D1 recruit with 2nd thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Students are notoriously unreliable narrators. I would check with the advising office before making any final decisions.

IME the advisors know even less.

[Anonymous]

My DD was a highly touted D1 recruit to a school she wouldn’t have gotten into otherwise and she quit after freshman year. Lost a scholarship but still there, they will not kick him out, happens a lot.

[Anonymous]

You want your kid to quit before he even tries?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You want your kid to quit before he even tries?

Can you read?

“told DS to attend college and stick to biomedical engineering major and if things get too hard with both academic and athletic, just quit the team and focus on academics. The university is not going to expel him, can they?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You want your kid to quit before he even tries?

Can you read?

“told DS to attend college and stick to biomedical engineering major and if things get too hard with both academic and athletic, just quit the team and focus on academics. The university is not going to expel him, can they?”

Try this

“ you can do both, I know you are smart enough, a hard worker and have good time management skills. Don’t listen to teammates, most can’t do engineering and not do a sport. It’s gonna be hard but you can do it.”

[Anonymous]

You are not taking into account the serious negative consequences of taking up a slot and then quitting for academic reasons. The other team members can be absolutely brutal. If this is the plan going in, make sure your DS has a full social circle outside his sport team.

[Anonymous]

Serious negative social* consequences ^^

[Anonymous]

The coach is doing what nearly every coach does….sure, you can play the sport and study engineering…but my job isn’t dependent on your major). It is dependent on how well the team performs…and possibly the team graduation rate.

If you are struggling in STEM…the easiest solution is to switch to a different major…because coach isn’t altering the workout schedule.

[Anonymous]

Serious negative social* consequences ^^

Except that there are no negative social consequences, especially serious ones. My DC committee to play soccer at an Ivy. Fewer than half of DC’s recruiting class player all four years, and one quit after arriving on campus freshman year , before attending a practice. Exactly no one cared (except maybe the coach).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Serious negative social* consequences ^^

Except that there are no negative social consequences, especially serious ones. My DC committee to play soccer at an Ivy. Fewer than half of DC’s recruiting class player all four years, and one quit after arriving on campus freshman year , before attending a practice. Exactly no one cared (except maybe the coach).

i know this happens all the time but it seems so messes up the at athlete gets recruited to an ivy (woule absolutely never have gotten in otherwise) and then quits. talk about privilege!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Serious negative social* consequences ^^

Except that there are no negative social consequences, especially serious ones. My DC committee to play soccer at an Ivy. Fewer than half of DC’s recruiting class player all four years, and one quit after arriving on campus freshman year , before attending a practice. Exactly no one cared (except maybe the coach).

i know this happens all the time but it seems so messes up the at athlete gets recruited to an ivy (woule absolutely never have gotten in otherwise) and then quits. talk about privilege!!!

I think it is rare that someone spends all their time becoming a recruited athlete with the intention of getting into a top school and then never playing.

More commonly, a recruit shows up Freshman year to find that the team has a very talented Freshman class and looks like you will get little to no playing time throughout college. It's not like you can go the coach and say "hey, I know I will only play 10% of the time...so can I only go to 25% of the practices?" Obviously, you are there if starters get injured...but it is a ton of time and effort for very little tangible benefit.

Ivy league schools are primarily recruiting Summer prior to senior year in HS and Fall of senior year...it's not like other D1 schools with sports scholarships where you can see lots of committed kids prior to your applying. You really won't know how the cards fall until you show up as a Freshman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You want your kid to quit before he even tries?

Can you read?

“told DS to attend college and stick to biomedical engineering major and if things get too hard with both academic and athletic, just quit the team and focus on academics. The university is not going to expel him, can they?”

Try this

“ you can do both, I know you are smart enough, a hard worker and have good time management skills. Don’t listen to teammates, most can’t do engineering and not do a sport. It’s gonna be hard but you can do it.”

I like OPs wording better b/c if the kid struggles you've set yourself up as someone who might not be in their corner, and dogging their peers shouldn't be part of a motivational strategy.

[Anonymous]

There are supports for athletes at D1 schools. Tutors plus priority access to scheduling classes. Your student should consider taking a lighter class schedule and take additional classes during the summer, especially his freshman year. What season is your child’s sport?

[Anonymous]

My kid was being recruited for her sport, but she wanted to major in engineering, so she decided not to play in college. She is now at an Ivy and working incredibly had for the engineering major. No way she could have done both. She plays on the club team (is captain) and can't even make it to all of the club practices. She is doing very well in her engineering classes, though, and landed a great internship this summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are supports for athletes at D1 schools. Tutors plus priority access to scheduling classes. Your student should consider taking a lighter class schedule and take additional classes during the summer, especially his freshman year. What season is your child’s sport?

Academic support is for students who struggle with typical college level classes and, most likely, would be of no benefit to an engineering major.