I have hashimoto as well and i strongly believe it impacted my fertility! |
Please don’t generalize! Many people dealing with infertility wouldn’t consider DE for personal/ethical and religious reasons etc (I am one of them)! It’s not just the fertile people with kids of their own! I personally worry about if siblings (that were donated as embryos to different families) eventually end up marrying each other! it will be a mess! Glad though to hear you are open with your kids about it! Unfortunately not everyone is! Wishing you all the best and I sincerely don’t mean any offense to you or your family in any way! |
Plus one with failed IVF cycles and morally against DE unless gifted to you by someone you know |
PP - no one is gifting me eggs lol |
Curious if you are also against sperm donor usage? |
Yes, I am against all donor options (egg, sperm, embryo). |
I am looking for an outside monitor in DMV area. I will start IVF with Dr Luk next month. May I which clinic you used for outside monitor? Better one that accepts my BCBS FEP insurance for the outside monitoring. Thanks. |
Dominion Fertility will do outside monitoring. Highly unlikely your insurance will cover it. |
I'm not the same poster but also did NYC/outside monitoring; after a lot of research, I went to Annandale OBGYN (they hvae multiple offices) because a lot of CNY patients go there, and they became so popular and well-versed in how to do the outside monitoring that they hired more technicians just to support this. It means early appts (like 7AM), but they can draw your blood on-site and send to Labcorp quickly to get the same-day results your clinic will require. Then closer to the retrieval, you'll go up to NYC for daily monitoring. Also FWIW, I was 37 with bad DOR when I started for 2nd kid. Low AMH, high FSH (think it was 16 when I got tested at 37? eventually got it down to 12 but they say it's as good as your highest #), never conceived in 4 years of unprotected sex (our 1st kid was IUI baby), and did 5 IVF retrievals at 3 different clinics without success. Ended up conceiving naturally at 39 - so, I fully acknowledge these stories are rare and i personally hated hearing them bc realistically it doesn't happen for everyone and gives false hope. I guess my point is, unfortunately none of us hvae control over the final outcome - just know your limits and be open to anything and everything. I had pretty much given up and was trying to help my husband process the reality of having "only" one (which is a huge blessing in itself, I know), and originally said no to the wham-bam before I had to rush out of town lol. It was my husband who pressed, I ran out the door to catch my train, walked 30K steps in NYC the next 3 days and ate like total shit (was amaaaze) and that was my son. Wishing you the best of luck, and whatever happens, that you are at peace with your journey. |
Thank you sooooo much! Your story is very encouraging! Hopefully, everyone will get a happy result in the end. I took peter pan bus from union station to NYC. 4.5 hours each way. really a tough choice. :< |
About 1 in 10 couples who gave up on IVF after one or more failed cycles will conceive. We conceived on technically infertile sperm counts (<1 million). You can't bank on it to start decorating a nursery, but it is worth trying every month. |