If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…

[Anonymous]

My mom was super focused on what college her kids (and everyone's else's kids) attended. She has Alzheimer's disease and doesn;t remember that her husband died, but she still remembers what (Ivy league) college I went to and still tells people about it. it is totally nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom was super focused on what college her kids (and everyone's else's kids) attended. She has Alzheimer's disease and doesn;t remember that her husband died, but she still remembers what (Ivy league) college I went to and still tells people about it. it is totally nuts.

No one cares where you went!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this a sporting event issue? Or are they arguing about academics? My entire immediate family went to a large state flagship school. I grew up going to football games there, went when I attended school there, still wear school apparel in my early 50s. This is pretty common in that area, as there are not tons of affordable in-state choices for college. I now live out of state but watch games on TV, as I am a fan. My parents do, as well. They are lifelong fans, too.

My nephew attended a different in-state school. My parents do not wear gear for that school, but they also don’t argue with people online about the school they attended vs. the one my nephew attended… at least I would be very surprised to learn if they did so!

Does that help, OP?

Similar to this, my parents are sports fan of the state flagship I went to in the midwest - but they were fans before, during, and after my siblings and I attended.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom was super focused on what college her kids (and everyone's else's kids) attended. She has Alzheimer's disease and doesn;t remember that her husband died, but she still remembers what (Ivy league) college I went to and still tells people about it. it is totally nuts.

No one cares where you went!

I think my mom would have forgotten it if it wasn't an Ivy. My brother didn't go to a super prestigious college and she never talks about where he went to school. I don't think she remembers.

[Anonymous]

No arguing online or watching sports events, but then we're not sporty people. My DH will still wear a few of the (College) Dad sweatshirts around the house. My 4 kids mainly went to large state schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:…how much do you think about the college(s) that your kids attended?

Do you wear the college sweatshirt?
Do you watch college sporting events?
Do you argue online with others about it?

Not much other than missing the fortune which I paid over the years.

[Anonymous]

I was at the pool this weekend and there was a lady there bragging about how her grandchildren were in the gifted program and no it wasn’t because she was raising them. I had this thought that for some people the bragging never ends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom was super focused on what college her kids (and everyone's else's kids) attended. She has Alzheimer's disease and doesn;t remember that her husband died, but she still remembers what (Ivy league) college I went to and still tells people about it. it is totally nuts.

It is nuts but who cares. At this stage, she gets a pass for nutty things. Hug your nutty bragger.

[Anonymous]

No one ever objects when athlete parents brag but everyone objects on bragging by academic parents. Why?

[Anonymous]

Why do we dislike people saying that their kids are academically gifted? Why can't we jyst be happy for them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents (my kids grandparents) do not own any sweatshirts from my or my spouses college, which I graduated from 32 years ago. I don't even own any sweatshirts from my college! I wear sweatshirts from my kid's colleges though. Their grandparents do not

Same. Plus you gave me a laugh by picturing my parents in a sweatshirt! Dad wore a suit everyday growing up, except weekends. Then he wore chinos and a button up. My mom was the female version of that - and I'm not far off. I didn't wear a college sweatshirt in college!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do we dislike people saying that their kids are academically gifted? Why can't we jyst be happy for them?

Being gifted is meaningless and it's just bragadocious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom was super focused on what college her kids (and everyone's else's kids) attended. She has Alzheimer's disease and doesn;t remember that her husband died, but she still remembers what (Ivy league) college I went to and still tells people about it. it is totally nuts.

Obviously, this was big deal for her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do we dislike people saying that their kids are academically gifted? Why can't we jyst be happy for them?

Being gifted is meaningless and it's just bragadocious.

Yup. Only athletes need appreciation, recognition and encouragement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird. Just really weird. The grandparents must just be sad and lonely with no life of their own at this. I would just ignore it as a weird quirk.

why is spirit for anything sad? I didn’t go to a school with spirit and regret that. Friends who went to Notre Dame still make a yearly trip for a football game and always run into people.