one for a newly-arrived Ukrainian family. They were directly asking for everything needed to equip a home. I was perfectly fine with that and was thinking about what I could contribute that I already had--until they asked for an electric espresso coffee maker (which are usually more expensive than a drip coffee maker). Given how frugally I lived during my 20s when all I could afford was rent and food, I was taken aback by that request.

I don’t understand what you being poor in your 20s has to do with the refugees wishing for nice things.
These people have already experienced enough trauma, maybe an espresso machine would brighten their day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The post that really got to me was the one for a newly-arrived Ukrainian family. They were directly asking for everything needed to equip a home. I was perfectly fine with that and was thinking about what I could contribute that I already had--until they asked for an electric espresso coffee maker (which are usually more expensive than a drip coffee maker). Given how frugally I lived during my 20s when all I could afford was rent and food, I was taken aback by that request.

I don’t understand what you being poor in your 20s has to do with the refugees wishing for nice things.
These people have already experienced enough trauma, maybe an espresso machine would brighten their day.

I would also be turned off by such an expensive, unnecessary request.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The post that really got to me was the one for a newly-arrived Ukrainian family. They were directly asking for everything needed to equip a home. I was perfectly fine with that and was thinking about what I could contribute that I already had--until they asked for an electric espresso coffee maker (which are usually more expensive than a drip coffee maker). Given how frugally I lived during my 20s when all I could afford was rent and food, I was taken aback by that request.

We donated a loft bed to the Ukrainians in our neighborhood. I think of that every time the mother posts something racist on NextDoor. Your kid has a place to sleep because my Black teen son was generous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The post that really got to me was the one for a newly-arrived Ukrainian family. They were directly asking for everything needed to equip a home. I was perfectly fine with that and was thinking about what I could contribute that I already had--until they asked for an electric espresso coffee maker (which are usually more expensive than a drip coffee maker). Given how frugally I lived during my 20s when all I could afford was rent and food, I was taken aback by that request.

I don’t understand why. If you have an espresso machine to donate, why not do it, especially to a family who fled war?

I don’t understand what you being poor in your 20s has to do with the refugees wishing for nice things.
These people have already experienced enough trauma, maybe an espresso machine would brighten their day.

I would also be turned off by such an expensive, unnecessary request.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The post that really got to me was the one for a newly-arrived Ukrainian family. They were directly asking for everything needed to equip a home. I was perfectly fine with that and was thinking about what I could contribute that I already had--until they asked for an electric espresso coffee maker (which are usually more expensive than a drip coffee maker). Given how frugally I lived during my 20s when all I could afford was rent and food, I was taken aback by that request.

We donated a loft bed to the Ukrainians in our neighborhood. I think of that every time the mother posts something racist on NextDoor. Your kid has a place to sleep because my Black teen son was generous.

So tell them just that.

It’s also a completely different situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine was filled with posts from a guy who said he was too proud to ask for money but if anyone was willing to order food from him (he's a chef) he'd pay them back with an order when he got back on his feet. Tons of orders, which you can still find on that post. Nothing for nine months. I just saw he posted again saying, I'm back and if you still want your food to text him and he'd try to get to you. I don't actually care at this point but now it all seems scammy.

Oh I know who you are talking about - he posts the same thing in a FB group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The post that really got to me was the one for a newly-arrived Ukrainian family. They were directly asking for everything needed to equip a home. I was perfectly fine with that and was thinking about what I could contribute that I already had--until they asked for an electric espresso coffee maker (which are usually more expensive than a drip coffee maker). Given how frugally I lived during my 20s when all I could afford was rent and food, I was taken aback by that request.

We donated a loft bed to the Ukrainians in our neighborhood. I think of that every time the mother posts something racist on NextDoor. Your kid has a place to sleep because my Black teen son was generous.

I think you should tell her that.