Nannyshare proposal- how would you approach?

[Anonymous]

You wrote above that your nanny is overwhelmed by your 3 kids at once, but you think it’s fine for her to have two babies at once? There will be many days your child won’t be sleeping and your nanny will have both kids awake. You don’t think this will be overwhelming? Not having a break in her day won’t be overwhelming? This is a really bad idea!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op this sounds kind of awful and you’re going to ruin things with your nanny, I’m telling you right now, as a nanny. So when your baby doesn’t sleep, she’s going to have a 12 months old and a baby awake at the same time, with different needs, on different schedules? No. Personally I won’t work for families who think every minute at work needs to be filled with work. I need to just sit down for 20-30 mins of my day to decompress and prepare for when the kids wake up from nap. When is this nanny going to eat?

You’d have to pay me $50/hr to even consider this

, and honestly my peace of mind is worth more than that! I don’t understand why you’re so desperate to provide childcare for your friend? You’re going to lose your own childcare in the process.

This is all I was looking for. We'll offer $50 an hour for those two hours a day.

[Anonymous]

4 kids under 4 is very difficult especially with different ages. No way. Given you are paying $32, she's better off getting her own nanny as how high do you really want to go especially for a meh nanny.

[Anonymous]

Find a new nanny and give her to your friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op this sounds kind of awful and you’re going to ruin things with your nanny, I’m telling you right now, as a nanny. So when your baby doesn’t sleep, she’s going to have a 12 months old and a baby awake at the same time, with different needs, on different schedules? No. Personally I won’t work for families who think every minute at work needs to be filled with work. I need to just sit down for 20-30 mins of my day to decompress and prepare for when the kids wake up from nap. When is this nanny going to eat?

You’d have to pay me $50/hr to even consider this

, and honestly my peace of mind is worth more than that! I don’t understand why you’re so desperate to provide childcare for your friend? You’re going to lose your own childcare in the process.

This is all I was looking for. We'll offer $50 an hour for those two hours a day.

Do you really think an extra $40/day is worth your nanny looking after another child? Looking forward to your nanny’s post on here, about looking for a new job.

[Anonymous]

You are taking on way too much liability and hassle to help out a friend. She doesn’t realize what she is asking if you. You need to turn her down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are taking on way too much liability and hassle to help out a friend. She doesn’t realize what she is asking if you. You need to turn her down.

This. Isn’t smart.

[Anonymous]

OP if it’s only 2 hours a day it’s not really a share. I think you can ask your nanny if she wants to do it for extra pay. I’d probably have jumped on it back when I was a Nanny.

[Anonymous]

Your nanny can barely handle your 3 kids do you think it’s smart to add another infant to the mix?

[Anonymous]

None of this makes any sense. How is 2 hours of care a day going to help your friend? With time required to pick-up and drop-off time and get the baby gear ready, that’s almost nothing.

[Anonymous]

Your friend will need to pay whatever you pay nanny per hour to make this at all inviting for your nanny. A 10 hour per week job isn’t worth only making 1/3-1/2 more per hour for those hours. Especially since you will be asking nanny to give up the time she uses to recharge for the rest of the day.

[Anonymous]

you seem to be proposing that your nanny open a preschool in your house...she's underwhelming with three kids under 4 and you want to have another one in the mix? That seems like it won't go well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll try to keep this brief but want to give the full story.

Our nanny started in January. She is fine- keeps the kids safe but that's it. Doesn't plan activities, doesn't do laundry, kids mess everywhere, has to check with me about every single decision, no initiative. We are sticking with it because childcare is very hard to find where we live (not DC) and our kids lost their beloved amazing nanny due to her spouse's relocation and they're still devastated.

We have three kids, age 4, 3 and 12 months. Older two are in 3hr preschool every day. I do pickup and drop-off because my office is in the school's building. Baby sleeps 2.5 hours during their school hours.

I have a good friend who had a baby recently and they won't be able to start daycare for awhile. She proposed a nanny share where she would drop-off her baby while mine is napping and the older kids are at school. I would really like to do it to help her out.

How would you broach this with our nanny? I don't want to insult her and say "hey here's my friend's baby to watch now"- I would never do that to her. If we offered her more an hour and asked if she was interested is that polite enough?

For context she doesn't do anything during those two hours, just watches tv or is on her phone. I'm not suggesting this because I don't want her sitting around but because it would really help out my friend who is desperate for childcare.


Here's even more context if you want to read it but not necessary, just dont' want to be accused of writing a novel:
-Our nanny was formerly this friend's older sister's nanny, everyone knows each other. In fact this friend's sister tried to poach our nanny for my friend not knowing we were friends, luckily our nanny said she was happy where she was.
-Our nanny is a baby person, NOT a toddler person. She is overwhelmed by all three kids at once. I work from home half the day and am with at least one kid for much of the day. She loves being with babies.
-We pay $32 an hour on the books with generous benefits.


Thanks for any insight. I don't want our nanny to feel obligated to say yes so I want to approach this delicately.

She's taking care of three young children and one more is likely the straw that broke the camel's back!

[Anonymous]

This is OP. I don't understand how so many people misread my post. At no time would our nanny be caring for four children. She is being offered an extra $20 an hour to watch my friends baby while my baby sleeps, for a max of two hours a day. This so so my friend can run errands, go to the doctor, start to was back into working etc. It's for 4-5 months until her daycare spot opens up.

FWIW our nanny enthusiastically said yes as she and her husband are saving for a house and she jumped at the extra income. After a lot of back and forth over logistics though she's going to go over to my friends house while I stay with the baby and my friend is going to pay her. No share.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find a new nanny and give her to your friends.

Give her? She's a human being not a possession. God some of you people must be treats to work with.

-OP