What does Fairfax County Police do when a student is reported for making a threat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember being at a meeting as school (a middle school counselor had monthly meetings open to all parents with speakers). One of the topics was bullying and a mom was complaining about a girl bullying her son. In the conversation, it came out that her son had a crush on the girl and the other girls were teasing her. So, she bullied the boy. It was clear to me that the boy brought it on himself by his actions. The girl reacted. The mom just did not "get" that the problem orgininated with her son. Certainly, the girl should not have been ugly to him, but at 11-12 years old, she was in an uncomfortable situation.

Explain. Seriously. Explain. How does having a crush on someone, bring it upon themselves to be bullied? What kind of f*cked up logic is that? You have feelings for someone so that gives them the right to treat you poorly? What kind of crappy relationship dynamics are you perpetuating?

He constantly told everyone how much he liked her. He followed her around. The mom admitted this.
Closer to stalking than a crush from afar.

[Anonymous]

So many kids now say that they are being bullied when it was just that another kid was mean. It’s not okay to be mean, but it’s different than being bullied. I had parents who could not understand the distinction.

If the elementary schools would be stricter, it would help so much. They got rid of letting teachers use systems like earning tickets for positive behavior when Responsive Classroom came out. Some kids, especially little ones, don’t have internal controls, and using external controls like earning tickets or whatever gives the kid some behavioral structure, so you can get the class settled down and the kids can learn and be successful, so then you can withdraw the tickets or whatever. So many young kids just full on out of hand in schools now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many kids now say that they are being bullied when it was just that another kid was mean. It’s not okay to be mean, but it’s different than being bullied. I had parents who could not understand the distinction.

If the elementary schools would be stricter, it would help so much. They got rid of letting teachers use systems like earning tickets for positive behavior when Responsive Classroom came out. Some kids, especially little ones, don’t have internal controls, and using external controls like earning tickets or whatever gives the kid some behavioral structure, so you can get the class settled down and the kids can learn and be successful, so then you can withdraw the tickets or whatever. So many young kids just full on out of hand in schools now.

+1

I taught back in the day before the responsive classroom. Three are some good points to it--but it is unrealistic to expect it to work for all kids. I think most good teachers have always used a lot of positive reinforcement Also, I don't think tak9ng away recess is a good idea--but a minute or two "against the fence" can work wonders when everyone else started to play.

[Anonymous]

Nathan

[Anonymous]

As to the OP's point regarding bullying being a factor in threats being made: There is NO acceptable reason to threaten violence. Bullying needs to be addressed, but it is not an excuse for threats. I think schools should be like airports. You make any kind of a threat, you're out. No more airplane for you (or school in this case).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not dealing w/ it or covering it up

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As to the OP's point regarding bullying being a factor in threats being made: There is NO acceptable reason to threaten violence. Bullying needs to be addressed, but it is not an excuse for threats. I think schools should be like airports. You make any kind of a threat, you're out. No more airplane for you (or school in this case).

That’s right. It’s ok for the bully to physically assault someone just as long as he doesn’t threaten to do it. Bully victims are not supposed to threaten to fight back but it’s ok if they knock the bully out. The school will do little to nothing over a fight. But if you threaten to fight, the police will be called. Well done fcps!