DH 'Remembers' Things that Didn't Happen - Dementia?

[Anonymous]

Just download the SAGE test from the University of Ohio and do your own screening. People who refuse generally have cognitive issues.

[Anonymous]

I would really want him to see a neurologist. This is not classic dementia so it seems like there might be something else going on. Maybe a tumor. Maybe something else. Is he on thyroid medication? That can get out of whack and chase random delusions that are quite vivid and detailed.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's going to be tough to get him to a neurologist even though he often says, 'I feel like I am losing my mind', like when he can't find his keys or he overlooks a simple detail and will pick up the wrong item at the grocery store.

[Anonymous]

I would be more concerned it is another health condition rather than dementia OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be more concerned it is another health condition rather than dementia OP.

Such as?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, the thing that concerns me is that he remembers details of the 'carwash' like the name and the colors of the signage. The carwash NEVER existed. In fact a carwash with the business name never existed according to the Internet and I am 100% certain it never existed. DH is unwavering that he remembered the name, location, signage and when it was there. It never existed.

He's 65. The car wash was probably torn down before it was documented on the internet.

65 years is a long time to keep track of every single detail. The car wash was probably on a different corner. Are you sure you're not gaslighting him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, the thing that concerns me is that he remembers details of the 'carwash' like the name and the colors of the signage. The carwash NEVER existed. In fact a carwash with the business name never existed according to the Internet and I am 100% certain it never existed. DH is unwavering that he remembered the name, location, signage and when it was there. It never existed.

He's 65. The car wash was probably torn down before it was documented on the internet.

65 years is a long time to keep track of every single detail. The car wash was probably on a different corner. Are you sure you're not gaslighting him?

I am not trying to win the argument or gaslight him. I would like him to a least say OK maybe I am incorrect based on the facts. It's scary that he can't use logic and facts to discern a hallucination from reality.

[Anonymous]

Why the hell are you arguing about this? Is this the only example? Let it go. He's misremembering, got the names/corners wrong (or you are). So what. Happens to all of us. This is not a sign of anything. Geez. you both are stupidly stubborn over nothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, the thing that concerns me is that he remembers details of the 'carwash' like the name and the colors of the signage. The carwash NEVER existed. In fact a carwash with the business name never existed according to the Internet and I am 100% certain it never existed. DH is unwavering that he remembered the name, location, signage and when it was there. It never existed.

He's 65. The car wash was probably torn down before it was documented on the internet.

65 years is a long time to keep track of every single detail. The car wash was probably on a different corner. Are you sure you're not gaslighting him?

I am not trying to win the argument or gaslight him. I would like him to a least say OK maybe I am incorrect based on the facts. It's scary that he can't use logic and facts to discern a hallucination from reality.

Describing this as not being able to use logic and facts to discern a hallucination from reality is REALLY REALLY extreme. So if fact-checking him on the internet. Jesus, who does that to win an argument and prove someone wrong? You could be the issue here, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why the hell are you arguing about this? Is this the only example? Let it go. He's misremembering, got the names/corners wrong (or you are). So what. Happens to all of us. This is not a sign of anything. Geez. you both are stupidly stubborn over nothing.

It's not the only incident. Today he told me that a stranger said something to him that is so off the wall and crazy that I don't believe they said it. He must have misunderstood them or imagined it. He swears it's true, but I wasn't there so I can't say for certain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why the hell are you arguing about this? Is this the only example? Let it go. He's misremembering, got the names/corners wrong (or you are). So what. Happens to all of us. This is not a sign of anything. Geez. you both are stupidly stubborn over nothing.

It's not the only incident. Today he told me that a stranger said something to him that is so off the wall and crazy that I don't believe they said it. He must have misunderstood them or imagined it. He swears it's true, but I wasn't there so I can't say for certain.

You are right to be concerned, OP. I would call his primary care doctor to have him evaluated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, the thing that concerns me is that he remembers details of the 'carwash' like the name and the colors of the signage. The carwash NEVER existed. In fact a carwash with the business name never existed according to the Internet and I am 100% certain it never existed. DH is unwavering that he remembered the name, location, signage and when it was there. It never existed.

He's 65. The car wash was probably torn down before it was documented on the internet.

65 years is a long time to keep track of every single detail. The car wash was probably on a different corner. Are you sure you're not gaslighting him?

I am not trying to win the argument or gaslight him. I would like him to a least say OK maybe I am incorrect based on the facts. It's scary that he can't use logic and facts to discern a hallucination from reality.

Describing this as not being able to use logic and facts to discern a hallucination from reality is REALLY REALLY extreme. So if fact-checking him on the internet. Jesus, who does that to win an argument and prove someone wrong? You could be the issue here, OP.

You are actually gaslighting OP. Who is better able to detect noticeable changes than a spouse? That is why doctors ask close family members if they notice differences in physical or cognitive functioning. The worst thing you can do is ignore or downplay significant changes. Don't wait to get this checked.

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned about a brain tumor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, the thing that concerns me is that he remembers details of the 'carwash' like the name and the colors of the signage. The carwash NEVER existed. In fact a carwash with the business name never existed according to the Internet and I am 100% certain it never existed. DH is unwavering that he remembered the name, location, signage and when it was there. It never existed.

Hmm. So what time period was the car wash supposed to have existed in?

OP here.
He didn't quote the time frame, but he said he used the carwash when he owned a certain vehicle, so that gave it a time period of 10-15 years ago. The building that is standing on the corner now is likely 40+ years old. We didn't live here 40+ years ago. Somehow, DH cannot see the facts don't add up and he is sticking by his story. It's so concerning that his logic is not kicking in.

I think he is mixing up locations, which would not concern me too much, but it might be worth it to have him see a doctor anyway.

Np. Mixing up locations, but why would he stick to his story so stubbornly?

[Anonymous]

How long has this been going on for? Could be something less complicated like an infection. Maybe time to have some blood work done. That was the case for my Dad. My Mom was way more complicated and I ended up sending a letter into her doctor before one of her visits listing my concerns.