Mid-life crisis

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a happiness trough in midlife. People hit the upswing in their early 50s and generally happiness continues to improve. Hang in there. It’s a season of life.

Unless they royally screw up and have an affair and make a complete mess of their lives before snapping out of it.

It’s a strange thing to witness. They become like petulant children with no care for anyone but themselves. It’s like an alien invaded their body.

This! You could know them deeply for 20 years but when they’re in this stage you could look right at them and it’s their body but it’s not them in the body. My husbands eyes even looked different and occasionally his “real” self would come through and his eyes looked normal again. Man almost like a possession. So strange.

[Anonymous]

mid life crisis is bs.
it's an excuse for bad behavior. disrespect. severe selfishness. for either sex.
A friend of mine had her life nearly destroyed because her husband thought he could get away with nasty behavior. She still to this day never recovered. The thing I admired about her was when she found out she filed for divorce that same day and never looked back. At that moment any love she had for her husband stopped. He had his dream car from his teen years, a beautiful home, a dream job, no lie it was, massive amount of money to not only live on but to play with, no kids, so close to perfect yet he went and f'd that all up and caused my friend to fall into a deep deep depression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a happiness trough in midlife. People hit the upswing in their early 50s and generally happiness continues to improve. Hang in there. It’s a season of life.

Unless they royally screw up and have an affair and make a complete mess of their lives before snapping out of it.

It’s a strange thing to witness. They become like petulant children with no care for anyone but themselves. It’s like an alien invaded their body.

That self centeredness is like how a drowning man will bring the lifeguard down with them.

They see that death is right around the corner, that all the hopes and dreams of the youth are fading, some have absolutely failed, and they suddenly grab with desperation on things that will distract them from the loss, failure, and dimmed hopes for the future and reignite a feeling of youth.

So it’s understandable, but fundamentally selfish to not snap out of and instead focus on the legacy of your life with your spouse and family, planning on making the most of what you have built and what and who you will leave behind.

Oh this is really hilarious. My brother had what some might consider a "midlife crisis". I just see it as trading in for a newer model. His soon-to-be ex was hot in her time but is in her 40s now (he just turned 50). He hired a lab assistant out of college who is incredibly smart, and even bubblier and uber-hot. He couldn't believe it when she started coming on to him, and asked me what to do. Fact is he had felt dead inside with the wife and all the talk about the kids, and his heart was ready to move on. He just needed me to tell him what I saw, and he bit the bullet. So he got with her and is full of joy every time I see him. The ex is furious but the kids are what matter and they'll get over it as he never left them, just her.

When you are in a family like this one it’s best to just get out. Who needs in laws like this. Just wow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:mid life crisis is bs.
it's an excuse for bad behavior. disrespect. severe selfishness. for either sex.
A friend of mine had her life nearly destroyed because her husband thought he could get away with nasty behavior. She still to this day never recovered. The thing I admired about her was when she found out she filed for divorce that same day and never looked back. At that moment any love she had for her husband stopped. He had his dream car from his teen years, a beautiful home, a dream job, no lie it was, massive amount of money to not only live on but to play with, no kids, so close to perfect yet he went and f'd that all up and caused my friend to fall into a deep deep depression.

It’s not BS, it’s very real and yes very painful.

[Anonymous]

In a true midlife crisis like my husband had, they leave the kids as well. They basically feel the need to escape their normal lives at all cost and try to recapture feelings from their youth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I could have written your post OP. Two years and the girl he was in an affair with just tried to ruin his reputation and career so he hit a rock bottom of sorts but now says our marriage is irreparable. He is so lost. I’m starting a legal separation just to secure finances and a visitation schedule to make things more predictable for me and the kids.

Wow what did she do to try to ruin him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could have written your post OP. Two years and the girl he was in an affair with just tried to ruin his reputation and career so he hit a rock bottom of sorts but now says our marriage is irreparable. He is so lost. I’m starting a legal separation just to secure finances and a visitation schedule to make things more predictable for me and the kids.

Wow what did she do to try to ruin him?

Shared some private correspondence containing some info very damaging to his reputation. With congressmen etc. he’s a lobbyist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a happiness trough in midlife. People hit the upswing in their early 50s and generally happiness continues to improve. Hang in there. It’s a season of life.

Unless they royally screw up and have an affair and make a complete mess of their lives before snapping out of it.

It’s a strange thing to witness. They become like petulant children with no care for anyone but themselves. It’s like an alien invaded their body.

That self centeredness is like how a drowning man will bring the lifeguard down with them.

They see that death is right around the corner, that all the hopes and dreams of the youth are fading, some have absolutely failed, and they suddenly grab with desperation on things that will distract them from the loss, failure, and dimmed hopes for the future and reignite a feeling of youth.

So it’s understandable, but fundamentally selfish to not snap out of and instead focus on the legacy of your life with your spouse and family, planning on making the most of what you have built and what and who you will leave behind.

