Products for tween with frizzy hair
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Anonymous
My hair did that, too - VERY frizzy top layer. A better haircut made a huge difference. This once a year thing probably just isn't going to work for her hair. |
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She may be curlier than she thinks once some weight it trimmed off and stops brushing it.
But regardless: Try a cream leave in conditioner, followed by a gel on wet hair. Comb, or rake with fingers, to distribute. Then "plop" the hair in an old shirt and sleep on it - Google plopping or pineappleing. In the morning, maybe clip it into a good shape but otherwise allow to air dry completely before messing with it. The less you touch curly hair the better it will look. |
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Your daughter's hair IS wavy or curly and she's managing it exactly the way she shouldn't. See tip #1 on this page-
https://jessicurl.com/pages/curly-care |
Anonymous
I bet it's actually curly. Take her to fiddleheads. They will help her. |
Anonymous
Thank you PP! As you can all tell I’m clueless about most hair (mine has always been quite short). I should have mentioned earlier that we moved out of the DC area a few years ago so I can’t take her to fiddleheads. But I welcome all suggestions and please keep them coming! |
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Ah gotcha re no longer being in the DC area. Check out Naturallycurly.com; they have a curly hair salon finder here-
https://www.naturallycurly.com/salons and there are other salon finders as well- https://curlmaps.com/ http://curlystylistnearme.com/ |
Anonymous
| Comb with a wide tooth comb only when wet. Never brush it. I just leave in maybe 10% of the conditioner in the shower. I only shampoo every 3-4 days. |
Anonymous
. Adding...I shower in the am and let my hair air dry. It looks terrible in the morning before the shower so night showering would not work for me. |
Anonymous
| 09:34 here again - sorry, I should have tested all the links before posting. All of them said there are no curly hair salons in DC. That's wrong - all three links are worthless. They probably charge salons to get listed so the ones who won't pay don't got listed. |
Anonymous
| Take her to a curly girl salon (Fiddleheads in DC, Oasis in MoCo, I'm sure someone else can chime in with a VA salon), and have them teach her how ton manage her hair and what products to use. Curly/wavy hair is usually dry, and needs lots of moisture (via product, not water). Also, no brushes, and no hairdryers unless your using a diffuser. And, no regular towels on your hair - go to REI and buy her a decent sized microfiber towel. The hair salon will teach her how to plop and then crunch her curls or waves, and what products to use |
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Hair oil / serum from the ears down. Just a dime size amount - trust me I have thick hair a few inches past my bra strap. The Small bottle of clear liquid from Frizz Ease at CVS is a good place to start. I use Verb Ghost Oil. My hair is not curly, it is maybe wavy if it’s above my shoulders, but it also does not dry sleek and shiny. To get the hair your daughter wants, she will need products, a blow dryer and a round brush.
On wet/damp hair I use a leave in conditioner. It doesn’t get on pillows - think of it as lotion for your hair. It’s not a mask that you rinse or like regular conditioner. However if your daughter is going to bed with wet hair, that’s most of her problem right there. She needs to dry her hair or wrap it in a microfiber towel and dry it in the morning. She doesn’t need to put it in a million sections and do a full blow out, but she needs to dry it until it’s 80% dry, use something like “It’s a 10” or heat protector spray in the ends, and go in with a round brush and smooth in our while aiming the dryer in a downward angle. She needs a nozzle on the end of the dryer to focus the heat. Once dry, apply the serum/oil from the ears down. If she had fly away at the crown, use hairspray and smooth the down. If she has a lot of flyaways look at how she styles her hair to see if something is causing breakage. |
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I think Kinky Curly Knot Today can be great for hair like this when used as a leave-in. Rub a bit between palms and apply evenly to the bottom half of damp hair. And then comb hair thoroughly to distribute. It will get worked up into the top half just from the comb or brush without weighing it down too much. For non-wash days, she could add a dollop of the conditioner to a water bottle and spritz hair before brushing with a wide tooth comb or curly-hair hairbrush.
The other product I like that’s pricier but even better results is Aveda’s curl prep. A little goes a long way. Apply evenly on damp hair after showering. And on non wash days, spritz hair with water and then apply the curl prep; finger comb or curly-hair brush to distribute. They almost always have sales online which helps with the cost! And keep hair trimmed. |
Anonymous
It’s curly. It doesn’t get cut enough or styled properly, and that’s why it doesn’t look curly. |
Anonymous
| Scissor & Comb in Takoma Park in another salon with good stylists for curls |
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9:45 again. Having curly hair or having a curly girl routine is a whole thing right now. I have lived with long, thick hair that is neither curly or straight for 40ish years and not everyone who doesn’t have hair that naturally dries smooth is secretly curly. I have done the curl creams and gels and diffusers and it is a lot of work and expensive products. I also run or swim 5 days a week (and played sports when I was OP’s daughter’s age) and I think most viral Tik tok curly routines are aimed at people who can go days or a week without washing their hair. A teen in puberty or active in sports cannot do that.
I stand by my recommendation that before OP’s daughter goes down the “maybe I’m secretly curly” rabbit hole, she learns how to blow her hair out smooth 2-3x a week. The other days, she can wear it in a loose bun or a braid. My method requires a blowdryer, a round brush, a heat spray and some frizz serum to get started. Brush similar to this - I’ve had maybe 2 brushes in 20 years. Both were under $20. I also have a Mason Pearson $$$ brush, but I’m an adult, with adult money to be frivolous with if I want. A basic round brush for styling and a basic paddle brush for smoothing / detangling is sufficient for a 12yr old. https://www.ulta.com/p/blowdry-shine-round-brush-pimprod2006137?sku=2544731 $8 Heat spray - https://www.ulta.com/p/heat-tamer-spray-prod2111184?sku=2111184 Frizz serum - https://www.ulta.com/p/weightless-shine-working-serum-frizz-taming-hair-smoothing-pimprod2023597?sku=2579382 Serum can get expensive, but I use one pump every time I dry my hair and a seemingly small bottle lasts me forever. So long that the product I wanted to recommend is no longer made. Try to get samples at Ulta or Sephora before you invest in a $40 product or it gets just as $$$$ as the multi product curly routines. She doesn’t need a fancy blow dryer. If her hair is very long or very thick, a nicer dryer does work a bit faster. This one is affordable and includes the focus nozzle for blow outs and a diffuser if she wants to try wavy styles. Another option is the “viral” Revlon round brush hair dryer. I have the Revlon, but it’s not my every day go-to tool. Personally I think it’s a bit hot for regular use without damaging hair and I think it might be a bit large and heavy for an 11/12 yr old. If you can get one on sale on Amazon for $20-30, it may be a nice option for days when you can style her hair for her - like picture day or a Jr high school dance. Especially if you don’t blow out your own hair and you are new to styling her hair texture. https://www.ulta.com/p/infinitipro-by-conair-quick-styling-salon-hair-dryer-xlsImpprod10881226?sku=2277168 https://www.ulta.com/p/one-step-volumizer-original-10-hair-dryer-hot-air-brush-xlsImpprod14811059?sku=2541171 |