Have you ever heard of anyone kicking their 16 year old out of the house?

[Anonymous]

I have a relative whose crazy step mother kicked him out at 16. He stayed with us for a while but we lived in a different state so he had to basically make his way to us with the money he had in his pocket — totally unsafe. She didn’t call us or anything — my parents would have driven to get him. When he ran out of money he called my parents collect from where he was and they went to get him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heard someone in our extended orbit may be kicking out their “uncontrollable” daughter. I didn’t even think that was legal. That said, I’m not sure how you control a 16 year old who is out of control. I’m also not sure if the kicking out is more of an ultimatum before the school year begins or legitimate.

They must be feeling pretty desperate to get to this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, my ex-wife kicked our daughter out at 14. She has lived with me for four years. Despite 50-50 custody on paper.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, my ex-wife kicked our daughter out at 14. She has lived with me for four years. Despite 50-50 custody on paper.

Why?

Also, I think kicking someone out of the house when they have another place to go, especially with a parent, is different than just kicking a kid out that then has to figure out what to do and ends up couch surfing or sleeping on the street.

[Anonymous]

I know a girl here in DC that this happened to. She wasn't a bad kid by any stretch of the imagination, but her mom is crazy evangelical weirdo who probably thinks wearing a crop top means you're trolling for tricks. It was just heartbreaking to watch and I wish I could have helped her but the circumstances made that impossible. I still think about her years later.

[Anonymous]

Sure. My dad kicked my brother out around 16. He stayed at a friends house. The friends parents knew how horrible my dad was and seemed happy to help.

I flew under the radar and had very little interaction with my dad. I still don’t know why he was so hard on my brother, 30 years later. My brother has 3 kids, the oldest just graduated high school, and he’s a truly awesome dad.

[Anonymous]

There is a pretty famous local case re this involving a mother who left her son with his AAU teammates while she moved to South Carolina.

Chris Jenkins went on to play for Villanova and win the national championship in 2016 against that same AAU teammate whose family took him in, Nate Britt (who went to Gonzaga for high school). Was a very sad situation and I have huge respect for the Britt family. When Jenkins was interviewed for the Final Four, he said the Britts were now his parents.

[Anonymous]

My mom was kicked out at age 16.

[Anonymous]

Yes, back in the 1970s. Emancipated minors at 16, several. They were all wild kids, I guess you'd say. They did not finish high school either.

One I still heard of after high school died of alcoholism at 40; he had been chronically homeless. A friend of mine's mother kicked out one son at 18 and was able to send the other son to juvenile hall at 16 even though he had never been arrested. The mom was abusive and a liar. He too died of alcoholism at 40.

My son had a friend in high school who was taken in by church members when the mom and dad abandoned him. I think they were drug addicts. He moved several states away to live with relatives after graduation.

I also know someone who sent their daughter to a rehab/boarding school for her sophomore year. That had a good outcome.

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[Anonymous]

I was kicked out when I was 16. My mother had been saying I'd be kicked out then for years, so I had saved as much money as possible and although was hoping she'd forget or change her mind, I was also sort of prepared. She just REALLY deeply wasn't into being a parent, and I cramped her style. I couch-surfed between 4-5 friends. I'd never stay more than a month at a time - I figured that was as long as anyone could stand me. I'd go home to "visit" and pick up mail maybe every other month? But it was like for an hour or two max. Got a full scholarship to college, left and never told my mother where I was going. When I told her I was applying to schools and needed info from her she laughed and said I'd never get through school without getting knocked up. At that point I'd spent over a year hearing how other parents talked to their kids and that comment crystalized to me how much she was unsupportive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was kicked out when I was 16. My mother had been saying I'd be kicked out then for years, so I had saved as much money as possible and although was hoping she'd forget or change her mind, I was also sort of prepared. She just REALLY deeply wasn't into being a parent, and I cramped her style. I couch-surfed between 4-5 friends. I'd never stay more than a month at a time - I figured that was as long as anyone could stand me. I'd go home to "visit" and pick up mail maybe every other month? But it was like for an hour or two max. Got a full scholarship to college, left and never told my mother where I was going. When I told her I was applying to schools and needed info from her she laughed and said I'd never get through school without getting knocked up. At that point I'd spent over a year hearing how other parents talked to their kids and that comment crystalized to me how much she was unsupportive.

That last line hits close to home. Reminds me of college and becoming really close with a couple of friends’ families. In many ways their behavior would highlight how dysfunctional my own family was — but sometimes, these “perfect” wealthy families would blow me away with how dysfunctional and classless THEY were!

[Anonymous]

My friend’s ex-fiancé was kicked out around age 15 when she came out. Her mom sent her to live with her dad who sent her to conversion therapy. It got bad enough for her there that her mom eventually let her move back as long as she pretended she was over her “phase” of being gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother had me move to my dad’s house when I was 13, because I’d run away, because my stepdad at the time had slapped me across the face.

I asked to move back when I was 15 but she said no. My bio dad was sexually abusive.

Good times

I hope all of them live in poverty now and you get to choose their nursing home.

+ 1000

[Anonymous]

My mother and stepfather kicked me out when I was a junior in high school. I moved in with my best friend and her parents. It was great for me to get away -- my mother and stepfather were both abusive alcoholics. (Very common for abusive parents to scapegoat a kid.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was kicked out when I was 16. My mother had been saying I'd be kicked out then for years, so I had saved as much money as possible and although was hoping she'd forget or change her mind, I was also sort of prepared. She just REALLY deeply wasn't into being a parent, and I cramped her style. I couch-surfed between 4-5 friends. I'd never stay more than a month at a time - I figured that was as long as anyone could stand me. I'd go home to "visit" and pick up mail maybe every other month? But it was like for an hour or two max. Got a full scholarship to college, left and never told my mother where I was going. When I told her I was applying to schools and needed info from her she laughed and said I'd never get through school without getting knocked up. At that point I'd spent over a year hearing how other parents talked to their kids and that comment crystalized to me how much she was unsupportive.

Wow. I'm so sorry that you didn't have a supportive parent. You were a truly impressive kid and she really missed out.