What should I do with my college freshman daughter with her relationship and her social media?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter's behavior goes against all of that. Here is what I would suggest: First, put your foot down and make it clear that this relationship with the Indian boyfriend is unacceptable. Their inappropriate interactions and his encouragement of lewd behavior is corrupting your daughter's morals and virtue. Insist that she ends things with him immediately. Second, restrict her access to social media and the internet. All that idle time spent seeking empty validation and attention is clearly damaging. Limit her phone and computer use and encourage real-world social interaction with friends of good moral character. Third, consider transferring her to a private religious college or university. Public secular campuses today are hotbeds of liberal indoctrination that warp young minds. At a conservative Christian school, she will be exposed to proper values and learn discipline. Finally, do not hesitate to lay down strict rules and harsh punishment if she continues to rebel. While she may protest, you are acting in her best interest. Remind her of her duty to family and faith. With a firm guiding hand, you can steer her back to the righteous path. Compromise and permissiveness will only make the situation worse. Stand strong, set clear rules and consequences, limit bad influences, and instill good conservative virtues. With diligent parenting, you can turn your daughter's life around.

Surefire way to be cut out of the daughter’s life…. But honestly OPs on that path anyway

[Anonymous]

Race has never been an issue for me. I have some great Indian friends. My concern are more with the pictures and her grades. It hits my bottom line, but it seems that in today's culture, the pictures might not be a big issue, which surprises me once again.

[Anonymous]

Confiscate her phone and limit social media access. Those outlets are clearly being used irresponsibly and distracting her from her studies and real life. Cut them off until she proves she can handle them responsibly.

Put an immediate end to this inappropriate relationship. That Indian boy is clearly a bad influence and will only continue to corrupt your daughter's morals. Forbid her from seeing or contacting him.

Lay down strict rules and consequences for misbehavior. Curfews, dress codes, no dating - whatever it takes. She has lost her privileges and needs to earn them back through good behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Race has never been an issue for me. I have some great Indian friends. My concern are more with the pictures and her grades. It hits my bottom line, but it seems that in today's culture, the pictures might not be a big issue, which surprises me once again.

Great, so leave the boyfriend out of it and just mention your concerns about her grades and the risks of sexting. Done.

And really, stop using the “I have friends who are Indian” line; it just double downs on suggesting you do have bias…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Confiscate her phone and limit social media access. Those outlets are clearly being used irresponsibly and distracting her from her studies and real life. Cut them off until she proves she can handle them responsibly.

Put an immediate end to this inappropriate relationship. That Indian boy is clearly a bad influence and will only continue to corrupt your daughter's morals. Forbid her from seeing or contacting him.

Lay down strict rules and consequences for misbehavior. Curfews, dress codes, no dating - whatever it takes. She has lost her privileges and needs to earn them back through good behavior.

The daughter is an adult…. Who presumably lives away from home at college. Yea, no to this.

[Anonymous]

sit down with your daughter and have a serious heart-to-heart talk. Express your concern for her in a caring but firm manner. Explain how her current path is damaging and will lead nowhere good. Set clear rules and consequences to curb inappropriate behavior, like sending lewd photos. She may protest, but stand your ground - you are doing this out of love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sit down with your daughter and have a serious heart-to-heart talk. Express your concern for her in a caring but firm manner. Explain how her current path is damaging and will lead nowhere good. Set clear rules and consequences to curb inappropriate behavior, like sending lewd photos. She may protest, but stand your ground - you are doing this out of love.

Just be prepared that taking this stance when the daughter is already “rebellious” will lead to estrangement. And rightfully so: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a44178122/family-estrangement-cut-off-parents/

[Anonymous]

Ignore the boyfriend. Are you paying for college? Tell her if she doesn't bring her average up to a B by the end of next semester you won't pay for school anymore.

The pictures are her issue. Every woman has had a bad boyfriend at some point - this is hers.

[Anonymous]

Lay down the law. Tell her in no uncertain terms that this behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. Enforce strict consequences if she does not change, such as cutting off her funding or bringing her home from that den of iniquity.

[Anonymous]

This is the stance I would take. Privacy in the internet doesn’t exist. Does she intend to apply for internships and future employment? How would she feel if this young man sent these photos to other people? This stuff doesn’t go away. Safety first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter's behavior goes against all of that. Here is what I would suggest: First, put your foot down and make it clear that this relationship with the Indian boyfriend is unacceptable. Their inappropriate interactions and his encouragement of lewd behavior is corrupting your daughter's morals and virtue. Insist that she ends things with him immediately. Second, restrict her access to social media and the internet. All that idle time spent seeking empty validation and attention is clearly damaging. Limit her phone and computer use and encourage real-world social interaction with friends of good moral character. Third, consider transferring her to a private religious college or university. Public secular campuses today are hotbeds of liberal indoctrination that warp young minds. At a conservative Christian school, she will be exposed to proper values and learn discipline. Finally, do not hesitate to lay down strict rules and harsh punishment if she continues to rebel. While she may protest, you are acting in her best interest. Remind her of her duty to family and faith. With a firm guiding hand, you can steer her back to the righteous path. Compromise and permissiveness will only make the situation worse. Stand strong, set clear rules and consequences, limit bad influences, and instill good conservative virtues. With diligent parenting, you can turn your daughter's life around.

Is this a joke?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter, a freshman in college, currently has an Indian boyfriend. I've recently discovered that she's been sending him many inappropriate photos. He encourages her to do so, and she seems deeply invested in this relationship. She almost has no personal life, constantly updating social media, even when there's no substantial content, just to grab attention. Her first semester ended at very low GPA. Despite our efforts and the time and energy we've invested in her, she remains rebellious and unwilling to listen to us. I just want to protect her and help her see the reality of the situation, allowing her to understand how to safeguard herself. How should I approach advising her?

Indian or American with Indian heritage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does him being Indian have anything to do with it? The fact you started with that makes me think you might be scapegoating her struggles on him… and unfairly.

I would not mention the relationship AT ALLL but bring up your concerns about her GPA separately.

NP. I wondered if OP meant that he was an online international boyfriend. You are correct that the specific nationality shouldn't matter, but if it's an online relationship only that certainly seems a little scammy.

That is scammy. I thought its another student at her school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter's behavior goes against all of that. Here is what I would suggest: First, put your foot down and make it clear that this relationship with the Indian boyfriend is unacceptable. Their inappropriate interactions and his encouragement of lewd behavior is corrupting your daughter's morals and virtue. Insist that she ends things with him immediately. Second, restrict her access to social media and the internet. All that idle time spent seeking empty validation and attention is clearly damaging. Limit her phone and computer use and encourage real-world social interaction with friends of good moral character. Third, consider transferring her to a private religious college or university. Public secular campuses today are hotbeds of liberal indoctrination that warp young minds. At a conservative Christian school, she will be exposed to proper values and learn discipline. Finally, do not hesitate to lay down strict rules and harsh punishment if she continues to rebel. While she may protest, you are acting in her best interest. Remind her of her duty to family and faith. With a firm guiding hand, you can steer her back to the righteous path. Compromise and permissiveness will only make the situation worse. Stand strong, set clear rules and consequences, limit bad influences, and instill good conservative virtues. With diligent parenting, you can turn your daughter's life around.

If she is 15, it may work but 18+ is a legal adult. A semester abroad could reset everything.

[Anonymous]

You could have her watch the documentary Most Hated Man on the internet