Black tie preferred

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should write to whoever is hosting the event:

"I'm sure you didn't mean to suggest evening attire for a daytime wedding. Perhaps you intended to say 'Morning Dress'?"

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should write to whoever is hosting the event:

"I'm sure you didn't mean to suggest evening attire for a daytime wedding. Perhaps you intended to say 'Morning Dress'?"

This. Cringe.

[Anonymous]

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I agree, and I love the Anthropologie one.


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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Define “day time”? Is the event expected to conclude after 6 or 7 pm?

No one wears morning dress anymore in the US except super duper posers. That’s absurd and the response above is cringy and trying too hard.

The rules have slipped quite a bit in the US - black tie can include dark suit with white shirt and conservative tie or tux and as long as the event concludes around dusk or after, it’s pretty normal.

Semi-formal wear looks and feels ridiculous at 3 or 4pm, but unless you’re going to go change between service and reception (which is an option!), you’ll feel under dressed at a semi-formal evening reception.

If the entire thing concludes before dusk (especially if it concludes significantly before dusk or begins before 2 or 3 in the afternoon), I’d wear a seasonally/climate appropriate suit and conservative tie and white shirt. You could easily get away with a dark, light weight suit. Just make sure it’s well tailored and a muted (if any) pattern.

Asking someone to wear a full tux at 1pm in Georgia in July, for example, is grounds for immediate imprisonment. But if it’s Manhattan, you’re inside the whole time, and the event concludes at 5 in November… wear a tux.

I think what's try hard is this post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been to many black-tie optional weddings, but preferred? Yikes. This is for a daytime wedding. What would you wear??

Black tie unless you cannot. It is what they prefer.

[Anonymous]

Here you go. This is all wedding guest attire: https://normakamali.com/collections/wedding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A long gown that’s flowy, strapless, asymmetric, or some combo.

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those. are really pretty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define “day time”? Is the event expected to conclude after 6 or 7 pm?

No one wears morning dress anymore in the US except super duper posers. That’s absurd and the response above is cringy and trying too hard.

The rules have slipped quite a bit in the US - black tie can include dark suit with white shirt and conservative tie or tux and as long as the event concludes around dusk or after, it’s pretty normal.

Semi-formal wear looks and feels ridiculous at 3 or 4pm, but unless you’re going to go change between service and reception (which is an option!), you’ll feel under dressed at a semi-formal evening reception.

If the entire thing concludes before dusk (especially if it concludes significantly before dusk or begins before 2 or 3 in the afternoon), I’d wear a seasonally/climate appropriate suit and conservative tie and white shirt. You could easily get away with a dark, light weight suit. Just make sure it’s well tailored and a muted (if any) pattern.

Asking someone to wear a full tux at 1pm in Georgia in July, for example, is grounds for immediate imprisonment. But if it’s Manhattan, you’re inside the whole time, and the event concludes at 5 in November… wear a tux.

I think what's try hard is this post.

Lol. If you say so. I assumed this was a man posting bc a. It was in the off topic area, and b. Women generally are going to know what to wear based on season and time of day anyway - so black tie vs morning dress is the same thing to them - it just means formal.

Men can’t do anything with morning dress and like 90% of their spouses would have no idea what that means for men, bc less than 1% of the population owns a morning suit and less than 5% probably even know one exists. It’s just not a thing here. I outlined the considerations for how to make a decision along the lines of how I make my decision when I see “black tie” for something other than an evening event, which is quite common - despite the snarky snobby attempt at being high brow with the morning dress comment.

[Anonymous]

I was recently at a party where fancy gals from DC, Philly, NYC, and Chicago were in unison re: black tie meaning long black gowns. Period.

I was a bit surprised because I had never assumed wearing a gown in an actual color was a no no. The conversation started when folks made fun of women who showed up in red or pink (bold colors) gowns at recent black tie weddings in Philly and NYC. (Definitely not poseur weddings; the events were north of $500k events).

I would feel stupid wearing a black gown at a daytime event…any event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define “day time”? Is the event expected to conclude after 6 or 7 pm?

No one wears morning dress anymore in the US except super duper posers. That’s absurd and the response above is cringy and trying too hard.

The rules have slipped quite a bit in the US - black tie can include dark suit with white shirt and conservative tie or tux and as long as the event concludes around dusk or after, it’s pretty normal.

Semi-formal wear looks and feels ridiculous at 3 or 4pm, but unless you’re going to go change between service and reception (which is an option!), you’ll feel under dressed at a semi-formal evening reception.

If the entire thing concludes before dusk (especially if it concludes significantly before dusk or begins before 2 or 3 in the afternoon), I’d wear a seasonally/climate appropriate suit and conservative tie and white shirt. You could easily get away with a dark, light weight suit. Just make sure it’s well tailored and a muted (if any) pattern.

Asking someone to wear a full tux at 1pm in Georgia in July, for example, is grounds for immediate imprisonment. But if it’s Manhattan, you’re inside the whole time, and the event concludes at 5 in November… wear a tux.

I think what's try hard is this post.

Lol. If you say so. I assumed this was a man posting bc a. It was in the off topic area, and b. Women generally are going to know what to wear based on season and time of day anyway - so black tie vs morning dress is the same thing to them - it just means formal.

Men can’t do anything with morning dress and like 90% of their spouses would have no idea what that means for men, bc less than 1% of the population owns a morning suit and less than 5% probably even know one exists. It’s just not a thing here. I outlined the considerations for how to make a decision along the lines of how I make my decision when I see “black tie” for something other than an evening event, which is quite common - despite the snarky snobby attempt at being high brow with the morning dress comment.

DP. You are making yourself sound worse with every post. You are the snob in assuming that only 5% of the population knows what morning dress is. Even if that were true, I can assure you that a much larger proportion of the population (although, clearly not OP’s friend) does understand that black tie is inappropriate for any daytime event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was recently at a party where fancy gals from DC, Philly, NYC, and Chicago were in unison re: black tie meaning long black gowns. Period.

I was a bit surprised because I had never assumed wearing a gown in an actual color was a no no. The conversation started when folks made fun of women who showed up in red or pink (bold colors) gowns at recent black tie weddings in Philly and NYC. (Definitely not poseur weddings; the events were north of $500k events).

I would feel stupid wearing a black gown at a daytime event…any event.

Anyone who feels it is necessary to spend $500k on a wedding is the definition of poseur.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was recently at a party where fancy gals from DC, Philly, NYC, and Chicago were in unison re: black tie meaning long black gowns. Period.

I was a bit surprised because I had never assumed wearing a gown in an actual color was a no no. The conversation started when folks made fun of women who showed up in red or pink (bold colors) gowns at recent black tie weddings in Philly and NYC. (Definitely not poseur weddings; the events were north of $500k events).

I would feel stupid wearing a black gown at a daytime event…any event.

They made fun of women in red and pink gowns? What weirdos.