Good riddance to high school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even if they hated it, they may feel nostalgic.

Also, how do you know so much about another kid’s HS experience?

I hated it. No nostalgia then or now. HS was just like a job. Something I had to do to get into college.

[Anonymous]

Decline the invitation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The issue is that the mom in this situation is all about showing off that her DC is graduating from an expensive and exclusive high school that she insisted the kid attend. This party is all about the mom and her living out her dreams. The poor kid has been miserable in this school and in the life that her crazy mom has pushed. I'm sure that the kid will not enjoy this party. I just hate to be a part of the mom's BS performance.

You sound like you hate the mom. If you don't want to do, then don't. If you want to be nice, drop by with a card and some cash and wish the kid well. That's it!

[Anonymous]

I agree with you OP. It's really a shame because childhood should be some of the best times of your life. Somewhere along the lines we forger to let kids be kids. It's even worse with middle school/junior high kids because they're even younger.

[Anonymous]

This is strange. Grad party is celebrating that it’s over so really it’s a positive whether you loved or hated high school.

Mom might have invited adults if the kid themselves don’t have a lot of friends.

Go or don’t I doubt they care.

[Anonymous]

My now junior hate high school and can’t wait to get out. However he’s invited to a Ton of graduation parties because he plays on a sport team and this is what happens. I think he’s be so sad it I didn’t throw him a party. I don’t know where you live, but I’m in a decent nova zip code and these kids rack in so much money. Who doesn’t want that? Plus we are celebrating my sonS hard work. This kid has busted his as academically and we are so so proud of his effort, his accomplishments and the fact that he didn’t need any help at all from us. We aren’t having a sad party. This is a happy part to celebrate a new beginning.

You sound like you are about as fun as a wet blanket. It’s no wonder you raised an eeyore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The issue is that the mom in this situation is all about showing off that her DC is graduating from an expensive and exclusive high school that she insisted the kid attend. This party is all about the mom and her living out her dreams. The poor kid has been miserable in this school and in the life that her crazy mom has pushed. I'm sure that the kid will not enjoy this party. I just hate to be a part of the mom's BS performance.

I detect you are jealous and this is actually all about you. You definitely need to decline.

[Anonymous]

Same! I hated high school and did not want a party! But it was more bc I had social difficulties. I went to college and had an amazing time, made so many friends and was so sad when it was over.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's a real outliner who makes high school the worst years of their lives. Stop being so dramatic and maybe that will help them be less dramatic.

Or ... it'll just be the worst years of their lives -- so far.

Seriously, everyone knows this is junior high.

Right? I’m going over essay ideas with my son and was asking him what his most embarrassing moments were and every single one was in middle school. He told me so many things that he did and felt that were so outrageous that we ended the conversation laughing so hard we could hardly breathe. He stated that 7th grade was the absolute worst of the worst and there was nothing good about it. Looking back though it really was so hilarious the way he was describing things like the cafeteria, PE, recess and his accidental farts during tests 🤣🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

High school is tough but its part of that stage of life that is biologically painful. I think for graduation it’s important tho acknowledge/ say goodbye to the people you grew up with since you won’t really experience that with anyone else again. It doesn’t necessarily have to be about fake wishes or faking friendship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The issue is that the mom in this situation is all about showing off that her DC is graduating from an expensive and exclusive high school that she insisted the kid attend. This party is all about the mom and her living out her dreams. The poor kid has been miserable in this school and in the life that her crazy mom has pushed. I'm sure that the kid will not enjoy this party. I just hate to be a part of the mom's BS performance.

How could you possibly know this? You may be entirely right. But kids relationships with their families are really not things that can be evaluated well from the outside. If you don’t want to participate, don’t go. But don’t trash talk a family. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it sad that so many kids who really didn't enjoy high school are made to feel pressured to act like they're going to miss what were actually the worst years of their lives. What can those of us adults who get pressured by clueless parents into attending high school grad parties do to be less of a thorn in the side of these kids who could care less about their high school and can't wait to get the hell out of Dodge? Is there an acceptable way to acknowledge this without being rude to the parents? I really think that going away parties make so much more sense for these kids.

Is your kid planning on attending? If so, show support and also attend.

If it's a party that your kid is dying not to attend - then give him/her an out and explain your family has other things to do - and since you're clearly sympathetic about high school ugliness, treat your kid to something so she/he has a good reason for bailing on the un-desired high school party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My now junior hate high school and can’t wait to get out. However he’s invited to a Ton of graduation parties because he plays on a sport team and this is what happens. I think he’s be so sad it I didn’t throw him a party. I don’t know where you live, but I’m in a decent nova zip code and these kids rack in so much money. Who doesn’t want that? Plus we are celebrating my sonS hard work. This kid has busted his as academically and we are so so proud of his effort, his accomplishments and the fact that he didn’t need any help at all from us. We aren’t having a sad party. This is a happy part to celebrate a new beginning.

You sound like you are about as fun as a wet blanket. It’s no wonder you raised an eeyore.

I don’t think you’re being honest. Kids who hate it usually do so because it’s boring, or they have no friends or they struggle with learning disabilities.

[Anonymous]

You can always offend someone just because you want to celebrate your own child's accomplishments. Nothing wrong with trying to make something happy out of something that may not be happy times.
If you don't want to go, don't go.

[Anonymous]

I say if you feel there is not point, then don't go. No need to put other people down. They are people. You go to support people. Not like she's inviting you to her pet's graduation from training school.