what normal age gap?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is that weird? They're both adults.

She has a 10 year old son, and they are expecting a kid. They been together since for over a year, and they will be having a kid in November.

You should have led with this OP. She had a baby at 19?
They are expecting a second child out of wedlock?
A 25 year old with a 10 year old and an infant?
There is no way this end well.

The horror!

Done clutching your pearls yet, pp?

Say what you want. If that was my kid I’d be incredibly disappointed. You can live your life divorced, estranged, broken families, step kids, second marriages, you do you if your lack of values makes you happy, carry on. But I hope my kid never meets dates or marries one of yours.

And?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is that weird? They're both adults.

She has a 10 year old son, and they are expecting a kid. They been together since for over a year, and they will be having a kid in November.

Have you met her?
Is she ready to raise 3 children?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is that weird? They're both adults.

She has a 10 year old son, and they are expecting a kid. They been together since for over a year, and they will be having a kid in November.

You should have led with this OP. She had a baby at 19?
They are expecting a second child out of wedlock?
A 25 year old with a 10 year old and an infant?
There is no way this end well.

The horror!

Done clutching your pearls yet, pp?

Say what you want. If that was my kid I’d be incredibly disappointed. You can live your life divorced, estranged, broken families, step kids, second marriages, you do you if your lack of values makes you happy, carry on. But I hope my kid never meets dates or marries one of yours.

And?

No AND…. Reread the bold and the whole paragraph. My point made. Full stop.

[Anonymous]

Celebrated 22 wonderful years of marriage earlier this week. She is 48, I am 66.

[Anonymous]

The age gap isn’t an issue.

The new baby isn’t an issue.

The issue is the instant family. Many 25 year olds, especially men, are not ready to raise someone else’s 10 yo child.

[Anonymous]

Lol I was married by that age and my spouse is 10+ years older. Y'all need to chill

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Celebrated 22 wonderful years of marriage earlier this week. She is 48, I am 66.

Uh huh. This and other responses have answered your unwritten question. There is currently a double standard in our world. It is generally okay for the man to be older; it is slightly weird for the woman to be older. But usually people just think about it for a moment, process that it is unusual, and move on with their lives. Kind of like when they meet a more extreme age gap, like 65 year old man and his 40 year old wife -- they think a moment about their automatic biased thoughts and then move on easily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:is a 4 year age gap okay? in the 20s so its legal, but is it strange for a guy to be 25 and the woman to be 29?

Few years is fine, 5+ is questionable, 10+ is a gamble. This goes for all genders.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:is a 4 year age gap okay? in the 20s so its legal, but is it strange for a guy to be 25 and the woman to be 29?

Few years is fine, 5+ is questionable, 10+ is a gamble. This goes for all genders.

No it isn’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is that weird? They're both adults.

She has a 10 year old son, and they are expecting a kid. They been together since for over a year, and they will be having a kid in November.

This is odd.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is that weird? They're both adults.

She has a 10 year old son, and they are expecting a kid. They been together since for over a year, and they will be having a kid in November.

You should have led with this OP. She had a baby at 19?
They are expecting a second child out of wedlock?
A 25 year old with a 10 year old and an infant?
There is no way this end well.

Relationships like that are very common outside of areas like this & among LMC folks.

And FYI, nobody cares about “wedlock” in 2023.

Not common among educated and intact families at all. At least 75% of world's population still cares about wedlock.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is that weird? They're both adults.

She has a 10 year old son, and they are expecting a kid. They been together since for over a year, and they will be having a kid in November.

This is odd.

Nothing about this is "odd".

What's odd is that you'd think it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:is a 4 year age gap okay? in the 20s so its legal, but is it strange for a guy to be 25 and the woman to be 29?

Few years is fine, 5+ is questionable, 10+ is a gamble. This goes for all genders.

No it isn’t.

It is for under 30. Obviously not so much for people marrying late or remarrying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is that weird? They're both adults.

She has a 10 year old son, and they are expecting a kid. They been together since for over a year, and they will be having a kid in November.

This is odd.

Nothing about this is "odd".

What's odd is that you'd think it is.

Well, considering how most DCUM parents think 25 year olds aren't even ready to get engaged to single people their own age, a guy with undeveloped prefrontal cortex having a child with an older single mother of an elementary school boy certainly sounds odd not norm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is that weird? They're both adults.

She has a 10 year old son, and they are expecting a kid. They been together since for over a year, and they will be having a kid in November.

This is odd.

Nothing about this is "odd".

What's odd is that you'd think it is.

Well, considering how most DCUM parents think 25 year olds aren't even ready to get engaged to single people their own age, a guy with undeveloped prefrontal cortex having a child with an older single mother of an elementary school boy certainly sounds odd not norm.

Obviously not among the DCUM crowd, in which people can’t fathom someone having a baby before their 30th birthday.