Kid called stupid at school for not getting into AAP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm at a center school in the Chantilly pyramid and a group of kids called my kid stupid for not getting into AAP. I didn't apply btw because I don't want all that academic pressure on my kid.
Has this happened at your school? My kid came home very upset. When will the insanity end? Would you report this?

You are not your child. You seriously want to report someone calling your kid a name? Your time will be better spent shoring your kid up and teaching them to let things roll off their back.

NP here. Why not report? Do you think schools already know what's going on, or that they are fine with name-calling? Of course they want to know. Writing an email takes 5 min.

[Anonymous]

It’s not the kid who is stupid here

[Anonymous]

I've found that when kids in AAP make fun of those who are not in AAP it almost is always coming from the parents. That is, there are some parents who very aggressively push for their kids to get into AAP and make it known to their kids that they are "stupid" (or otherwise lacking) if they fail to get into AAP. These kids frankly just parrot what their parents are saying to them. If the kids get into AAP, they are the ones calling other kids stupid. If the kids don't get into AAP, they feel bad and insecure about themselves and their abilities. It's a vicious and sad cycle.

I don't think there's any problem with doing test prep or trying to put one's kid in the best possible light when it comes to AAP evaluations. I just don't understand parents who obsess about AAP and pass on the same obsession over AAP to their kids. It's not good for your own kids and it's not good for everyone else's kids.

[Anonymous]

I was literally terrified my child (who got in) would make others feel not so great and made such a huge deal of NOT bragging or telling others until he knew they themselves were in. I'm so sorry that happened!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What race is your kid? What race are the tormentors? I have heard Indian-American kids teasing other Indian-American kids in ES and MS about magnet programs. MS is especially toxic.

This toxicity comes from the parents and their biases.

Well, as OP mentioned the race(s) involved - White, Hispanic and Asian - it seems that it is very common. Best course of action would be to make a stink about it - teacher, administrator, counselor and PTA. This behavior is not to be tolerated. In my DC's school - PTA, admin, parents would send out emails on parent groups and remind kids to not share results or tease one another. before the results came out. This one email reminder saw that no such meanness happened. It can change the culture of the school.

My son is at McNair, which has a large Indian population. He is in AAP and has complained of similar issues.

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Of course he has. They all are, those in GE. They all are insulted, to some degree, by some of the kids in AAP. Some speak it, some don't. All the students definitely "know" there is "a smart class".

Sorry parents. It's known.

[Anonymous]

Just commiserating. When my kid was in 2nd grade after the AAP decisions came out, his friend in the neighborhood told him that he wished he was smarter so that they could still go to the same school together and be friends.

He was borderline and ended up getting Level III services. We had no local Level IV; in hindsight, he probably would have been one of principal placed students in LL IV.

What ticked me off the most was that he didn't have that option because it's not standardized. It really rubbed me the wrong way that we had a friend who didn't have to go through that because they had LL IV. Why do some neighborhoods have to get broken up while others don't?

Once again, in hindsight, it was ok that he didn't get into AAP, he's rocking it in HS. But what is still not acceptable is that this is still happening to kids 7 years later. Pick an AAP model, centers or LL IV, that way every school gets the same treatment. And don't have GenEd at center schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just commiserating. When my kid was in 2nd grade after the AAP decisions came out, his friend in the neighborhood told him that he wished he was smarter so that they could still go to the same school together and be friends.

He was borderline and ended up getting Level III services. We had no local Level IV; in hindsight, he probably would have been one of principal placed students in LL IV.

What ticked me off the most was that he didn't have that option because it's not standardized. It really rubbed me the wrong way that we had a friend who didn't have to go through that because they had LL IV. Why do some neighborhoods have to get broken up while others don't?

Once again, in hindsight, it was ok that he didn't get into AAP, he's rocking it in HS. But what is still not acceptable is that this is still happening to kids 7 years later. Pick an AAP model, centers or LL IV, that way every school gets the same treatment. And don't have GenEd at center schools.

