Spin off: do you have a relationship with a stepparent if your bio parent dies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad and my stepmom have been married for 40 years (I'm 45). They don't have kids together and she doesn't have bio kids. I'm very close to my mom. My stepmom has been part of my life since I was little and even though she's not my favorite person, yes - I will maintain a relationship with her if/when my dad dies.

This is the same for me, but we both maintain the relationship with each other because we want to.

I’m the poster that you are quoting. My older brother feels differently and is much more upset with how she’s behaving through my dad’s recent health crisis.

I have a sister who does not have the same relationship I have with stepmom. Without getting into all of it, there are some frustrations with our father's death being mainly focused on her loss rather than it being a joint loss amongst his children and her. There's a bit of frustration on how the estate was split too. It's caused a little bit of "feelings" between my sister and I but we try to avoid discussing it much now. We are fortunate there is not more drama as I know of people who have much worse stories. It can cause a huge shake up in family dynamics and often brings out a lot of repressed negative feelings.

I am really sorry for your loss. I just rounded 2 years and I am still struggling a bit.

[Anonymous]

It depends. My husband's stepmom was terrible to him, so no. If she had been kind, he would have kept in touch.

[Anonymous]

I refused to have anything to do with my stepfather while he was still alive. So after my mother passed, that did not change. My sibling kept in contact with him, and treated him almost like a bio dad.

[Anonymous]

I would!! My step dad has been a parent to me since I was 8 years old. He's Pop-pop to my kids. He's a parent, no matter what happens to my mom. (And for what it's worth, I also have an involved and loving dad).

In fact, all three of my parents signed some paperwork when I was a kid so even if my mom had died when I was young, my dad and my stepdad would have continued to share custody.

[Anonymous]

My stepmom is cool and I would hope that when my dad passes away we wouldn't lose touch especially given I am close to my stepsiblings and their children and my bio sibling is estranged from the family.

[Anonymous]

After my mom's father died, we've all stayed in touch with her stepmother. She's the mother of my mom's much-younger half-siblings. Stepmom has also been an active grandparent to me and my siblings, and subsequently to our kids. We're happy for the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would!! My step dad has been a parent to me since I was 8 years old. He's Pop-pop to my kids. He's a parent, no matter what happens to my mom. (And for what it's worth, I also have an involved and loving dad).

In fact, all three of my parents signed some paperwork when I was a kid so even if my mom had died when I was young, my dad and my stepdad would have continued to share custody.

This is lovely. I wonder if this is what Glennon and Abby and Glennon's ex signed.