Anyone ever called an admissions office to try to get an offer back that they released?

[Anonymous]

OP, I hear you. I've been second-guessing my DS's pick every day. Literally makes me feel sick sometimes. I've thought about explaining to DS why we should reach out to other school to see if he can change his decline. DS ultimately picked the one he liked but I feel it should have been a different school. I'm afraid he'll regret it and it will affect the rest of his life and he doesn't appreciate what he's turning down. DH said let him choose, it's his life. That seems like a big weight on a teen. I wish we had been more involved in the process, but we had a very hands off approach to try to let him make the decision himself. There's nothing that really excites me about school DS picked and the differences between his top 2 choices have become stark since making the decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hear you. I've been second-guessing my DS's pick every day. Literally makes me feel sick sometimes. I've thought about explaining to DS why we should reach out to other school to see if he can change his decline. DS ultimately picked the one he liked but I feel it should have been a different school. I'm afraid he'll regret it and it will affect the rest of his life and he doesn't appreciate what he's turning down. DH said let him choose, it's his life. That seems like a big weight on a teen. I wish we had been more involved in the process, but we had a very hands off approach to try to let him make the decision himself. There's nothing that really excites me about school DS picked and the differences between his top 2 choices have become stark since making the decision.

Wish that I knew the schools involved which prompted such a strong reaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can call and ask, if the school did not meet their enrollment goal maybe they would say yes.

This. What do you have to lose, OP? I’d give it a try. Be very nice and compliment the admissions process and say your child has major regrets.
I did something similar for preschool, and it worked.

+1

I did this eons ago when I turned down a T10 school for an OOS where I thought I had full OOS tuition scholarship for 4 years---when the OOS played games and said it's really only in-state but we will give you OOS for 1 year, then only in-state, I got on phone with the AO and a specific professor at the T10 school and begged and worked to get back in. They immediately offered me the acceptance, but it took 2-3 days to get me back my FA in full (finances were the reason I had accepted the other offer---It would cost me less and I didn't have money so needed my full FA award back to attend the T10). 3 days later I had everything back in place. And I'm so thankful every day that it turned out this way---I got a much better education at a place I really wanted to attend.
If you don't ask you won't know.

Probably thought that you would become a state resident after one year. Some states allow this & some do not.

[Anonymous]

No, but had the opposite occur with 2 schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine tried this, turned up at their offices and begged in person. They told her to go away.

lol, would have loved to see this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can call and ask, if the school did not meet their enrollment goal maybe they would say yes.

This. What do you have to lose, OP? I’d give it a try. Be very nice and compliment the admissions process and say your child has major regrets.
I did something similar for preschool, and it worked.

+1

I did this eons ago when I turned down a T10 school for an OOS where I thought I had full OOS tuition scholarship for 4 years---when the OOS played games and said it's really only in-state but we will give you OOS for 1 year, then only in-state, I got on phone with the AO and a specific professor at the T10 school and begged and worked to get back in. They immediately offered me the acceptance, but it took 2-3 days to get me back my FA in full (finances were the reason I had accepted the other offer---It would cost me less and I didn't have money so needed my full FA award back to attend the T10). 3 days later I had everything back in place. And I'm so thankful every day that it turned out this way---I got a much better education at a place I really wanted to attend.
If you don't ask you won't know.

Probably thought that you would become a state resident after one year. Some states allow this & some do not.

Maybe. But even back then it was not easy to do. Point is I called admissions and asked and they got me my offer back in place within 3 days. Stressful 3 days, because at that point, I did not like being jerked around by the school I had accepted at. I wanted the T10 school but was choosing solely based on finances (when you grow up poor you tend to do that) and the fact I was planning to graduate debt free from the OOS school with what I had been "promised".

