Christmas gifts post-divorce

[Anonymous]

Easiest way to do this is set up a baby registry on Amazon with a shared list of presents, each of you buys what you want and you can clearly see who paid for what if you want to split the bill later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"My ex has decided recently to embrace a different religion and won’t be celebrating christmas (but isn’t against our child continuing to celebrate Christmas which we will)."

Does that religion have special holidays? If it does, then it would be important for your child to recognize that holiday, too. Child should spend time with dad for that holiday, get dad a gift or whatever else is appropriate, etc.

In other words, your child should not grow up thinking that celebrating Christmas with you is the only holiday that matters.

I agree but just like it’s OP’s responsibility to fund and plan Christmas, it should be the ex’s responsibility to fund and plan Eid or the High Holidays or whatever the new religion is.

I wouldn’t go out of my way to buy the ex presents unless that reciprocity is established in your parenting relationship.

[Anonymous]

You buy the gifts you want and say they are from you. He either mails gifts wrapped from him, or has a second christmas later this winter when he sees her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You buy the gifts you want and say they are from you. He either mails gifts wrapped from him, or has a second christmas later this winter when he sees her.

+1. When you divorce each parent becomes responsible for the holidays they choose to celebrate in their own house. Kids learn "I get two Xmases" or "Santa comes to both my houses."

Men really have to. e responsible for their own relationship with their child. It is not really Mom's responsibility to provide presents and say they are from him. In fact, if Dad has a new religion and doesn't celebrate Xmas, it could be insulting to give an Xmas present on his behalf.

Similarly, it is not Mom's responsibility to make the child participate in the new religion. Different people have differeng religions and if is fine to do each religion only with each parent.