Feel uneasy in relationship sometimes

[Anonymous]

Op, I believe what you are feeling is not uncommon and it’s good that you are both in love with each other. It’s a beautiful thing but don’t overthink it and let the life play out. I am not sure what level of anxiety you are feeling but you are recognizing how you are feeling and you would check yourself before it becomes annoying or needy.

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I don’t agree with this. I don’t think there is anything like too needy. It’s dynamics and every relationship is different; it depends what two of you find balance at.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t agree with this. I don’t think there is anything like too needy. It’s dynamics and every relationship is different; it depends what two of you find balance at.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for all the responses. One thing I was thinking is why I am feeling it this way about this relationship. I have been in love before but never felt uneasy/slight anxious about a relationship before.

Because now you're old enough and experienced enough not to take this gift of love for granted?

Op again. This is very true. She is very important for me and I make sure that we are happy together by putting in good efforts and being thoughtful about what she would need or like. She’s the same way too and I would like to spend more time with her but we got busy jobs and I have 10 and 11 years old with 1/2 custody.

If you have 1/2 custody, how are you able to see her all the weekends? Is she introduced to your kids/stays overnights at your place when you have kids? It would be 2 weekends a month otherwise

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for all the responses. One thing I was thinking is why I am feeling it this way about this relationship. I have been in love before but never felt uneasy/slight anxious about a relationship before.

Because now you're old enough and experienced enough not to take this gift of love for granted?

Op again. This is very true. She is very important for me and I make sure that we are happy together by putting in good efforts and being thoughtful about what she would need or like. She’s the same way too and I would like to spend more time with her but we got busy jobs and I have 10 and 11 years old with 1/2 custody.

If you have 1/2 custody, how are you able to see her all the weekends? Is she introduced to your kids/stays overnights at your place when you have kids? It would be 2 weekends a month otherwise

Op here. Yes, kids were introduced and we make plans and try to see each other every weekend, if possible.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for all the responses. One thing I was thinking is why I am feeling it this way about this relationship. I have been in love before but never felt uneasy/slight anxious about a relationship before.

Because now you're old enough and experienced enough not to take this gift of love for granted?

Op again. This is very true. She is very important for me and I make sure that we are happy together by putting in good efforts and being thoughtful about what she would need or like. She’s the same way too and I would like to spend more time with her but we got busy jobs and I have 10 and 11 years old with 1/2 custody.

If you have 1/2 custody, how are you able to see her all the weekends? Is she introduced to your kids/stays overnights at your place when you have kids? It would be 2 weekends a month otherwise

Op here. Yes, kids were introduced and we make plans and try to see each other every weekend, if possible.

It seems pretty rushed, particular if the kids are young.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for all the responses. One thing I was thinking is why I am feeling it this way about this relationship. I have been in love before but never felt uneasy/slight anxious about a relationship before.

Because now you're old enough and experienced enough not to take this gift of love for granted?

Op again. This is very true. She is very important for me and I make sure that we are happy together by putting in good efforts and being thoughtful about what she would need or like. She’s the same way too and I would like to spend more time with her but we got busy jobs and I have 10 and 11 years old with 1/2 custody.

If you have 1/2 custody, how are you able to see her all the weekends? Is she introduced to your kids/stays overnights at your place when you have kids? It would be 2 weekends a month otherwise

Op here. Yes, kids were introduced and we make plans and try to see each other every weekend, if possible.

It seems pretty rushed, particular if the kids are young.

It is what it is and can’t be undone and I am sure OP and his gf hv thought about it before introducing kids.

Op, try to check your feelings and understand her as well. That’s all you could do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for all the responses. One thing I was thinking is why I am feeling it this way about this relationship. I have been in love before but never felt uneasy/slight anxious about a relationship before.

You’re divorced, which means you’ve lived and had your heart broken, shattered. Your heart is trying to protect itself. Of course there is some anxiety. I’d be worried if you didn’t feel that way.

Just take it a day at a time and see how it goes.

[Anonymous]

That’s fine, I understand. We do talk/FT everyday or a couple of times a day and I look forward to a call with her or check my phone if she has texted since she is an OT nurse. My life is not getting affected by this but feeling very uneasy.

[Anonymous]

Op, it’s normal to feel this way as long as it’s not as bad as paranoia.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t agree with this. I don’t think there is anything like too needy. It’s dynamics and every relationship is different; it depends what two of you find balance at.

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Disagree. OP comes off very needy. Not a good look.

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Yes, it’s normal. Pull back just the teeniest bit and let her pursue you a little.

dont do this. it's game playing and pulling back rarely makes a woman likes a man more. typically the opposite.

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Yes, it’s normal. Pull back just the teeniest bit and let her pursue you a little.

dont do this. it's game playing and pulling back rarely makes a woman likes a man more. typically the opposite.

Yes, I agree. This is not a good sign to build a strong healthy relationship so don’t do it

[Anonymous]

I remember feeling like this about my DH when we were dating. I told him. He fixed it.

12 years and two kids later we are so happy.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t agree with this. I don’t think there is anything like too needy. It’s dynamics and every relationship is different; it depends what two of you find balance at.

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Disagree. OP comes off very needy. Not a good look.

Disagree. How is he coming off needy in this case? He’s discussing it privately on this forum and something that’s his honest feelings.