They are rolling out LL IV to every ES. Presumably the idea is to then get rid of center schools but so far, too many parents are continuing to choose the center schools over LL IV for that to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just commiserating. When my kid was in 2nd grade after the AAP decisions came out, his friend in the neighborhood told him that he wished he was smarter so that they could still go to the same school together and be friends.

He was borderline and ended up getting Level III services. We had no local Level IV; in hindsight, he probably would have been one of principal placed students in LL IV.

What ticked me off the most was that he didn't have that option because it's not standardized. It really rubbed me the wrong way that we had a friend who didn't have to go through that because they had LL IV. Why do some neighborhoods have to get broken up while others don't?

Once again, in hindsight, it was ok that he didn't get into AAP, he's rocking it in HS. But what is still not acceptable is that this is still happening to kids 7 years later. Pick an AAP model, centers or LL IV, that way every school gets the same treatment. And don't have GenEd at center schools.

They are rolling out LL IV to every ES. Presumably the idea is to then get rid of center schools but so far, too many parents are continuing to choose the center schools over LL IV for that to happen.

Do you know when the LLV pilot starts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just commiserating. When my kid was in 2nd grade after the AAP decisions came out, his friend in the neighborhood told him that he wished he was smarter so that they could still go to the same school together and be friends.

He was borderline and ended up getting Level III services. We had no local Level IV; in hindsight, he probably would have been one of principal placed students in LL IV.

What ticked me off the most was that he didn't have that option because it's not standardized. It really rubbed me the wrong way that we had a friend who didn't have to go through that because they had LL IV. Why do some neighborhoods have to get broken up while others don't?

Once again, in hindsight, it was ok that he didn't get into AAP, he's rocking it in HS. But what is still not acceptable is that this is still happening to kids 7 years later. Pick an AAP model, centers or LL IV, that way every school gets the same treatment. And don't have GenEd at center schools.

They are rolling out LL IV to every ES. Presumably the idea is to then get rid of center schools but so far, too many parents are continuing to choose the center schools over LL IV for that to happen.

Do you know when the LLV pilot starts?

It should be finished now or by next year, at every ES. I believe there was a 3 year rollout and it started during the pandemic. But I may have lost track of time and there may be a couple years left.

Some of the smaller ES or newer ES are using the cluster model when they roll out LL IV.

[Anonymous]

The AAP GIRLS kids at my daughter's school have been down right awful. The principal and counselors are aware of the issues but they can't entirely stop it. The school lis local level 4, not center.

[Anonymous]

“Base kid” was a taunt at our AAP Center school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was literally terrified my child (who got in) would make others feel not so great and made such a huge deal of NOT bragging or telling others until he knew they themselves were in. I'm so sorry that happened!

My AAP kid has been targeted all year by kids for being in the program. It's been hell for my 5th grader who just wants to be friends with everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just commiserating. When my kid was in 2nd grade after the AAP decisions came out, his friend in the neighborhood told him that he wished he was smarter so that they could still go to the same school together and be friends.

He was borderline and ended up getting Level III services. We had no local Level IV; in hindsight, he probably would have been one of principal placed students in LL IV.

What ticked me off the most was that he didn't have that option because it's not standardized. It really rubbed me the wrong way that we had a friend who didn't have to go through that because they had LL IV. Why do some neighborhoods have to get broken up while others don't?

Once again, in hindsight, it was ok that he didn't get into AAP, he's rocking it in HS. But what is still not acceptable is that this is still happening to kids 7 years later. Pick an AAP model, centers or LL IV, that way every school gets the same treatment. And don't have GenEd at center schools.

They are rolling out LL IV to every ES. Presumably the idea is to then get rid of center schools but so far, too many parents are continuing to choose the center schools over LL IV for that to happen.

Do you know when the LLV pilot starts?

It should be finished now or by next year, at every ES. I believe there was a 3 year rollout and it started during the pandemic. But I may have lost track of time and there may be a couple years left.

Some of the smaller ES or newer ES are using the cluster model when they roll out LL IV.

Oh good. Parents at ALL schools can complain about their kids being shamed by the AAP kids. That should make it better.