husband and football draft...

[Anonymous]

If it's about the money, I'd recommend the book "All Your Worth," which talks about budgeting (with fun money for both spouses).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Luckily, my dh does not do this. I would cut his balls off first then divorce him if he did that fantasy football/baseball crap.

Pero, es verdad que los gringos stupidos hacen eso mucho. Lo siento.

seriously!?!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your DH already had his balls cut off.

[aprilmayjune]

Is it really that bad? He's talking about a trip once a year to have some fun... My husband doesn't do this, and I've never really been close to anyone who has, so let me say up front that *I don't know a whole lot about this*... But if it makes him happy, and it's something he's done since before you were married (and you knew this) I personally don't see a big problem with it. It's not like he's going for the sole purpose of getting drunk and hitting up strip joints, and it doesn't sound like he's leaving you alone with a bunch of kids or anything yet, so before you guys tie yourselves down with kids, let him go have his fun, and you have yours.. Meanwhile suggest that next year his friends travel to him if you really don't like him travelling that far. As far as the other things go, you guys have the rest of your lives to take a romantic trip together, and your parents could always travel to you if you don't make it to them. I just don't believe in asking him to give up his once a year thing that he enjoys just because you're married now. I am sure I will get a lot of disagreements here, but that's just my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man here, I'll easily say that flying to LA in these circumstances seem very bad. What sort of commitment does he have to the relationship, if a draft takes precedence?

No man would really say this. On behalf of my husband (who is a big fantasy sports fan) - you should turn in your man card.

[Anonymous]

What if he was taking a guys trip with some friends - would you have an issues if it was just a regular trip? I think that married couples should take vacations together, but should also spend sometime apart - it's healthy. If he can't spend time with his friends, then he'll tell you that you can't spend time with yours.

[aprilmayjune]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man here, I'll easily say that flying to LA in these circumstances seem very bad. What sort of commitment does he have to the relationship, if a draft takes precedence?

No man would really say this. On behalf of my husband (who is a big fantasy sports fan) - you should turn in your man card.

lmao! -- you're definitely right though! (as well as your husband! )

[Anonymous]

They haven't even taken a honeymoon and he hasn't even met her parents, yet he has the money and time to fly to LOS ANGELES for a fantasy draft? Heck no. I can't believe that so many of you think it's okay. His priorities are off. They are newlyweds and he wants to fly across the country without her for a fantasy draft. No. This is not his best friend's bachelor party; it's not for someone's important birthday; it's a not a work trip with a fun weekend tacked on at the end. This seems ridiculous to me.

[Anonymous]

DO NOT reproduce with this guy!!!!

[Anonymous]

I can't believe so many of you think that suddenly the men you married are going to turn in to RomCom leading roles when you marry them. They are the same people you were before the ring is put on your finger. If he did fantasy sports before you were married, chances are - he's going to do them after. Big surprise!

[aprilmayjune]

Anonymous wrote:They haven't even taken a honeymoon and he hasn't even met her parents, yet he has the money and time to fly to LOS ANGELES for a fantasy draft? Heck no. I can't believe that so many of you think it's okay. His priorities are off. They are newlyweds and he wants to fly across the country without her for a fantasy draft. No. This is not his best friend's bachelor party; it's not for someone's important birthday; it's a not a work trip with a fun weekend tacked on at the end. This seems ridiculous to me.

However, it's something that she knew he did yearly before they were even married.. She is threatening to DIVORCE him over this. I just really think that it's completely unfair to ask him to give something up that he's been doing yearly since before they were married. If this was something new, that he'd just decided this year to take on, I would COMPLETELY agree with you. I honestly would, only given her situation, however, she knew to expect this.

[Anonymous]

I won my FF league, and my husband is the commissioner. When I read the subject line, I really wanted to disagree with what I thought your post would be about. However, we both read it and firmly think that you are right - your husband's priorities are screwed up and there are clearly larger issues at work here. My husband wholeheartedly said that this guy's a jerk, and I agree with him.

I also echo those who wonder how he even has the money to travel to LA.

[Anonymous]

What if the post say "my wife does a yearly girls trip for the past 10 years and even though we didn't have a honeymoom she still wants to go with the girls on her vacation, I can't believe she's being so selfish" - if we read a post like that, we'd be ripping the guy to shreds. But, because it's a guy and it's fantasy sports, he's a jerk and needs to take her on a romatic vacation to the Poconos ASAP.

Seriously?

On a side note: aprilmayjune, I like your style.

[Anonymous]

Um, if the wife didn't have a job then I would agree that she's being selfish. The guy can fully participate in fantasy football without traveling. He's not entitled to the trip - sometimes there's going to be things going on that will make the trip impossible that year.

[Anonymous]

I think the women who think this scenario is fine are either members of financially irresponsible households, or women who believe husbands always get to call all the shots in a marriage, or both.