My theory - GenX vs Millennial parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps the younger parents are more anxious about their first kid than you are about your second? And they might be joining a new school community for the first time? I am way more laid back about my second child and already know the ropes of each school. - Older Millennial

this could be true.

I was more anxious with my first than my second.

-Xer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look at a college parent facebook page for a true read on the helicopter parents.

+1. Try University of MD for some laughs. JFC it is a shitshow. These parents are mostly genx with some younger boomers thrown in the mix.

+1

True of any school. I join just for the entertainment.

I'm on that UMD FB page. Some of it is a bit too much, but I've appreciated the info.

But, can you imagine when the children of Yers go to college?

[Anonymous]

I was born in the last year of X and therefore have a pretty even split of X and Millennial friends. I see no difference in parenting based on that. People don’t abruptly change from 12/31/79 to 1/1/80 or whatever year you use as the cutoff.

Now is there a huge difference between the oldest Xers and the youngest Millennials? More likely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The kids won't be hot mess. They will be fine. I was a helicopter parent with my 2nd one because of the pressure and expectations of his father. But also, but that time we had more money and I had more time to be with the child and not work. The father isn't millennial, but older X than I am. Many reasons to be more helicopter than before.

Oh they will be a hot mess. We are just starting to hire kids born in/after 2000 and after at work and they are all anxious, need constant praise, and are hypersensitive to criticism. Their work is good to great but managing their feelings takes a lot of time and effort. Sometimes stereotypes exist for a reason.

[Anonymous]

Breaking news, each generation parents differently.

[Anonymous]

You are wrong.

It depends in the individual’s racial and cultural background as well.

I’m a millennial parent and I don’t see this at all but I’m also a first generation immigrant in an area with other minorities. We’re not like this.

[Anonymous]

I know two Gen Xers with college freshmen who wanted to get assigned a random roommate, but the mom felt like she needed to find and choose the roommate instead. I don't think there's a clear-cut delineation between people who had kids in the 2000s and people who had kids in the 2010s. Helicopter parenting has been an issue for a while now.

[Anonymous]

I think there's helicopter parents in every generation. My boomer mom for example was a huge helicopter parent and I tend to be the opposite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there's helicopter parents in every generation. My boomer mom for example was a huge helicopter parent and I tend to be the opposite.

Forgot to add- I'm older millennial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m Gen X and have no idea what you’re talking about because I don’t hang around random school moms, just my close circle of friends.

I also dgaf how people parent their kids but I will side eye the gossip mom that asks too many personal questions about everyone’s kids and compares them against each other.

The one difference I have noticed is that millennial dads are way more involved with their kids at home and I find that to be a really great change.

Millennials Dads are deadbeats. I love the fact they make their wife work a 40 hour a week full time job in addition to doing 80 percent of house work. Then want a medal for doing 20 percent of housework.

As opposed to their boomer dad whose wife was a SAHM who did 90 percent of housework

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there's helicopter parents in every generation. My boomer mom for example was a huge helicopter parent and I tend to be the opposite.

I think people often parent in the opposite style to how they were raised. My parents were incredibly hands-off (didn’t have any idea where we were or what we were doing between the time we got out of school and the time we had to come for dinner, in the summer we were out and about around the neighborhood all day long w no supervision, etc). I am more helicopter-y w my own kids in terms of keeping a close eye on them and managing their EC schedules/keeping them involved in structured activities because I KNOW what kind of things kids get into when left unsupervised. But I also teach them how to do things on their own, and though I am sensitive and caring to their needs/emotions, I try really hard not to micromanage their every interaction/every situation they’re in like I see some helicopter parents do…

I don’t think this is so much a generational thing as an individual parent personality thing. I am a millennial w almost exclusively millennials as parents in my cohort/friend group and while some are the hovering/coddling type that is by no means the majority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m Gen X and have no idea what you’re talking about because I don’t hang around random school moms, just my close circle of friends.

I also dgaf how people parent their kids but I will side eye the gossip mom that asks too many personal questions about everyone’s kids and compares them against each other.

The one difference I have noticed is that millennial dads are way more involved with their kids at home and I find that to be a really great change.

Millennials Dads are deadbeats. I love the fact they make their wife work a 40 hour a week full time job in addition to doing 80 percent of house work. Then want a medal for doing 20 percent of housework.

As opposed to their boomer dad whose wife was a SAHM who did 90 percent of housework

Who are you talking about? It’s one family in particular isn’t it? I don’t know any millennial dads like you describe.

Now it’s my turn to share a perspective based on just one family I know: my own. My boomer dad was a total deadbeat: chronically unemployed/underemployed and also did no housework. Ahh the good old days..

[Anonymous]

The latchkey generation is handsoff with child rearing? Ya don't say....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The latchkey generation is handsoff with child rearing? Ya don't say....

Xers need to let this latchkey kid thing go. Do you think millennials suddenly had parents at home after school for some reason? No, ours were working too. We all ate bagel bites and watched trl unsupervised. Xers aren't special.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The latchkey generation is handsoff with child rearing? Ya don't say....

Xers need to let this latchkey kid thing go. Do you think millennials suddenly had parents at home after school for some reason? No, ours were working too. We all ate bagel bites and watched trl unsupervised. Xers aren't special.

I’d think if anything Gen X was more likely to have a parent at home after school given trends of women entering the workforce. I’m a millennial and everyone’s mom worked.