Did anyone regret marrying the “outdoor type”?
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| Watch out for men who hunt bobcats. |
Anonymous
| So are you going or is he going with his friends? |
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If this is a real question, I feel like being outdoorsy or not is a really easy thing to figure out while dating. Even early on while dating.
It’s not like conflict resolution skills or childhood trauma that tend to rear their heads much later in a relationship. If you’re asking about him leaving the kids with you while he scales El Capitan or something, that’s really a discussion about division of labor and valuing quality time. There are many ways to escape your family without stepping outside. |
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| I feel bad for him because it sounds like you were phony and manipulative leading up to marriage. Not a solid foundation for a relationship. |
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I dated one for 7 years and liked the outdoorsy lifestyle but it was just a tad too intense for me. A girl need a shower.
DH and I both love hiking and nature but also running water, so we are a good match. I do think this matters long term, especially if you have children. Ours went to nature preschool and are now comfortable hiking for long periods of time. We haven’t gone camping with them, though. |
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Bobcats! |
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Lions, and tigers, and bears, oh my! |
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Lemonheads |
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You mean cougars |
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No we mean bobcats on DCUM |
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| there are different degrees of outdoorsy. my friend dated a guy who had to constantly to really extreme outdoors stuff, at times dangerously pushing the limits of safety. that’s rough. but someone who just likes hiking a few times a month? fine, unless you really truly hate any hiking at all. |
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Honestly, the red flag here is that you lied to him.
I am “outdoorsy.” I grew up without indoor plumbing at times. I can hunt and skin and process game. I can sleep on grass and wipe with leaves. I can run a trot line and grow anything. My DH can do none of that…he is a city boy. It doesn’t matter at all because he has always been honest with me about who he is. If you can’t rock climb, now is a good time to tell the truth. You could seriously injure someone else or get hurt yourself if you don’t actually have that skill. That is much more important than this relationship based on lies. |
Anonymous
A good point here. My brother is an extreme—he does rock climbing in the Alps, ultramarathons in the desert, that kind of thing. His vacations all revolve around these events. I like more standard hiking, fishing, swimming, camping, etc. |