Is there such a thing as a live-out aupair? If so, how can I try to hire a live-out au pair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. Thank you!

Where is the au pair supposed to live? Obviously, you have no idea of what au pair means.

Again, in Europe it’s not uncommon for au pairs to live independently in a house or apartment of their own. This gives everyone a little breathing space and privacy at the end of the day. But of course, the host family pays for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. Thank you!

Where is the au pair supposed to live? Obviously, you have no idea of what au pair means.

Again, in Europe it’s not uncommon for au pairs to live independently in a house or apartment of their own. This gives everyone a little breathing space and privacy at the end of the day. But of course, the host family pays for that.

This could certainly work in the US, too, if OP is willing to pay for an apartment for her au pair. Is this along the lines of what you were looking for, OP?

If you want an au pair to live in a separate apartment and want her to pay for it, that would not work. This would be a nanny.

[Anonymous]

It's called a NANNY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Is it possible to hire a white, educated, young, European child care provider that I can pay like 800 dollars a month for full time care but also not have to provide room and board and, like, not see her when I don't want to? TIA everyone"

This is funny. Do they have to be young? I can work 20 hours a month for the $800, and ofcourse I live on my own.

[Anonymous]

Sure.

You could get an au pair that lives out of the house if you provide them with a separate furnished apartment that you pay for.

A nanny would be much cheaper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Is it possible to hire a white, educated, young, European child care provider that I can pay like 800 dollars a month for full time care but also not have to provide room and board and, like, not see her when I don't want to? TIA everyone"

This is funny. Do they have to be young? I can work 20 hours a month for the $800, and ofcourse I live on my own.

It's not 20 hours per month. It's for up to 45 hours per week. So more like 180+ hours per month for that $800.

[Anonymous]

My (American) colleague was an au pair in Paris years ago. She lived in a very small apt. owned by the family a short distance away from the family apt. She loved the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My (American) colleague was an au pair in Paris years ago. She lived in a very small apt. owned by the family a short distance away from the family apt. She loved the situation.

That’s great for her, but in the USA aupairs are legally required to live in the same residence/property as their host family or both parties are in violation of the terms of the program.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. Thank you!

Where is the au pair supposed to live? Obviously, you have no idea of what au pair means.

Again, in Europe it’s not uncommon for au pairs to live independently in a house or apartment of their own. This gives everyone a little breathing space and privacy at the end of the day. But of course, the host family pays for that.

I don’t think it is common. Most people don’t happen to have a spare apartment!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. Thank you!

Where is the au pair supposed to live? Obviously, you have no idea of what au pair means.

Again, in Europe it’s not uncommon for au pairs to live independently in a house or apartment of their own. This gives everyone a little breathing space and privacy at the end of the day. But of course, the host family pays for that.

In Europe the au pair legal, wage and visa issues are completely different than US.

Having live in Europe, with young kids, those are for "au pairs" that are INTERNAL to the EU, and thus NOT in need of a any work visa. if you are from Bulgaria or Poland you already do not need any kind of visa to simply work in France or Denmark be it as a waiter, or 200k a year executive.
The only implication or regulation for Au Pairs in EU is identical to hiring a living 50 year old nanny: you are allowed to pay either "au pair" or live-in nanny, under minimum wage with a specific room and board scheduled value bring it up to minimum wage.

In the US the au pair is a visa designation. So that is very different right off the bat. An au pair in the US cannot do any other work and in fact are specifically forbidden from doing any childcare/nanny work or even any baby sitting whatsoever for anyone else.

Why? because if they did that drives down wages of actual nannies and baby sitters. If the au pair is not living with you, then you can't be certain they are not also waitressing or babysitting other kids which is illegal - and you -- as visa sponsor you can be steeply fined.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. Thank you!

Where is the au pair supposed to live? Obviously, you have no idea of what au pair means.

Again, in Europe it’s not uncommon for au pairs to live independently in a house or apartment of their own. This gives everyone a little breathing space and privacy at the end of the day. But of course, the host family pays for that.

I don’t think it is common. Most people don’t happen to have a spare apartment!

It actually is quite common (in Europe), especially among the wealthy families who usually have au pairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My (American) colleague was an au pair in Paris years ago. She lived in a very small apt. owned by the family a short distance away from the family apt. She loved the situation.

+1
This was my daughter's situation. She had her own, independent studio apartment in a very nice building not far from the family's home. She absolutely loved the independence.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. Thank you!

Where is the au pair supposed to live? Obviously, you have no idea of what au pair means.

Again, in Europe it’s not uncommon for au pairs to live independently in a house or apartment of their own. This gives everyone a little breathing space and privacy at the end of the day. But of course, the host family pays for that.

In Europe the au pair legal, wage and visa issues are completely different than US.

Having live in Europe, with young kids, those are for "au pairs" that are INTERNAL to the EU, and thus NOT in need of a any work visa. if you are from Bulgaria or Poland you already do not need any kind of visa to simply work in France or Denmark be it as a waiter, or 200k a year executive.
The only implication or regulation for Au Pairs in EU is identical to hiring a living 50 year old nanny: you are allowed to pay either "au pair" or live-in nanny, under minimum wage with a specific room and board scheduled value bring it up to minimum wage.

In the US the au pair is a visa designation. So that is very different right off the bat. An au pair in the US cannot do any other work and in fact are specifically forbidden from doing any childcare/nanny work or even any baby sitting whatsoever for anyone else.

Why? because if they did that drives down wages of actual nannies and baby sitters. If the au pair is not living with you, then you can't be certain they are not also waitressing or babysitting other kids which is illegal - and you -- as visa sponsor you can be steeply fined.

Yes, and that was the point of the above post describing how Europeans often handle their au pairs. Of course the US is a different situation.

[Anonymous]

We’re not talking about Europe. We are talking about the United States and probably the DC area. Stop trying to bring Europe into this it’s so stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re not talking about Europe. We are talking about the United States and probably the DC area. Stop trying to bring Europe into this it’s so stupid.

Technically it answers OPs question. They could move to Europe.