Daughter's weight loss
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Anonymous
Right? But she told me she tried some medication for one day 6 months ago and it kept her up at night so she stopped taking it. She said she was doing it all on her own with exercise and portion control. And I believe her. |
Anonymous
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It sounds like she was morbidly obese (or at least 100+ overweight) which many times can have a mental component. I would let her lead. Maybe she isn't ready to go shopping or buy things. She may just need an "you look so happy." You know her best.
And frankly she probably will need meds to keep it off. Losing is hard, keeping it off is even harder. Embrace the meds! |
Anonymous
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Any time I see someone who lost a lot of weight now, I immediately assume they are on Ozempic. I feel bad for the people like your daughter who actually did it the hard (but healthier) way because I know we all assume they are getting the shots.
Anyway, I would recommend holding off on any clothes shopping until she has maintained for a while. She may lose more or gain some back. |
Anonymous
lol, you're a moron, obviously. I've lost 70 lbs before with no meds. |
Anonymous
| Super weird post. |
Anonymous
| Did you punish and shame her for being 100 pounds overweight? No? Then, no need to reward her now. She isn’t a child. |
Anonymous
On Reddit weight loss groups, that is really common for someone to lose 10 pounds or more a month. OP's DD could be 400 pounds and 50 pounds is not as difficult then losing 50 pounds at 240 start weight. |
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She likely started around 275. She's 5'8.
Regarding reward her - what some ppl seem to have issue with - why did she tell us then, if she didn't want it to be a deal? |
Anonymous
No you wouldn't the recovery is minimal for most people. |
Anonymous
1000%!!!! |
Anonymous
Yea, I would. She would tell me and I’ve been around her almost every day. |
Anonymous
Hmm I lost 40 in about five months at age 52 using noom. Dang I need to get back to that. |
Anonymous
There are often questions on reddit like "do you want people to mention your weight loss?" Some responses are on the side of "never mention weight loss unless you're sure it was intentional. It could be illness or depression and some people get self conscious thinking their weight is being monitored by others." Another camp says "yes definitely! I feel so bad that I have been losing for months and no one even notices. That makes me feel like my hard work was for nothing. Knowing people can tell provides positive encouragement." I personally have lost significant weight and I am in the first camp. My feeling is I am doing this for myself, not anyone else, and I don't want anyone to comment when I gain or lose. I don't want to be questioned about how I did it (natural way) and why (fear of Covid). I think more people are the opposite of me, though, and want to be noticed. Your daughter was probably thinking either "ugh, at 50 pounds lost it's obvious enough that I really need to say something and get it over with" or "how the heck have they not noticed I lost 50 pounds! I need to say something so they know about this accomplishment and know I am open to a little positive feedback!" You would know better than I if she sounded excited, anxious, matter of fact, etc. And you know what her history is and your history as a family. In an earlier post I suggested texting her and asking if she needs clothes or kitchen things. I would be mortified being offered a reward but others would be thrilled and since she brought it up, I think that's a safe and judgment free way to bring it up. |
Anonymous
There is very little evidence to support your theory regarding what is healthier. Or rather, I’m going to need some hard proof that your vague “harder” method is actually “healthier.” |
Anonymous
| Just reassure: No matter what package you come in, we love you. It takes a lot to lose weight and I’m so happy that you set a goal for yourself and achieved it! That must be really empowering for you! |