Friends from public school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your child will lose their friends primarily because they will suck at math. Private schools get crushed in math completions by public schools.

Who’s better at spelling?

[Anonymous]

My kid switch to private for 9th grade. She has remained friends with her friends in public school…some of them have been friends since elementary school. It’s only been 1 year so I don’t know if it will last but I definitely encourage it, they come to our house, she goes to their house; now school is out they meet up some weekends for movies, pool etc.

[Anonymous]

Moved in 3rd. He’s still best friends with his buddy from public. We arrange play dates a few times a month. It’s not difficult at all.

[Anonymous]

Friends switch to different schools after sixth grade. They’ve stayed in touch and now heading to college.

[Anonymous]

My son switched to Sidwell in 5th grade and he did lose his friends

[Anonymous]

My son switched to Sidwell in 5th grade to 6th and he did lose his friends. He tried to stay in touch with his friends from public but they got snotty and told him” go hang out with you rich friends”.

[Anonymous]

Parents of neighborhood kids starting to act differently towards me; the neighborhood kids are fine towards DC

[Anonymous]

DC switched to public for middle school and has lost most of his public school friends. It seemed to be out of sight, out of mind.

[Anonymous]

Our DS switched in 4th and has maintained a lot of those friendships 3 years later, but who knows if that will last through middle school and beyond. Unless you make it a huge priority to schedule get-togethers and/or there's something keeping them together (like the neighborhood or sports teams), there's a very good chance they will drift apart.

[Anonymous]

Rich people and poor people need to stay with their own kind. Gross!

[Anonymous]

DD is in public. Friends who left for private pre-phones faded away. Friends who left post-phone have stayed friends. Group texts seem to keep friend closer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD kept ALL of hers and even added some because her old friend group expanded in middle school. And it’s been 4 years now. The way we did it was to make sure they all still attended summer camp together; including each other in birthday parties; almost daily hangouts at the neighborhood pool and group text. Also as the mom, still check in with the moms to keep that relationship friendly.

Same here. Yes, my child is very friendly, but I also think it's important to never badmouth the "other" choice. We say nice things about the public school, and so far, his public school friends haven't snarked about his private. One snotty remark can really mess things up.

[Anonymous]

It is largely a timing issue. As PP noted, lots of friend groups change significantly in public middle school whether you change schools from your friends or not.

[Anonymous]

My kids had 2 good friends switch to private. They stayed friends for a few years but eventually faded. This may have more to do with age and interests. My kids are now 12 and 14.

[Anonymous]

there are only so many hours in the week and friendships fade if you don't spend time together.
It's very difficult to spend hours with old friends and new.