Oh this is really hilarious. My brother had what some might consider a "midlife crisis". I just see it as trading in for a newer model. His soon-to-be ex was hot in her time but is in her 40s now (he just turned 50). He hired a lab assistant out of college who is incredibly smart, and even bubblier and uber-hot. He couldn't believe it when she started coming on to him, and asked me what to do. Fact is he had felt dead inside with the wife and all the talk about the kids, and his heart was ready to move on. He just needed me to tell him what I saw, and he bit the bullet. So he got with her and is full of joy every time I see him. The ex is furious but the kids are what matter and they'll get over it as he never left them, just her.

So you aren’t actually his “brother” but the cheater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a happiness trough in midlife. People hit the upswing in their early 50s and generally happiness continues to improve. Hang in there. It’s a season of life.

Unless they royally screw up and have an affair and make a complete mess of their lives before snapping out of it.

It’s a strange thing to witness. They become like petulant children with no care for anyone but themselves. It’s like an alien invaded their body.

That self centeredness is like how a drowning man will bring the lifeguard down with them.

They see that death is right around the corner, that all the hopes and dreams of the youth are fading, some have absolutely failed, and they suddenly grab with desperation on things that will distract them from the loss, failure, and dimmed hopes for the future and reignite a feeling of youth.

So it’s understandable, but fundamentally selfish to not snap out of and instead focus on the legacy of your life with your spouse and family, planning on making the most of what you have built and what and who you will leave behind.

Oh this is really hilarious. My brother had what some might consider a "midlife crisis". I just see it as trading in for a newer model. His soon-to-be ex was hot in her time but is in her 40s now (he just turned 50). He hired a lab assistant out of college who is incredibly smart, and even bubblier and uber-hot. He couldn't believe it when she started coming on to him, and asked me what to do. Fact is he had felt dead inside with the wife and all the talk about the kids, and his heart was ready to move on. He just needed me to tell him what I saw, and he bit the bullet. So he got with her and is full of joy every time I see him. The ex is furious but the kids are what matter and they'll get over it as he never left them, just her.

So you aren’t actually his “brother” but the cheater.

Haha same thing I thought when I read this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a happiness trough in midlife. People hit the upswing in their early 50s and generally happiness continues to improve. Hang in there. It’s a season of life.

Unless they royally screw up and have an affair and make a complete mess of their lives before snapping out of it.

It’s a strange thing to witness. They become like petulant children with no care for anyone but themselves. It’s like an alien invaded their body.

That self centeredness is like how a drowning man will bring the lifeguard down with them.

They see that death is right around the corner, that all the hopes and dreams of the youth are fading, some have absolutely failed, and they suddenly grab with desperation on things that will distract them from the loss, failure, and dimmed hopes for the future and reignite a feeling of youth.

So it’s understandable, but fundamentally selfish to not snap out of and instead focus on the legacy of your life with your spouse and family, planning on making the most of what you have built and what and who you will leave behind.

Oh this is really hilarious. My brother had what some might consider a "midlife crisis". I just see it as trading in for a newer model. His soon-to-be ex was hot in her time but is in her 40s now (he just turned 50). He hired a lab assistant out of college who is incredibly smart, and even bubblier and uber-hot. He couldn't believe it when she started coming on to him, and asked me what to do. Fact is he had felt dead inside with the wife and all the talk about the kids, and his heart was ready to move on. He just needed me to tell him what I saw, and he bit the bullet. So he got with her and is full of joy every time I see him. The ex is furious but the kids are what matter and they'll get over it as he never left them, just her.

So you aren’t actually his “brother” but the cheater.

Haha same thing I thought when I read this.

And he “hired” her so wait until she sues him for sexual harassment when she is bored with him and his two kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a happiness trough in midlife. People hit the upswing in their early 50s and generally happiness continues to improve. Hang in there. It’s a season of life.

Unless they royally screw up and have an affair and make a complete mess of their lives before snapping out of it.

It’s a strange thing to witness. They become like petulant children with no care for anyone but themselves. It’s like an alien invaded their body.

That self centeredness is like how a drowning man will bring the lifeguard down with them.

They see that death is right around the corner, that all the hopes and dreams of the youth are fading, some have absolutely failed, and they suddenly grab with desperation on things that will distract them from the loss, failure, and dimmed hopes for the future and reignite a feeling of youth.

So it’s understandable, but fundamentally selfish to not snap out of and instead focus on the legacy of your life with your spouse and family, planning on making the most of what you have built and what and who you will leave behind.

Oh this is really hilarious. My brother had what some might consider a "midlife crisis". I just see it as trading in for a newer model. His soon-to-be ex was hot in her time but is in her 40s now (he just turned 50). He hired a lab assistant out of college who is incredibly smart, and even bubblier and uber-hot. He couldn't believe it when she started coming on to him, and asked me what to do. Fact is he had felt dead inside with the wife and all the talk about the kids, and his heart was ready to move on. He just needed me to tell him what I saw, and he bit the bullet. So he got with her and is full of joy every time I see him. The ex is furious but the kids are what matter and they'll get over it as he never left them, just her.

He (you) should enjoy the sex and attention while it lasts, because the young woman doesn't want to be StepMommy to a bunch of brats who now have Daddy issues.