If all communication is via snap chat- how can you know what is going on with your kid's phone????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Discord is a disaster too. It’s impossible for me to follow what they are talking about or doing.

Agree. Discord is also terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Try to keep your kid off Snapchat for as long as possible. Seriously.

We didn't allow it until age 18 and my kid knows that she has to occasionally open Snaps in front of me. We pay for her phone and have the right to see what's on it.

An 18 year old and you are checking her phone? Seriously?

No, sorry, that was a typo!! I’m this PP. We didn’t allow it until age 16. But I wish it could be 18. I hate Snapchat!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friendly reminder from a digital forensics investigator that snapchat messages do not disappear into the ether. They are still located on your child's phone AND so are the messages they receive. That is why it is so, so, SO important that if your child receives an inappropriate message from a friend or unknown person, they report it immediately.

I have personally been involved in numerous cases where recovered snapchat messages saved the case.

How do you see them? Where are they located?

[Anonymous]

Tell your child they have to have all snap conversations on “delete after 24hrs” and not delete immediately. Know their log in. Have snap on your own phone with their log in and you can log in at any time.

Watch a snap tutorial online so you know where to look for things. For Your Eyes folders are where a lot of kids hide things.

Also take a look at their pictures/videos and deleted pics/videos. Teens tend to screen record comment videos when they half swipe - meaning before they fully open them. That is where I have found the most info.

The snap group chats are where kids are at their worst and they are always listed. Sometimes a deleted comment here or there but most are dumb enough to just leave their comments for everyone to see.

[Anonymous]

Also look for Send It app. It works together with Snap to allow kids to anonymously post questions and kids bully the crap out of each other. It’s so toxic.

Kids also hide pictures in an app called calculator. So look for that app too.

My teens have downtime 10pm to 6am. I also have a parent code set up for app and screen time. You can make each app a specific time each day. So 1hr of tik tok and 2hrs of snap. They also can’t add or delete an app without my approval. I also don’t allow any social media during school hours.

[Anonymous]

No. You can change the settings so that the message is visible for 24 hours.

[Anonymous]

I would have hated my mom if she was listening in on my phone calls or checking my backpack for notes when I was a teen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Read the other thread about phones. How do you check your kid's phone if everything is via Snapchat? I can't see anything on there. Doesn't everything disappear once opened?

Spoiler: You can't.

You can absolutely contact Snap.

Just like you can get a print out of all texts, even deleted texts, from your cell phone provider.

We did this for a juvenile harassment case and won

[Anonymous]

I, myself, joined Snapchat, then we made our 15you son accept my invitation to join the Snap Chat family center I set up on my account. I cannot see any of his snaps, but I can see who his friends are and when he last snapped with them. For us, it was "if you don't join family center, then no snapchat." Is it a perfect solution, no? I don't think there is a perfect solution (aside from not allowing it altogether).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell your child they have to have all snap conversations on “delete after 24hrs” and not delete immediately. Know their log in. Have snap on your own phone with their log in and you can log in at any time.

Watch a snap tutorial online so you know where to look for things. For Your Eyes folders are where a lot of kids hide things.

Also take a look at their pictures/videos and deleted pics/videos. Teens tend to screen record comment videos when they half swipe - meaning before they fully open them. That is where I have found the most info.

The snap group chats are where kids are at their worst and they are always listed. Sometimes a deleted comment here or there but most are dumb enough to just leave their comments for everyone to see.

The most info about what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I, myself, joined Snapchat, then we made our 15you son accept my invitation to join the Snap Chat family center I set up on my account. I cannot see any of his snaps, but I can see who his friends are and when he last snapped with them. For us, it was "if you don't join family center, then no snapchat." Is it a perfect solution, no? I don't think there is a perfect solution (aside from not allowing it altogether).

But why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have hated my mom if she was listening in on my phone calls or checking my backpack for notes when I was a teen.

I tell my kids if you want to talk privately, do so in person or on a cell phone conversation. Even on FaceTime, kids screen shot.

Social media is permanent. We are talking sexting, underage pornography, bullying, harassment, assaults, and other things that ruin kids lives forever.

It isn’t the same as when we were kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have hated my mom if she was listening in on my phone calls or checking my backpack for notes when I was a teen.

I tell my kids if you want to talk privately, do so in person or on a cell phone conversation. Even on FaceTime, kids screen shot.

Social media is permanent. We are talking sexting, underage pornography, bullying, harassment, assaults, and other things that ruin kids lives forever.

It isn’t the same as when we were kids.

Right I get that. So are you checking to make sure your kid isn't doing the bullying and harassment and sexting? Is that the point of monitoring?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friendly reminder from a digital forensics investigator that snapchat messages do not disappear into the ether. They are still located on your child's phone AND so are the messages they receive. That is why it is so, so, SO important that if your child receives an inappropriate message from a friend or unknown person, they report it immediately.

I have personally been involved in numerous cases where recovered snapchat messages saved the case.

How do you see them? Where are they located?

I think this is mainly for law enforcement. But I believe they are kept on a cloud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell your child they have to have all snap conversations on “delete after 24hrs” and not delete immediately. Know their log in. Have snap on your own phone with their log in and you can log in at any time.

Watch a snap tutorial online so you know where to look for things. For Your Eyes folders are where a lot of kids hide things.

Also take a look at their pictures/videos and deleted pics/videos. Teens tend to screen record comment videos when they half swipe - meaning before they fully open them. That is where I have found the most info.

The snap group chats are where kids are at their worst and they are always listed. Sometimes a deleted comment here or there but most are dumb enough to just leave their comments for everyone to see.

This is an extremely helpful comment.

Also we live in a dystopian. This is Black Mirror.
If I had read this 5 years ago I would be so confused.