54. Yes, all the time because they are part of the road not taken and I'm a person who, even after making a decision, continues to wonder if I made the right decision. Last night I dreamed about the guy I wanted to marry but didn't because we were too young. |
Look up the concept of "ghost ships" by Cheryl Strayed. It will help you get past this and live in the present. |
All the time because I married him. Met at college at age 18. |
Yeah, there’s a guy I dated in grad school that I think about frequently. I remember our conversation vividly and imagine him being in my current life. I’ve had no contact with him since our parting, 32 years ago. I always wonder about what could have been… |
How did he wind up? |
Often. One died of AIDS. One disappeared from the modern internet and turns out to have joined an ultra-conservative religious sect. One is internationally famous in his field. |
I only had four big relationships before my wife - two subsequently discovered they were gay, one disappeared from our circle of friends and her family and we think she may have died and one lives a couple states away and is living a lush life. |
I’m divorced and my exes in their age 17-25 forms are the starting lineup in my spank bank. |
You are an awful person. |
I also had four: #1 - successful career, two kids, husband seems like a nice guy #2 - very tomboyish, divorced, would not be surprised if she discovered she was gay #3 - highly successful, divorced, no kids, has battled cancer multiple times. Incredible drive and perseverance. #4 - wonderful person, separated, two daughters who adore her. I have no idea if any of them have thought about me in years. |
I do. Mostly the thought is "bullet dodged," but yeah, I do. |
I'm FB friends with the guy I was seeing a few years before I met my husband. He's really nice (still!), happily married, has kids, and I am so glad I am not married to him because his life includes living somewhere I'd never want to live and spending a lot of time and money on a hobby I'd hate. But his wife is super supportive of it. |
Rarely. But one ex often looks at my linked in. |
Not fondly. At all. |
I look people up, out of curiosity and since I am not on Facebook. When I see old bf’s now, I am SO glad I don’t stay with them! Yuck! |