[Anonymous]

Your DD needs to make the call, not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hear you. I've been second-guessing my DS's pick every day. Literally makes me feel sick sometimes. I've thought about explaining to DS why we should reach out to other school to see if he can change his decline. DS ultimately picked the one he liked but I feel it should have been a different school. I'm afraid he'll regret it and it will affect the rest of his life and he doesn't appreciate what he's turning down. DH said let him choose, it's his life. That seems like a big weight on a teen. I wish we had been more involved in the process, but we had a very hands off approach to try to let him make the decision himself. There's nothing that really excites me about school DS picked and the differences between his top 2 choices have become stark since making the decision.

It doesn't need to excite you. Just DS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DD needs to make the call, not you.

X100000. Your photo will be up on a hidden bulletin board of crazy parents if you do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hear you. I've been second-guessing my DS's pick every day. Literally makes me feel sick sometimes. I've thought about explaining to DS why we should reach out to other school to see if he can change his decline. DS ultimately picked the one he liked but I feel it should have been a different school. I'm afraid he'll regret it and it will affect the rest of his life and he doesn't appreciate what he's turning down. DH said let him choose, it's his life. That seems like a big weight on a teen. I wish we had been more involved in the process, but we had a very hands off approach to try to let him make the decision himself. There's nothing that really excites me about school DS picked and the differences between his top 2 choices have become stark since making the decision.

It doesn't need to excite you. Just DS.

I think that you should reread the entire post. Seems as though the parent is concerned about career prospects while the student may have been attracted to the social life. But, without knowing the schools involved and the specific reasons, we are just guessing. Would have made an interesting thread.

Sometimes parents know best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DD needs to make the call, not you.

X100000. Your photo will be up on a hidden bulletin board of crazy parents if you do it.

Or maybe the student's picture is already posted to the bulletin board of crazy student decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hear you. I've been second-guessing my DS's pick every day. Literally makes me feel sick sometimes. I've thought about explaining to DS why we should reach out to other school to see if he can change his decline. DS ultimately picked the one he liked but I feel it should have been a different school. I'm afraid he'll regret it and it will affect the rest of his life and he doesn't appreciate what he's turning down. DH said let him choose, it's his life. That seems like a big weight on a teen. I wish we had been more involved in the process, but we had a very hands off approach to try to let him make the decision himself. There's nothing that really excites me about school DS picked and the differences between his top 2 choices have become stark since making the decision.

It doesn't need to excite you. Just DS.

I think that you should reread the entire post. Seems as though the parent is concerned about career prospects while the student may have been attracted to the social life. But, without knowing the schools involved and the specific reasons, we are just guessing. Would have made an interesting thread.

Sometimes parents know best.

I have no idea where you spun that theory from, but it doesn't seem supported by the actual post.

As someone who doesn't love my kid's choice and is shutting up about it, I invite the unhappy parent to join me in our lane, where we should stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hear you. I've been second-guessing my DS's pick every day. Literally makes me feel sick sometimes. I've thought about explaining to DS why we should reach out to other school to see if he can change his decline. DS ultimately picked the one he liked but I feel it should have been a different school. I'm afraid he'll regret it and it will affect the rest of his life and he doesn't appreciate what he's turning down. DH said let him choose, it's his life. That seems like a big weight on a teen. I wish we had been more involved in the process, but we had a very hands off approach to try to let him make the decision himself. There's nothing that really excites me about school DS picked and the differences between his top 2 choices have become stark since making the decision.

Wish that I knew the schools involved which prompted such a strong reaction.

NP. Probably nothing in particular. It's a very specific and individual thing.

One man's trash...

[Anonymous]

Some schools need warm bodies & are still accepting applications. If it’s one of those, you’ll be able to get in!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless a 5 star recruited athlete, your kid is just part of a puzzle they put together every year. They have a series of other people that they will turn to when DC declines.

Admissions has become very sophisticated over the past 3 decades, it is a numbers game. You decline and they quickly move on.

Not sure what the obsession with athletes on here is as of late. But athletes do get turned down or even ghosted all the time. Being an athlete is no guarantee.