Dad keeps getting in contact with much younger women who are obviously scammers- what to do?

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Anonymous wrote:My dad (75, widowed when I was a teen) is a very smart, accomplished guy who still works full time and lives alone. However, over the past year he has been in touch with at least a few young women (or so they say) in their 30s over text/WhatsApp or another disappearing text program. I don’t know how contact was initially made.

They have gone like this- they send him pictures of them doing “fancy” things. Driving expensive cars, fancy dinners. Instagram-bragging stuff. They are bankers or jewelers. The first person claimed she was in Boston but I had to do some intense detective work to show how her pictures were fakes, and she was actually in China. Which is shouldn’t have even needed to do to prove she was sketchy! She didn’t get to her “scam” yet but I as 99% sure it was something with crypto.

Next person is in LA, from Russia- a “jeweler”. I can tell this person is editing her pics so you can’t really reverse image search her, but I am sure she is not in the US and the pictures are so filtered it’s just ridiculous. The scam has not emerged yet…but I’m sure it will be revealed soon.

How can I convince my dad to stop talking to people who are obviously fake people from different countries who have a scam in mind? It should be as easy as thinking “gee why would a very young successful person in the US want to talk to a 75 year old man?”
Maybe he’s okay with it since he’s lonely? He hasn’t actually been scammed but it makes me nervous that he is even entertaining these people. What can I do?



Check for dementia. Sounds delusional and lacking judgement (which is part of the disease).


This. also, start talking about finances with him. Tell him you are setting up your will and power of attorney (financial and healthcare) and are wondering if he has any advice based on how he has things set up. Maybe that can segue into a conversation about what powers he wants you to have.

Also, in a separate conversation, tell him you think those people may be scammers. Join NextDoor with him and convince him to ask for opinions there. Pretend to be shocked with him at how common these scams are and how easy they are to fall for.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You can say goodbye to any inheritance you thought you were going to get and prepare the guest room for dad for when he's completely out of money.


Lol. Nope, he can enjoy a Medicaid facility! NP
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