If you have adult kids with kids of their own

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband keeps in touch regularly with our son, DIL, grand children. By text and phone.
I don't text or phone. Husband's DIL is a b.

You sound like the evil stepmom. No one wants your phone-call.

[Anonymous]

I see my daughter often. We have 3 young grandchildren.

My mother was unemployed and an addict. My brother and I took care of her all of my adult life. It was at times a burden but she was thrust in a difficult circumstance and I did what I could. She passed away two years ago because she had no will to live.

My father was horribly abusive and thankfully abandoned us. He absolutely hated me - going to some of the best schools in the country and achieving me made him hate me all the more. I had no relationship with him and recently learned he passed away a year ago.

Needless to say it is important to me to break the cycle. Been married 39 years and lead a quiet, but prosperous debt free life.

[Anonymous]

I'm an AC in my 40s with children. Neither of my parents ever call me. I've stopped calling them too, I text occasionally. They NEVER initiate contact. We see them maybe 6x a year, they live 15 minutes away.

ILs - DH texts with them frequently. I text with MIL weekly. We see them every couple of weeks. DC sees them more as they will spend one on one time with her. They live 30 minutes away.

[Anonymous]

adult child w/kids. talk to my parents all the time, at least daily with my mom. my DH texts w/his parents and talks weekly. See them regularly about monthly each.

[Anonymous]

All of our kids are local. We seen them frequently and text with them multiple times a day. We also help out more with the grandkids than anyone we know. We’re very lucky.

[Anonymous]

My daughter, every day. But the relationship is superficial and about grandkids
My DIL is very other day. We typically FaceTime so we get to see grandchild. She shares personal things and fills me in on how son is doing.
A son who we talk to about every 2 weeks.
Not perfect, but it works.

[Anonymous]

ACs with kids - one set of parents local, other international (Asia)
See local grandparents 2-3x/ week, international grandparents once a year.
AC calls international parents at least twice a week - once a week to catch up sans kids, once a week Facetime to see grandkids.

[Anonymous]

I'm an adult child with two children. We have a family zoom once/week where we all get on and check up on Mom who lives alone in another state. We have family friends who are our age who live within a mile of Mom and they check in on her every couple of days. If it is just general news, we talk at the family Zoom. If there is anything special going on, if we have any extra news or if we are planning a family get-together, we may talk between the family Zoom.

[Anonymous]

Adult child here. Talk to my mom every day and my dad multiple times a week. We see them at least weekly, sometimes more. They help out with our kids more than anyone we know and we are very lucky. I also talk to MIL at least weekly and make sure she sees us and the kids often too. DH also talks to her weekly but I’m a better conversationalist.

FIL texts us every now and then and talks to DH on the phone a handful of times a year. We see them at least once a year, sometimes twice. We don’t live far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see my daughter often. We have 3 young grandchildren.

My mother was unemployed and an addict. My brother and I took care of her all of my adult life. It was at times a burden but she was thrust in a difficult circumstance and I did what I could. She passed away two years ago because she had no will to live.

My father was horribly abusive and thankfully abandoned us. He absolutely hated me - going to some of the best schools in the country and achieving me made him hate me all the more. I had no relationship with him and recently learned he passed away a year ago.

Needless to say it is important to me to break the cycle. Been married 39 years and lead a quiet, but prosperous debt free life.

Congratulations! Not easy to do. I hope you found peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an AC in my 40s with children. Neither of my parents ever call me. I've stopped calling them too, I text occasionally. They NEVER initiate contact. We see them maybe 6x a year, they live 15 minutes away.

ILs - DH texts with them frequently. I text with MIL weekly. We see them every couple of weeks. DC sees them more as they will spend one on one time with her. They live 30 minutes away.

That must be hard to have kids grandparents not show interest. They are missing out because being a grandparent is a beautiful thing. Pure joy. It’s not you. They are odd.

[Anonymous]

My kids are 10 and 13. DH’s parents only came to visit when each was born. We haven’t seen them since. DH and kids communicate via phone or FaceTime occasionally.

[Anonymous]

I facetime with my parents almost every day (maybe 5-6x/week). They haven't met my daughter (2 yr. old) in person yet. (Live across the country)

Pre-child there was much less contact. And pre-COVID we had this strange pissing contest going on where they would get offended that I wasn't calling them enough and I would be like if you want to talk - just call me like I do when I need to talk to you (I just didn't need to talk to them very often.) COVID broke that stupid stand-off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 28 year old daughter with 2 sons and we see her everyday/multiple times a day since she lives in the apartment above us.

Aww- I would love this!