Son Gaining weight in College

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 6'2" and 200 pounds, he probably still needs to put on more weight.

This. He was incredibly underweight at 175 before. He is probably finally done with puberty and needs to fill out.

But what you do about this is NOTHING. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. He is an adult, his weight is not your problem. Your role in teaching him about food and nutrition is over.

[Anonymous]

In my mothers time it was called the freshman 10.. In my time it was more like the freshman. 20. Leave it alone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter how identifiable OP's DS is because this happens to so many college freshman - who cares if you can google his name (which is a creepy thing to do, btw).

OP, there isn't anything you can do. The Freshman 15 is really the Freshman 30. He'll come around in time.

My parents gently approached me about my weight gain in college after I did a study abroad. To be honest, I don't think I realized how much weight I had gained because I had never gained weight before.

It's because someone he knows he doesn't need to google him could read this. And they will know his mommy is very upset about his beer gut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this post is so high on details that, if true, make your son easily identifiable.

I was thinking the same. My kids are at Madison ...

[BurkeLakeDad]

While I wouldn't of included all the details the OP did. It would be incredibly hard to find out who this kid is. Anyone who is trying to do that would have to do a lot of cross-referencing and would be creepy for doing so.

I can tell the OP is new to DCUM just based off the writing. None of the common abbreviations are used.

Now, getting back to the topic. Gaining weight in college is incredibly common for men, especially at state schools with big party cultures. My son graduated college a year ago and came home roughly 100lbs bigger than when he started. Now, my son was 6' 150lbs when he began college and I assume he's sitting around 250 currently.

I understand the OP's pain with this, my son was very active in high school (he ran cross country in the fall and played lacrosse in the spring) and was always super lean growing up. At 6', 150lbs, he was underweight and I was glad to see him come home about 30lbs heavier after his freshman year.

The issue is that once they develop these bad eating habits/don't care about the weight gain, it just gets worse. My son joined a fraternity as well and the amount of partying/constant junk food eating did nothing good. He ended up graduating college at roughly 250lbs due to continuing to eat like crap and not caring about the weight gain. My son works out but it is mostly lifting, so he has a lineman type build now which helps him carry the weight well.

OP, I never said anything to my son about this though. He is an adult and is well-adjusted. Like another poster said, be grateful you have what seems like a great kid!

[Anonymous]

LOL, this weight gain was inevitable. He went from a super active lifestyle with a strict routine and parents who controlled his diet to unlimited access to fattening foods, a massive supply of beer, and no parents to tell him no/control his diet.

Since your kid was very athletic in high school, he probably developed a big appetite.

Combine the big appetite he had with significantly less physical activity and you end up with weight gain.

I wouldn't say anything to him about at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter how identifiable OP's DS is because this happens to so many college freshman - who cares if you can google his name (which is a creepy thing to do, btw).

OP, there isn't anything you can do. The Freshman 15 is really the Freshman 30. He'll come around in time.

My parents gently approached me about my weight gain in college after I did a study abroad. To be honest, I don't think I realized how much weight I had gained because I had never gained weight before.

It's because someone he knows he doesn't need to google him could read this. And they will know his mommy is very upset about his beer gut.

PP here. Good point. I skimmed over the extreme details when I read the OP. Now, looking back at it, wow, that's a lot of unnecessary detail. Suspiciously so.

[Anonymous]

Way too many identifiable details in this post. As a former JMHS parent with a child who graduated last year, I'm pretty sure I know who this is.

[Anonymous]

Wake and bake!

[Anonymous]

Oh FFS. Of course he knows and can tell. But you do nothing.

[Anonymous]

He’s fine. Back off. Get a hobby and stop obsessing over his weight.

[Anonymous]

These to call it the “freshman 15”
Totally normal.

[Anonymous]

Lecturing people about weight gain has failed 100x more times than it has helped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my mothers time it was called the freshman 10.. In my time it was more like the freshman. 20. Leave it alone

I’m sure it was never called the “freshman 10.” Freshman 15 exists as a term because it’s alliterative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 6'2" and 200 pounds, he probably still needs to put on more weight.

Huh? While I hardly think he's fat, he's on the higher end of a healthy weight range and technically overweight.